Decryption of the end of the "gyro" in the workplace

Once upon a time, the graduates who walked out of the ivory tower unconsciously shouted for the alienation of ideal and reality: the inconvenience of working in a different place, the difficult probation period, the confusion of job-hopping and postgraduate entrance examination, and the emotional alienation. At this time, you may say: that's not what I want. I don't want to be a tired gyro that keeps spinning around boredom. How to not waste time?

here it is, cg! I collected eight representative letters of "Question mm", and invited Ms. Meg, a psychologist, and sister Wu Jianghong, a "senior in the workplace", to analyze and answer them. If you are also in confusion, you might as well press a pause button for yourself first and have a look at our article!

◆ Job-hopping? Don't jump ship?

I graduated nearly a year ago. I worked hard and felt very fresh in the first half of the year, but recently I found that my job was particularly boring, far from my ideal, and had nothing to do with my hobbies. So I thought of job-hopping, but I was a little hesitant. If you change your job, will you find that your new job will also become a chicken rib? Or simply avoid risks and continue to stay in this boring place?

Wu Jianghong: There is no need to hesitate. If I were you, I would jump. But remember, don't dream of doing it in one step. If you find a job that you like to earn a lot of money, the chances of this pie falling into your mouth are not without, but it seems that the pie has eyes, and sometimes it just hits the heads of those who bow their heads and hurry. If you know what you are interested in, it's easy to say. With a goal, let's take action. Chicken ribs are absolutely unacceptable, because happiness has nothing to do with chicken ribs. Work happily and live happily.

Meg: Job boredom is a psychology that many people have. Generally speaking, the first half of the year is the adaptation period, and sometimes you feel that you can't find the north, but you certainly don't belong to the maladjusted type, but the type that adapts quickly and gets bored quickly. I like the new and hate the old so soon, and after the wings are gradually full and the wings are gradually tough, the desire to go high is bred. In fact, there is nothing wrong with this. You can jump if you want, but you must be sure!

job = making money? Change job= impetuous?

since I entered the workplace in 22, I have been working for less than two years, but I have changed four jobs. Jumping from state-owned enterprises to private enterprises, and then going to foreign enterprises, the more money I earn, but changing jobs, interviewing and moving with my workplace really makes me feel tired. Some people say that I am too impetuous, impetuous? From my point of view, it takes more jumps to reach the peak of life, doesn't it? -Li Qiong

Wu Jianghong: Why is there no risk? Walking in the street and falling into the well. I think your idea is quite good. Have you heard this sentence? I'm afraid you can't do it, but I'm afraid you can't think of it. And this sentence, where there is a will, there is a way. Although vulgar, truth is always truth. I think the problem lies in yourself. Are you ready? Are you ready to fail? I got a deep feeling from some successful female entrepreneurs, that is, their mentality is very good. As long as you have a normal mind, if you fail, you will have to start again, plus "throwing caution to the wind", and success will belong to you. By the way, work is to make money, because money can definitely improve people's quality of life, but it can also numb your appetite. Finally, I hope you can jump all the way on the steps.

Meg: The world is full of wonders, and there are thousands of people. No one has stipulated that everyone must stay in one unit honestly all his life! Some people are destined to live a colorful and unpredictable life, and no one has the right to interfere as long as you want. It doesn't matter if there are risks, which is a new opportunity for those who are good at meeting challenges. Therefore, I don't want to help you make up your mind, because for a person who is independent enough like you, it is better to listen to others' opinions than to listen to yourself.

office "time bomb"

This is my first job after graduation, but I didn't expect something bad to happen. The new boss is an eccentric woman. Sometimes she talks a lot and is very kind to people, but sometimes she has a bad attitude towards people for no reason, even yelling loudly. We newcomers are all a little scared. Maybe one day when she comes into the office and looks wrong, she will "operate" on us. Originally, the three-month probation period had to be carefully passed, but isn't it a bit "too much" to encounter this situation? —— Bing Bing

Wu Jianghong: I think we have to start with ourselves. Weird women exist objectively, and it's hard for you to change. Two suggestions: first,

if she is just eccentric, then we should leave! Not to be taunted, we can afford to hide. On condition that you have a place to eat and sleep without this job. Stay in the green hills, not afraid of no firewood! Second, get to know her and talk to her! Communication is an indispensable skill for success. See if every time she gets angry, is it for people or things? Think calmly about whether what she said makes sense. If she is wrong about things, then you don't have to be depressed, just as if you didn't hear her. Anyway, you haven't done anything wrong, so why are you always seated accordingly?

Meg: It's difficult when you first enter the workplace. The interpersonal relationship is really a bit "overdone" for a new generation like you. I feel that you are doing exposure training every day, that is, being exposed to scenes that you don't like or even hate. If dealing with the interpersonal relationship in this job is a game, you start with the most difficult level instead of the simplest, and the result is nothing more than that: either you give up halfway or you survive. Where to go depends on whether you are willing to play this game. Decide for yourself!

graduation = material desire? Graduation = change of heart?

When I met my current boyfriend in the third year of college, he said at that time that I was a realistic girl and would definitely change my mind after graduation. I always laughed at him for being too concerned. But later, he was unfortunately right. After work, I really became materialistic. I used to feel happy when he bought me a dress, but now I want to wear a famous brand, open a Bora and live in a hardcover existing house. He can't give me these at present. Moreover, the thought of living carefully in the future gives me a headache. Should I find a more realistic reliance? -candy bear

Wu jianghong: although I think that a woman who wants to get happiness by finding a "financial dependence" can't get real happiness. But I still advise you to respect your feelings. If material things can bring you greater satisfaction, please be satisfied first, but I don't know when you can really be satisfied.

