"Mencius" writes, "Those who love others will always be loved by others; those who respect others will always be respected by others." If a person smiles at others, he will get smiles from others; if he shows anger towards others, , you will get the anger of others. Most of the time, smiling makes things better, while anger makes things worse.

Therefore, generally speaking, a smile will make one's road wider and wider, and one's luck will be better and better, while anger will make one's road narrower and narrower, and one's luck will be better and better. Poor, so most losers are people with "big tempers and small minds". They can't "leave one step in the road and give up three points in taste". There is a folk saying "the bigger the temper, the less capable". This is exactly the reason. .

1. What is "leave one step on the road, three points on the taste"?

This is a sentence in "Cai Gen Tan", the original text is:

Where the path is narrow, leave one step with others.

When the flavor is strong, reduce the amount by three points and let others eat it.

These two sentences are actually two common things that everyone will experience more or less in their lives. On a small road that is not wide, there will always be someone walking in the middle, as if he is the only one walking on this road; during a banquet, there will always be someone who takes all the food he likes, as if he is the only one walking on it. It’s like knowing how delicious it is.

The so-called "leave one step on the road, three points on the taste" means that you should think from other people's perspective when doing things, and you should not be selfish or have any restraint. Only those who learn to think from others' perspective can understand the positive power brought by smile, the negative power brought by anger, the benefits of being broad-minded and the disadvantages of being small-minded.

Zhang Fei from the Three Kingdoms is known for his "hot temper" that is world-famous. Most of the time, he gives others the feeling of "burning with anger". No matter how big or small the matter is, he loses his temper, and even strangers , I thought Zhang Fei had a small temper, otherwise why would he lose such a temper? In fact, he is born like this. He is born with a loud voice and is born with an "angry" look.

Unfortunately, outsiders will not give you so many reasons. If you are angry, you are angry, and if you have a bad temper, you have a bad temper. It will not change your opinion just because you are born like this or have a good heart. Among the Three Kingdoms, Zhang Fei was probably one of the best in terms of tragic endings. He was a powerful general, but because he had a bad attitude towards his subordinates, he was resented by two soldiers, so they attacked him while he was sleeping and even beheaded Zhang Fei. The head is really sad.

Compared with Zhang Fei, his sworn brother Liu Bei is just the opposite of him. He is tolerant and stable at all times, never gets angry, and is never petty, so Liu Bei can be said to be He is a representative figure of "Leave one step on the road and give up three points on taste".

2. What are the advantages and disadvantages of doing this?

There is a saying in "Old Book of Tang Dynasty": "Using copper as a mirror, you can straighten your clothes; using ancient times as a mirror, you can know the ups and downs; using people as a mirror, you can understand gains and losses." Here "use people as mirrors" "It means "putting yourself in someone else's shoes". People who don't know how to put themselves in someone else's shoes won't know what they gain and what they lose.

If you ask a selfish person like "Don't leave a step to walk with others on a narrow path," he will not be able to answer what he has gained and what he has lost!

However, if you ask someone, "When the path is narrow, leave a step to walk with others", such a broad-minded person will be able to give you a clear answer after a little thought.

Cao Cao of the Three Kingdoms was suspicious and cunning by nature. How could such a villain be followed by so many wise men? There is no other reason, that is, Cao Cao understood that "leave one step on the road and three points on the road"! In order to obtain the counselor "Xu Shu", Cao Cao captured Xu Shu's mother and threatened her, but Xu Shu refused to give him advice even to the death. Even so, Cao Cao treated his mother and son very kindly. This is "Lu Liu". "One step", otherwise, what is the use of keeping a person like this who is of no use to him, and who is still "in Cao's camp and his heart is in Han"?

"One step in the road, three points in taste" can give you one more friend and one less enemy. The rewards may not be that big at the moment, but in the long run, the benefits will be huge! Cao Cao knew this very well, so Xu Shu finally became Cao Cao's subordinate willingly. Zhuge Liang sighed for a long time.

3. Do you want to "leave one step in the road and three points in favor" to anyone?

"Leave one step on the road, three points on the road" is only effective for people who have moral values ??in their hearts. If a person does not know etiquette, justice and shame, and does not understand right and wrong, then if you think in their shoes and be tolerant towards others, you will only get the best result. There will be endless losses. Because for a person without moral concepts, if you treat him well, he will take it for granted, and if he treats you badly, he will take it for granted. In short, this kind of person will think that "he is always right and others are always wrong." ".

If a beggar has no moral sense, he will think that you should give alms to him, and if you give less alms, you are wrong. If you give him a dollar in charity, you may not get gratitude, but more likely resentment. Instead of doing this, why should you "leave a step in the road and give up a third of the taste" to such a person?

Three Kingdoms Lu Bu enjoyed the reputation of "the most powerful general in the Three Kingdoms", but he eventually died at the hands of Cao Cao. At that time, Lu Bu was defeated. He hoped that he would be able to serve under Cao Cao and be reused. However, he was beheaded by Cao Cao in public. If such a fierce general could be obtained, it would undoubtedly be of great help to unify the world, but why did Cao Cao kill Lu Bu?

For one thing, Lu Bu was scolded by Zhang Fei as a "house slave with three surnames". He recognized his adoptive father three times, but killed his father three times. His moral behavior can be said to be extremely bad! There is no moral sense at all. Even a big-hearted hero like Cao Cao dare not keep him by his side for fear of repeating Dong Zhuo's fate. Since he can't stay, he can just let him go. Why kill Lu Bu?

Second, the reason is actually what was mentioned above. People without moral concepts will think that "they are always right and others are always wrong." If Cao Cao lets Lu Bu go, Lu Bu will probably , because he was not reused by Cao Cao, he developed a jealous mentality. It doesn't matter if he is an ant, because it can't hurt you, but Lu Bu is a real tiger. Cao Cao is so smart, how can he leave the tiger as a problem and let the tiger return to the mountain?

"Leave one step on the road, three points on the taste" is a kind of broad mind, which is enough to make people's hearts strong enough to tolerate all the hardships in the world. Only those who can tolerate hardships and difficulties will have the opportunity to suffer hardships. Cheng Xiang turned danger into safety, otherwise, he would have given up hope before suffering could knock him down. Only those with a strong heart are worthy of good luck!

Life is sometimes very difficult, because you don’t know what kind of blows and hardships you will encounter, but no matter how difficult life is, in front of people with a broad heart, you are still like a naughty child Generally speaking, although they are naughty, rude and annoying, what can this do to you?