When you lie to him on the good side, it will be even more disappointing or hateful when the lie is shattered. Honesty is better than white lies! White lies are not a supplement to honesty, but two opposite aspects. We do not deny that white lies have certain desirability, but at the expense of honesty!
Honesty is half the road to success. Examples include:
Like a terminally ill person, when the doctor told him that it was just a minor ailment, he probably didn't know it was a white lie. He still lived a normal life, and when the illness came, the lie was broken. When he knew it was a lie, he would regret it and hate it. Because of the doctor's kindness, he didn't know the time he had left, so he wouldn't do what he couldn't do in a limited time. That would make him regret it for the rest of his life. Isn't that a more tragic and unacceptable outcome? On the contrary, in the same situation, when he knows that his time is limited, he can do what he wants, so that he has no regrets. It can be seen that white lies hinder honesty! Famous people once said:
Sisera, a female philosopher? Polk once warned that such lies would put people on the verge of a great decline in personality. In the book "Lying, Public Affairs and Moral Choice in Private Life"
, she wrote: "Psychological barriers are gone, and the ability to distinguish truth from falsehood is more vague, and the concept that a lie will not be detected may tend to be paranoid." Some psychologists who have studied the phenomenon of lying suggest that anyone who wants to tell a "white lie" to his friends, relatives and colleagues should consider it carefully. It is terrible to tell the truth regardless of the situation, but it is even more terrible to tell a white lie regardless of the situation! Honesty requires us to tell the truth! There are reasons:
A white lie is a lie in itself, which is beyond doubt. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, and immoral things are unpopular. These are all things that are taught to repent when teachers are beaten. But we ask ourselves, who hasn't told a lie? There are many purposes for our relatives, friends or strangers, but when we add "goodwill" to a lie, it seems that everyone may accept it, which is the concentrated expression of human weakness. Mark? A famous Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, just tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " Therefore, the view of psychologists is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie. Yes, please note that even a white lie, as a lie itself, is an act contrary to honesty. Therefore, whether a lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie itself will inevitably hinder honesty. Although a lie is well-intentioned, as a lie itself, it is an act that runs counter to honesty. Therefore, it is not necessary to discuss whether a lie is in a good purpose. Being a lie will inevitably hinder honesty. Looking back with the national spirit, it turns out that honesty is in the dim light after all. After thousands of years, it can still be clearly heard that honesty is the virtue of the Chinese nation, just as the Great Wall is a symbol of the Chinese nation. If a person loses his integrity, he will leave behind hypocrisy: if an enterprise loses its integrity, it will face bankruptcy; And if a nation loses its integrity, it will fall and die! Keeping faith means keeping faith with a pure land, keeping faith means success, and keeping faith means that the Chinese nation can last forever. Here I would like to ask the other students, when a person loses his integrity, is his starting point still good? So-called white lies can also lead to unpredictable consequences. And give an example: someone is terminally ill. In order to let him spend the rest of his life in peace, relatives and friends have kept him in the dark. There is no malice or selfish interest in this, but it is often not satisfactory. Deception cannot last long. On the contrary, it makes the patient lose the rationality of cooperating with treatment and the opportunity to deal with personal affairs. What should be used to evaluate the "goodwill" that a white lie can only feel? Your standard? My standards? The standards of the parties? Or the public standard? Since there is no fixed standard for all white lies, how to evaluate the "good" and "bad" white lies?
We didn't say that it was not advisable for him to tell a white lie, let alone that he was a dishonest person because of this white lie. We only! Speaking of lies, I dare say that none of us have never lied since we were children. Yes, everyone has lied, but some lies are well-intentioned and some lies are malicious!
A white lie, which has a good starting point, is a lie that has to be made up when you lie and cheat in good faith.
A "lie" is called a "lie" because it is false, untrue and deceptive. If a person often tells lies to deceive others, over time, he will lose people's trust.