Meg: Living in this colorful world, how many people can sit still and resist the temptation of material things, unless they don't eat human fireworks. So, material you are really cute, at least you don't suppress yourself. Ask for what you want, but understand that there are gains and losses. When you live your dream life one day, but still feel that you have lost something, don't regret it. Send you a wise saying when Pig Bajie regrets that the scriptures are not complete after learning from the Buddhist scriptures in the Western Heaven: Life is lacking!

◆ Postgraduate entrance examination? No postgraduate entrance examination?

I think that people who have entered the workplace in the past two years will have my feeling that the bachelor's degree is becoming less and less popular. Although the degree is not equal to the ability, the bachelor's degree really looks weak when crossing the threshold of job hunting. I have been graduating from college for a year, and I really want to go to graduate school, but I have some concerns: I am afraid that it will be a waste of time if I don't get it; Second, I am afraid that after three years of study, the situation will change again. Alas, it's hard to choose! -Zhuo Zhuo

Wu Jianghong: If you think you are a piece of learning material, that is to say, you really like learning and are sure, then take the exam. Skill is something that no one can take away. At least you can't lose anything by learning a diploma. Whether to take the exam or not, and what major to take the exam are all related to your goals. If you don't know what you like and want to do, at least in which industry or field. Then take some time to think about it first, which is much more important than the postgraduate entrance examination.

Meg: Left or right, life often faces such a crossroads. If there is a tiger on the left and a beast on the right, can we just stay put? You can turn to the left and have a fight with Wu Song. You can also turn right and interpret a new legend of "Beauty and the Beast". Therefore, I can't think instead of you. At the critical moment, people's thoughts need to be tossed back and forth for a while before they can be sorted out. Respect your feelings, keep thinking, and after careful consideration, you will definitely get an acceptable result.

work =no money?

I'm afraid I'm spoiled by my mother. Since I was a child, I've never been thirsty or sunburned, and my pocket money at home is only a lot more every month. After graduation, I found a job in Beijing with a good monthly salary, but I was away from home without my mother's relief. At first, I felt as happy as a princess. When I got the money, I went shopping and had tea with my friends. But this kind of life will end after a week. With a pinch of fingers, I will live on instant noodles in the future. I think I can't let my mother remit money with a long face, and my living standard has plummeted. Worry! -Mimi

Wu Jianghong: To tell the truth, it is difficult to get rid of the fault of extravagance. Two roads, the cheek and then find mom relief; Either find a job that earns more money and work hard!

Meg: Some people are just good at loosening the front and tightening the back, which shows that you can bear the embarrassment. Hey, now it's time for you to venture into the Jianghu alone. Let's wait and see. I believe that you will take better care of yourself than your mother. You just started your own business, and you are a little unsure. When you encounter difficulties, you will inevitably scream. In fact, only those who can live on instant noodles know how to get rid of the taste of instant noodles, and those who can fool themselves to the lowest point of life can also swing themselves to high places.

◆ cohabitation-sharing the room fee or making trouble?

I'm sharing a room with a boy now, not living together, just to share the room fee. He is my colleague, and he has just been assigned to Beijing. He is quite honest. Although there are three chapters before moving in, inconvenient things still follow. Seeing him dressed so neatly at work, he is in a mess at home, and he often finds his smelly socks in the living room. During the World Cup, it was even more shocking, and I got up in the middle of the night to watch the nba. After all, working in a company, do you really want to kick him out? Or am I running away? Depressed! -Xiaoying

Wu Jianghong: First, if you want to be a living Lei Feng in the new era, second, if you can find a more suitable house as soon as possible, then move out as soon as possible. The premise is, don't wronged yourself, because it's not worth it, your feelings are always the most important, and only by making yourself happy can you make people around you happy. If you want to get rid of him and you are just embarrassed, it's just a matter of style. Talk to him politely and formally, and be direct, unless he promises to correct it within one month. But don't easily believe the nonsense that he doesn't even believe himself.

Meg: It's really unlucky to meet such a roommate! Have you ever thought about fighting poison with poison and fighting violence with violence? Of course, it may be difficult to play hardball, but he will certainly have a weak point and a weak point. I guess you've got your eye on it, but you haven't found a chance to "beat" him out of the water. When this happens, you should do it when it's time to do it. Maybe he is really itchy and wants someone to fix it, so what are you waiting for?

am I old-fashioned?

My Mandarin is not standard. Many colleagues in the company are native Beijingers. At first, I was ashamed to talk with them, and I often felt inferior. Some time ago, I kept buying clothes and cosmetics to package myself, hoping to satisfy a little vanity from the outside. But after all, brand-name clothing is still a luxury in terms of current financial situation after just working. I also understand that improving self-confidence is the fundamental problem. In fact, my colleagues are very kind, but I still feel that I can't fully integrate, and I often feel lonely and have no friends. Will they really think I'm "corny"? Will it alienate me because of this? -Vivien

Wu Jianghong: Let nature take its course. The more you want to do something, the more you have to relax yourself. Treat yourself with a humorous attitude. Isn't it characteristic to make everyone laugh with your own "local" words as jokes? In addition, you can find some colleagues, speak your thoughts sincerely, listen to their opinions, and it's silly to throw away your dignity and self-confidence with wishful thinking. If your colleagues alienate you because of your "dirt", I don't think they deserve your sadness. Respect and self-confidence are earned by yourself, not by others.

Meg: I think it's a good strategy to improve your taste by improving the outer packaging, and you want to keep improving and do better. The difference between Beijingers and foreigners is actually that they have their own characteristics. Being able to successfully enter Beijing shows that you have already gone through a test, and you have more experience in adaptability than locals. Just entering a new environment, people always feel lonely. There is a process for others to accept themselves and for themselves to accept others. "Earth" is just a little "earth", which only shows that you are a free range eggs, very nutritious. ;