How to correctly educate children to learn to endure hardships

Allowing children to endure some hardships and hardships is a preparation for their future life journey to be smooth and smooth, and to prepare for their energy and momentum. The following is the method I share with you to educate your children to learn to endure hardship. I hope it can help you!

Methods to educate your children to learn to endure hardship

1. Parents must have the awareness to let their children endure hardship.

For example, when a child is learning to walk, don’t always support her. Careful parents can find that those children who are always supported by their parents to practice walking take longer to learn to walk than those who practice walking by themselves. Children take longer. Parents should be willing to let their children endure these hardships:

1. When your child reaches the age of five or six, you should ask him to help you carry something, sweep the floor and wipe the table, and tell him how to save electricity, and also teach him how to save electricity. They can be taught to organize their own rooms.

2. When children go to school, tell them some simple safety knowledge and ask them to save money on stationery.

3. Let your children clean the toilet during festivals and learn that smell and dirt are part of life.

4. Let children do rough and heavy work appropriately, knowing that their parents need their care.

5. When children go to middle school, they have to manage their own living expenses. There is only so much money. If you overspend, you will starve.

6. Cultivate children’s various life skills so that they have strong hands-on ability.

7. When the child is about fifteen years old, he should participate in more social activities outside, exercise himself, get in touch with society, and cultivate a spirit of hardship.

2. Children must be independent

Cultivate children’s independent will from an early age and reduce their dependence on others. In other words, the children are responsible for their own affairs.

At home, you should complete your own daily life independently, clean your own room, clean up your own belongings, etc. When it comes to learning, you should think and complete independently, and you must be psychologically independent.

Parents cannot think about problems on behalf of their children. They need their children to think for themselves and respect their opinions, so that they can think independently and have their own opinions, thus laying the foundation for their future success.

3. Parents take the initiative to endure hardships with their children

You must know that parents who only know how to enjoy are unlikely to cultivate a child who can endure hardships. Therefore, parents can go for morning jogs and participate in sports with their children, such as playing ball together, swimming together, and traveling together. This can increase the opportunities for communication with their children and also allow their children to get exercise. Being able to endure hardships comes from the accumulation of little things in daily life, and from the little things that do not compromise.

For example: the weather is very cold, the child does not plan to go to kindergarten today, the parents do not accommodate the child, and take the child to the kindergarten in the cold wind; the sun is scorching, and the child is very tired when he comes home at night, the parents will be like the child Go take a shower as usual instead of falling asleep; children and parents are running, and they will reach the predetermined end point in more than ten meters. The children are panting and don’t want to run anymore, but the parents encourage the children and run to the end together?

Everything is training and honing the children, giving them a strong will and quality, so that they can endure hardships. The more you love your children, the more you need to strengthen their "hardship" education. Letting children suffer a little and suffer a little is true love and responsibility.

4. Accumulation bit by bit, without compromise

For example, when a child is unwilling to get up in the cold winter; when a child has difficulty completing a handmade item ; When the child jumps rope until the moment of exhaustion; when the child is completing the housework and his friends come to him to go out to play? These are occasions for hard exercise.

At this time, children need the encouragement, guidance and encouragement of their parents and family members. Require children to persist in finishing what they are doing, and require children to persist in fighting against difficulties. In fact, the spirit of enduring hardship comes from this last grit of teeth and persistence.

To educate children about hardship, we must pay attention to methods and methods. Parents need to first assess their children's ability to endure hardship before teaching them; they need to respect their children's wishes without forcing them to give orders; they need to set an example by setting an example rather than just using their words.

5. They need to persevere and not be exposed to the cold.

The long road in life must be walked by themselves, and the difficulties must be solved by themselves. One day, they will have to face the society by themselves and shoulder the responsibilities of their families.

Especially for boys, for a future man, hard work is his foundation. Without the spirit of hard work, he is destined to have difficulty facing the increasingly competitive social competition.

How to cultivate the spirit of hard work in children

1. Let children participate in labor

Some surveys have shown that children do not participate in labor not because they are unwilling to work, but because some parents They are unwilling to let their children participate in labor. Even if they mop the floor, they think that the children will not be able to clean them. If they do heavier work, they are afraid that their children will be exhausted. If they do more time-consuming work, they think it will waste time and affect their children's studies. They are even less willing to do so. Get children involved. Many parents take care of all the housework while their children are in school, allowing their children to focus solely on their studies. As everyone knows, the lives of people who have done housework since childhood are much more fulfilling and happier than those who do not do housework. The secret of education is to make children's physical training, mental training, and ability training mutually adjust. Only by allowing children's various abilities to be exercised and cultivated can children grow up healthily.

