I am a person who worries about gains and losses, and is extremely insecure. I used to be so, but now it has eased. But in fact, people who worry about gains and losses and lack a sense of security are entirely due to their personality, and it is difficult to completely change a person's personality.

When I was not in love, but when I was in love, I was worried that no one would love me, and I would be an old girl all my life. Later, after I got married, I began to worry about changes in the future, worried that the relationship would not be strong, and missed the freedom of being single. I went to the hospital to see a doctor for a check-up. I was worried that something was wrong with me and I was afraid to go to the doctor. I was also worried that I would go to the hospital again and they would misdiagnose me as having another disease.

In short, almost everything is worrying and scary for me, and I rarely feel satisfied. I am often in a pessimistic mood, and my perspective on problems is always based on pessimistic reality.

To be honest, it is difficult to change this kind of pessimistic and disappointing personality, but I am still relieved. Because my husband is a positive and optimistic person, one of the mantras he often tells me is: It doesn’t matter.

I was very unhappy at work some time ago. I resigned more than a month ago. Now I am still staying at home. I told him: Husband, I am unemployed and you have to support the family by yourself. The burden is heavy. He told me: It's okay!

I said that meeting him gave me a sense of satisfaction and stability. Even though I would still worry about the future, because of him, I finally had a solid backing to fight against everything. The armor of trouble. Also because of the "no big deal" mentality that he passed on to me, I alleviated my lack of security little by little. I became more positive and optimistic, and became more likely to laugh.

So how to alleviate the situation of worrying about gains and losses and lacking a sense of security?

You can actively change your mentality and tell yourself: Nothing is a big deal, just like my husband's wise saying "Nothing is a big deal". Have a positive attitude and always remind yourself that your worries are nothing and you can definitely handle it!

In addition to self-adjusting your mentality, another way to relieve your frequent worries about gains and losses is to complain to your friends and ask your friends to enlighten you and help you mediate. This is also talkative therapy. You can often chat with your friends. Find some trustworthy friends with a good attitude to tell your troubles and see how they view the problem. In the process of them persuading you and solving your problems, , you will also feel much better.

You know the saying, "Crying children get milk." So, if one day you worry about gains and losses and feel insecure, just use your friends as trash cans. I believe it. They will give you positive guidance.

In short, it is not terrible to worry about gains and losses, and it is not a big deal to lack a sense of security. Learn to change your pessimistic mood and mentality, and learn to seek help from friends around you. I believe that one day, you will be positive, optimistic, and smile at life!