During the Three Kingdoms period, Lü Meng was a soldier. Due to his bravery in combat, he was discovered by Zhang Zhao, an important minister of Soochow, so he was promoted relatively quickly. But at the same time, his shortcomings of being uneducated and illiterate also restricted him.

One day after the Battle of Chibi, Sun Quan said to Lu Meng: "Xiao Luzi, although you are very proficient in your business, don't forget to study." Lu Meng said: "I am too busy to take care of it! Sun Quan said earnestly: "No matter how busy you are, how can you be as busy as me? I make time to study every day, why can't you?" Sun Quan's words immediately made Lu Meng angry. Qiao, less than 2 years later, when Lu Su passed by Lu Meng's station, he met him. As a result, Lu Meng analyzed the situation of the Three Kingdoms in detail and had profound insights. Lu Su was so shocked that he said it was impossible. But Lu Meng said calmly: "After three days of separation, I treat each other even more with admiration!" Lu Su then went to the hall to pay homage to Lu Meng's mother, and became good buddies with Lu Meng!

This is what happened during the Three Kingdoms period, and is also the origin of the idiom "A scholar should be treated with admiration after seeing each other for three days." It has long been regarded as a model textbook for encouraging students to learn. But the question is, is it really that simple? In fact, this can be said to be the most brain-burning idiom during the Three Kingdoms period, and what it reveals is by no means the only message of "encouraging learning".

1. From "If you don't enter the tiger's den, how can you catch the tiger's cubs" to "Three days apart, treat each other with admiration"

When Lu Meng was only about 15 years old, he secretly Follow your brother-in-law Deng Dang to destroy the bandits. Deng Dang discovered it and informed Lu Meng's mother, asking her to persuade Lu Meng to stop risking his life like this. Unexpectedly, when Lu Meng heard his mother's persuasion, he immediately said: "Poverty is hard to live in. If you get rid of mistakes, you can get rich. If you don't explore the tiger's den, you will catch the tiger's cubs!"

That is, the poor I've had enough of life and my low social status. If I want to get rid of the current embarrassment, I must take the risk of "not exploring the tiger's den to catch the tiger's cubs"? Mom, please stop trying to persuade me!

This is one source of "If you don't enter the tiger's den, how can you catch the tiger's cubs"? The other source is "The Biography of Ban Chao"! The reason why we talk about the 15-year-old Lu Meng first, in order to get rid of the embarrassment, and issued this generous saying is to explain why Lu Meng suddenly changed from the so-called "non-study" to a "Confucian general" in less than 2 years. Because the transformation is so amazing.

So this is the effect of "determination". Lu Meng made up his mind when he was 15 years old. Therefore, instead of talking about determination, talking about working hard to study and study is really a castle in the air.

2. The information Sun Quan brought to Lü Meng through his personal conversation

Lü Meng was discovered by Zhang Zhao, a lonely and important minister, and everyone knew that Zhang Zhao advocated surrender. Therefore, when Sun Quan won the Battle of Chibi, he would inevitably suppress Zhang Zhao, a veteran of Tuogu. That's why Sun Quan publicly expressed his disappointment with Zhang Zhao at a banquet, and history books also record that "after the Battle of Chibi, Zhang Zhao lost power."

So when did Sun Quan talk to Lu Meng? It was after the Battle of Chibi. It was obvious that Lu Meng at this moment belonged to the generals in Zhang Zhao's force. That's why Sun Quan personally tested Lu Meng, but at the beginning he said, "You must study harder."

Lü Meng immediately understood the message, but was very confused and said that "there are many things in the army." The subtext is, it’s not that I don’t want to learn, but what will happen if I learn it? This is actually a matter of "attitude". Lu Meng's confusion sent a message to Sun Quan: Who should I follow?

Sun Quan immediately used his own example to tell Lu Meng - look at me! It should be noted that when a boss uses himself as an example and asks you to make progress, anyone with a little social experience will understand: This is to cultivate you. Therefore, Lu Meng suddenly cheated!

Do you feel abnormal? That's right! Because from Sun Quan's perspective, Lu Meng was the talent he wanted to poach from Zhang Zhao. It can be seen from this that before the Battle of Chibi, Sun Quan's position was very difficult. After all, Sun Ce said to Zhang Zhao before his death: "If Zhongmou does nothing, you will take it yourself!"

From Lu Meng's perspective, this is actually a choice, whether to continue to follow Zhang Zhao who has lost power, or to immediately join Sun Quan's account. That is, how do you take sides now! Lu Meng chose Sun Quan without hesitation, and in less than 2 years, he completed his studies! In addition to the role of determination and the motivational role of the boss's hints, is Lu Meng cheating?

Lu Meng didn’t cheat at all! Because who can believe that a person who said "If you don't explore the tiger's den, you will find its cubs" at the age of 15, is an ignorant and ignorant person? Lu Meng was just pretending to be stupid - he knew about Zhang Zhao's gain before the Battle of Chibi, and he also knew about Zhang Zhao's loss after the Battle of Chibi! He only has one chance left!

It should be noted that no matter which group, the ebb and flow of various forces is happening all the time. If an irreversible change of power occurs and the boss of the winning side suddenly comes to talk to you, it actually means that it is time for you to express your stance! At this moment, it’s either/or, there’s no way to sit on the fence!

3. Lu Su’s confirmation

Lu Su was almost the only person Sun Quan could rely on and trust before and after the Battle of Chibi. I'm afraid no one can refute this.

So when Lu Su suddenly appeared in front of Lu Meng in less than 2 years, everyone knew what it meant. This was the final assessment!

So Lu Meng took the lead and asked Lu Su: "Now we are too close to Guan Yu, and Guan Yu is a general of Xionghu. Commander, what should you do?" Is this abnormal again? A subordinate suddenly asked the direct leader about his general policy. Is he being ignorant?

But the result was that Lu Meng was shocked after the conversation with Lu Su, so Lu Su paid a visit to Lu Meng's mother, which was like becoming brothers of the opposite sex. Why did Lu Su go to visit Lu Meng? Why did Lu Meng ignorantly ask his superiors? Do you still need to explain it now? Starting from Sun Quan's persuasion to Lu Su's final confirmation, this is a complete set of operations before personnel appointments.

Whether Lu Meng is a boss or not is not a problem.

As mentioned before, at the age of 15, he could say "If you don't explore the tiger's den, you will catch the tiger's cubs." Do you believe that he is an illiterate and uneducated person?

So Sun Quan’s real purpose of persuading Lü Meng to learn from him is actually a talent activation process! This process has been used for thousands of years, so it is said that "a scholar has been separated for three days, and he should be treated with admiration". It is the most brain-burning idiom during the Three Kingdoms period. You should not just look at the surface, but also understand it. The password behind...