2. Encourage children to participate in more public welfare work

Bringing children or letting children participate in public welfare work with the group is also a way to cultivate children's labor habits. Parents can take their children to participate in some public welfare work organized by residential areas, such as participating in tree planting in spring, killing mosquitoes and flies in summer, weeding in autumn, clearing snow in winter, etc.; they can also take their children to take care of the lonely elderly people and family members of military martyrs nearby; Let them do what they can for their neighbors, such as distributing newspapers, picking up milk, taking care of children, etc.

3. Develop appropriate family rules for children

House rules, as the living norms and behavioral norms that family members abide by, are often a silent command and are potentially powerful. The power of education. Establishing clear, reasonable and feasible family rules is conducive to the healthy growth of children. It can restrain, help and educate children to form good behavioral habits in the family. Labor is one of the contents of family rules. House rules should be clear and clearly written. For example, after getting up every day, you must fold the quilt yourself, clean the room, clean the toilet, etc. House rules should also change as the child grows. Smart parents always let their children do something within their capabilities, take on responsibilities, and perform their duties from an early age, so that they can become increasingly mature in the struggle against difficulties.

4. Let children do more things within their capabilities

Start with the environment and provide opportunities for practice. We should give full play to the favorable conditions of the surrounding environment and cultivate the excellent qualities of hard work and hard work in our children. These things include self-service and service to others, such as moving chairs, delivering newspapers, taking out trash, wiping tables and chairs, etc.

5. Encourage children to finish their own things, even if it is difficult

Let the child do what he likes and can do, try not to do it all, and do it if he is not willing to do it. Yes, let your children do it too. We have to encourage her when she encounters difficulties. At least some of us haven't done a good job in this regard. My child used to learn to dance, but then she just didn't want to dance anymore because she found it too painful. We didn't persist, so we gave up. Now that I think about it, Still too accommodating to children.

6. Usually, train children to overcome difficulties with the help of the group.

This requires cultivating children's team awareness. The power of the team makes it easier for children to overcome difficulties. A successful person in real life is not the person who studies best or the smartest person, but the person who can bear hardships and stand hard work and has strong perseverance. Today's children are very smart. In addition to paying attention to children's learning and other aspects, we should also pay attention to other aspects, such as the quality of hard work and hard work.

7. Issues that should be paid attention to in cultivating children’s spirit of hard work

(1) Do not arrange excessive housework for children, and do not make children feel tired, otherwise children will lose their interest in labor. escaping from work due to interest;

(2) When praising children, do not give them material or monetary rewards at first.

Because the children are still young, parents should cultivate their children's correct labor concepts, attitudes, and habits, rather than letting their children gain profits through labor. If parents reward their children with money, the purpose of the children's labor becomes the pursuit of material or monetary benefits. Once there is no such stimulation, the children's enthusiasm will be gone. This is something that parents should pay attention to;

(3) Praise should be sincere and appropriate, and avoid exaggeration. Don't let your children develop the habit of working for praise. That would go against cultivating a correct working attitude.

(4) In schools, teachers can also refer to the above methods to cultivate students’ habit of loving labor.

Educate children about the role of hardship

Enduring hardship can temper your character. Character is honed. With the progress of society and the great abundance of material wealth, people's living standards have gradually improved. People's desire for enjoyment has greatly increased.

The majority of today’s children are only children. Most of the parents of this generation are pampered seedlings from a “four plus one” family. The generation of only children who grew up in a superior environment are basically the generation who have no worries about food and clothing. They live a carefree life with food and food in hand. They are all raised by four elderly people, grandparents, and grandparents on both sides of the family. They grew up under the care of their grandparents. They are a generation that grew up in a special environment. They lack the temper of a hard life and do not know what life is difficult and difficult. Most of the young parents who grew up under special circumstances are willful, have strong self-awareness, are self-centered in everything, and rarely consider the feelings of their parents. Having no worries about food and clothing will inevitably lead to a fragile character, unable to withstand the setbacks and blows of life, and unable to bear a little grievance. The formation of this kind of character will lead to poor self-care ability and difficulty in taking on important responsibilities when entering society. When these young parents have not yet weaned their children, they become parents again. It is difficult for them to adapt to their roles, to be financially independent, and to pursue a solo career, thus giving rise to the "Moonlight Clan" and the "Gnawing Old Clan". Invisibly, new pressure has been added to the grandparents and grandfathers born in the 1950s and 1960s. They have finally raised their children and hope that they can live independently and relax for a while. However, a new generation is born again, and there are still With endless hard work, I have finally reached the age of becoming a grandfather. In fact, I have become a "grandson". Then a helpless and sad feeling came spontaneously. Some even lamented and lamented that they were born at the wrong time and were destined to be the last generation to be filial to their parents!

