-Chapter 22 of Tao Te Ching can be flexible to protect itself; Only those who know how to correct can be straightened; Those who can be depressed can fill in; Only those who know how to protect the existing stability can truly be gradually updated; People who ask less can get more; Those who ask for more will lead to their own confusion.

"Qu Zequan" It is said that Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty had a wet nurse, who brought him up since childhood, and they had deep feelings. Because the wet nurse thought that the emperor was brought up by himself and had a backer, she did something illegal outside ("tasting outside"). Later, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty knew about it and prepared to deal with it strictly according to law. The wet nurse had to ask Dong Fangshuo for help. Dong Fangshuo taught the wet nurse a way, saying, "Don't ask the emperor to forgive you. It's no use talking with your mouth. When the emperor orders you, he will ask someone to pull you down. You don't have to say anything. Just take two steps to look back at the emperor and keep looking back at him. Remember, don't say anything for mercy, let alone feed the emperor, or your head will fall to the ground. But if you follow the method I taught you, there may still be hope to save you. "

So the wet nurse did as Dong Fangshuo said. When Emperor Wu wanted to fuck her, she took two steps back and looked back at the emperor with tears in her nose. Dong Fangshuo stood by and said, "What are you looking at, old lady? The emperor has grown up, do you still need to support him? Get out! " After Dong Fangshuo said these words, Emperor Wu was very sad. He remembered the benefits of wet nurses in the past. After all, she brought him up as a child. Now he wants to tie her up and behead her, and he really can't bear it. Therefore, "the emperor is sad, that is, forgiving sins." If Dong Fangshuo directly intercedes with Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty will be even more angry. He may even suspect that Dong Fangshuo has illegal contacts with the wet nurse, and even Dong Fangshuo will be arrested and investigated together. But Dong Fangshuo set up this plan, there is no need to intercede directly. The emperor himself regretted it. He wouldn't blame Dong Fangshuo for having dealings with the wet nurse. And when the emperor, especially the "militaristic" and self-centered emperor of Emperor Wu of Han Dynasty, especially hates being around detained, Dong Fangshuo can put human feelings on the emperor's head in this way, so as not to make the emperor feel disgusted with the opinions of detained people.

"Waste is straight", and when crooked things are corrected, they become straight. But overcorrection will become crooked, so there is the idiom "overcorrection". Yan Ying once said to Ceng Zi, "Although the wheels are round, they are all made of wood on the mountain. Wood is straight. This is because there are good craftsmen who process straight wood into curved circles. Although the wood itself has shriveled places, or there are scars protruding, or there are places sunken, these are shortcomings. But after wood carving, these shortcomings are gone, which can play a strong role. Therefore, if you want to learn to be a gentleman, you must be careful, devote yourself to study and practice, and slowly polish your products day after day, just like a carpenter making a wheel and slowly carving it, usually you can't see the effect. When things are done successfully, the effect will come out. Only in this way can you see the results. " This is to tell Ceng Zi that the knowledge and moral cultivation of life can't be done at once, and it can't be done overnight. It can be seen that it takes time to "correct mistakes" and it needs to be pondered slowly. You can't achieve the effect by imagination, otherwise it may be counterproductive.

Excessive depressions will accumulate water in low-lying areas; We are new, only when we have the top can we have the bottom, and only when we have the old can we be new. If you get less, you can get more if you take less; If you ask too much, you will be confused. If you ask too much, you will be confused. Life is a process of self-tempering and self-improvement. For decades, the first paragraph knew nothing about the world, and the second paragraph could do nothing. The rest is the middle section, which is a precious time for young people to mature. If we can't grasp it, everything will be in vain.

Young people will always encounter some setbacks, some confusion, some opportunities and some gains. The most taboo is impetuous when frustrated and shallow when harvested. Impetuousness and shallowness can't make a career.

For example, when college students just graduate and look for jobs, some people just want to enter those big enterprises and companies, thinking that only there can they give full play to their abilities and learn more. But everyone in a big company wants to get in. What about those who can't? I had to choose a small company, sighing all day, thinking that I was overqualified, casting pearls before swine, and then looking for an opportunity to resign while going to work casually. There are not a few such people. But such people are actually stupid. It is true that large companies and enterprises have strong strength, complete systems and good training mechanisms, and attach great importance to the cultivation of talents. However, their shortcomings are equally obvious. The company is full of talents. How many fresh graduates can make their mark in it? So many elites are waiting for the upper position, and when it is the turn of graduates, I am afraid that several years have passed.

But small businesses and companies don't have that many talents. If the graduates are strong, the boss will often treat you as a treasure. And because there are few people, there is a big room for promotion and a short time. Maybe when others are just an ordinary salesman in a big company, you are already a department manager in a small company.

Of course, this requires you to be calm, and there are many things to learn in small companies. When your requirements are not so high, you can lower your position and study sincerely, then you will "get less" and get more because of your open-mindedness. This is a small suggestion for those who dream of reaching the sky one step at a time, from which we can see the significance of Taoist thought to real life.

It is useful that Taoism can be born into the world. "Happiness is complete" and "waste is straight" are extremely practical life wisdom. "Bending to perfection" is the way to be a man, and it is self-serving and altruistic. Be a man, be good at using clever curves, and everything will be fine. In other words, if you want to talk about art, you must pay attention to the beauty of curves. For example, if you want to criticize others, you can't stand the direct accusation, but if you change your tone and put it mildly, it will be much easier for the other party to accept it. So it's good to go straight, but it's also helpful to follow the curve under appropriate circumstances.