Countless facts have proven that children born into poor families have the spirit of self-reliance. Both are strong, both are sensible, and both respect their parents. so. To cultivate children, we must start with enduring hardship. Suffering is the root of our minds and muscles, and it is the foundation of educating people.

Educating yourself through hardship can build your will. Whether a person's will is strong or not determines the direction of a person's life. In family education in developed countries, boys' self-care ability and hard-working spirit are generally valued. Because a developed market economy requires that every member of society must have this ability and spirit.

At a gathering of comrades, I heard a general tell a story. During the Wanqing Period, there was a Qipin County Magistrate in Hebei who raised five sons. Before his death, he said some thought-provoking words full of philosophy before his death. The old gentleman said: There are two hardships, two dilemmas, two hardships, and two dangers in life. ?That is: Coptis chinensis is hard, and poverty is even harder; it is hard to climb to the sky, and it is even harder to ask for help; mountains and lakes are dangerous, and people's hearts are even more dangerous; spring ice is thin, and human feelings are even thinner; you have to endure the hardship, know the difficulty, know the danger, and walk through it. Only when you are thin can you become an official. ?The younger generations followed the ancestral precepts passed down from their families and became generals today.

People often say that when a person is young, it is nothing if he endures some hardships. When he is old, he is blessed if he does not endure hardships. It makes sense that people who endure hardships in the first half of their lives will definitely be blessed in the second half of their lives.

Enduring hardship can cultivate the blood nature. Bloodiness is the quality of loyalty and sincerity. Generally speaking, a bloody person hates evil as much as he hates it. He dares to speak and act, and does not bow to evil forces. He will never be a two-faced person who does one thing in front of others and another behind his back. A bloody person can stand up and lend a helping hand when others are in trouble. He will not shrink back and be timid just thinking about his own gains and losses.

Boys should look like boys. However, the reality is that, except for children in rural areas, most children in cities have lost their wild nature. They are all like little adults, losing their innocence and innocence, becoming less and less masculine and becoming more and more feminine.

A man has no blood, lacks masculinity, has no backbone, looks like a sissy, and pretends to be a man, how can he stand up in the family? Soldiers lack blood and are afraid of war and death. How can they win the war and protect their home and country? By extension, a nation has no spirit, lacks blood, is willing to take the back seat, is weak and incompetent, can only be slaughtered by others, is weak and can be bullied, passively beaten, and can never stand upright, how can it stand in the forest of the nation.

Recently I read the book "Commander of an Army". The 32 founding army commanders were all bloody men. They were extremely loyal to the party, ideals and beliefs. They were all upright men. When the nation was in danger, they devoted themselves to the revolution. They never thought about enjoying themselves. No one on the battlefield was greedy for life or afraid of death. For example: the founding Lieutenant General Wang Jinshan, the first commander of the 12th Army of the People's Liberation Army, and the prototype of Li Yunlong in the TV series "Bright Sword". Born in a poor family in Hong'an, Hubei Province, at the age of 9, he began to work as a long-term laborer for a wealthy family, herding cattle. He joined the Red Army at the age of 15 and fought without risking his life. He became a company commander at the age of 16 and followed Xu Qianqian's banner in all the wars. At the age of 20, he became a young division commander of the Red Army. Later, he became a favorite general under Liu and Deng's army. On the battlefield, he was called the madman king. When Marshal Liu Bocheng evaluated Wang Jinshan, he said: That's not called madness, that's called revolutionary heroism. ?

I advise parents to uphold the fine traditions of our Chinese nation in raising their children, borrow wisdom from the ancients, learn from their experience, and consciously let the children endure hardships and endure hardships. , see the world, increase your knowledge, and increase your talents. When they need to let go, they must let go and let them explore the world independently! Be an eagle in the storm, not a house bird under the eaves. Encourage them to follow the natural laws of life, consciously do what they should do at each stage of life, and give full play to their abilities. Strengths, avoid weaknesses, find the right angle, seize opportunities, develop yourself, and strive to open a new world of your own.