"Fu Lei Family Letters" is a family letter written by Fu Lei and his wife to Fu Cong and his daughter-in-law Mila from 1954 to May 1966. It was edited by the second son Fu Min.

1. People spend their whole lives floating in high tides and low tides. Only mediocre people live like stagnant water. ——Fu Lei

2. People who have not experienced sharp pain will not have deep and broad sympathy. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

3. A person's life is full of ups and downs. Only mediocre people can live like stagnant water; or they must have extremely high cultivation to be able to survive. The result is true liberation. As long as the highs don't make you nervous and the lows don't make you decadent, that's fine. If the sun is too strong, it will scorch the grains; if the rain is too strong, it will drown the crops. We just need to be mentally balanced so as not to get hurt... Slowly you will develop a different mood to deal with the past; that is, you can think about it without being shocked, and you can analyze the causes and consequences from an objective standpoint for future reference. , to avoid repeating the same mistakes. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

4. The greatness of motherhood does not lie in reason, but in that kind of intuitive emotion. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

5. Only if a person dares to face reality and mistakes, use rational analysis, and thoroughly comprehend, can he not be eroded by memories. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

6. Try to ignore the gains and losses as much as possible, just try to do your best, and have no regrets. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

7. Not getting carried away by victory is the best evidence of strength. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

8. My child, the terrible enemy is not necessarily a ferocious-looking one. A pleasant and passionate friendship can sometimes waste a lot of your precious time. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letters"

9. "People are always ups and downs in high tides and low tides. Only mediocre people live like stagnant water." "As long as the highs are not too high and make you nervous, the lows are not too low." It's fine if you are decadent." ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

10. "Pay more attention in the future: when adhering to the truth, you must pay attention to the way, attitude, tone, and tone of speech, and you must be more careful. There is a reason, the more easy-going the attitude is. Adhering to the truth is an arduous struggle, and it requires good methods, means, and patience. " - Li Zhiye. Don't be arrogant, but be forgiving even if you are reasonable. Be humble and open-minded! ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

11. Only if a person dares to face reality, face mistakes, use rational analysis, and thoroughly comprehend, he will not be eroded by memories... These things should be regarded as the ashes of the soul. Come and see, of course you can't help but feel something when you read - Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

12. Be patient, and everyone will encounter times of depression from time to time, but they will pass soon. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

13. Real light is never a time of darkness, but it is never obscured by darkness. A real hero is never one who never has humble sentiments, but one who never succumbs to humble sentiments. Therefore, before you can defeat external enemies, you must first defeat your inner enemies. You don’t have to be afraid of sinking and falling, as long as you can constantly extricate yourself and renew yourself. ——Fu Lei "John Christoph - Translator's Preface"

14. Everyone has shortcomings, including both men and women in love. The problem is not to find a partner with no flaws, but to find a partner who can recognize and admit their flaws, be willing to gradually change them, and tolerate each other at the same time. ——Fu Lei, "The Young Generation"

15. The most powerful argument in the world is practical action, and the most effective education is leading by example; never ask others for things you cannot do yourself; If you want to make mistakes, criticize yourself first and correct your own mistakes first. ——Fu Lei

16. As long as you fall down one after another, as long as you can get up, you will gradually climb to the top and transcend the ego. Bitter tears are the wine that nourishes your soul. People who have not experienced acute pain will not have deep and broad compassion. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

17. One night, she advised you to practice again tomorrow. You replied, "Will I still get results like you do?" Of course, it will not work to deal with people's good intentions by counter-criticism. By extension from these small things, you and I must have done a lot of harm to others unintentionally. No wonder others say we are proud. This happens to people all the time, especially to those close to them. I do too sometimes. So you have to reflect. Be humble, courteous, considerate, and repay your kindness! ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

18. Bitter tears are the wine that cultivates your soul. People who have not experienced acute pain will not have deep and broad compassion. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

19. As long as it is the truth and a real lesson, whether it is from parents or friends, or from acquaintances, you must accept it. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

20. Suppress emotions more, focus more on skills, and use reason more. I believe it will definitely reduce fatigue.

——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

21. Abandonment without fighting is hypocritical, and detachment without suffering is frivolous. ——Fu Lei

22. "It is dangerous for the other party to treat you as her whole world, but it is also very valuable! Now that you have noticed it, you will slowly wake her up: It is better to make insinuations instead of raising questions directly. , but also to make her feel that it is to maintain her personality independence and expand her world view. If you have thought of Olivier's story, you might as well ask her to read the book carefully once or twice, especially asking her to pay attention to that paragraph. Interlude. People like Jacqueline who only know love," "love," love are just a role in fairy tales. Not only can they not get love in the real world, they will not even be able to survive, because she knows nothing except love. Have nothing and love nothing. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

23. As long as you can be strong, I will feel relieved for the rest of my life ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

24. You can't be too busy on weekdays. When someone pulls you out, you have to make up for your homework. This will hinder your energy. Let’s just say no more for the sake of practicing piano. If you are not nervous, it is not advisable to be too busy; you would rather take some time to think quietly by yourself... Don't be too sentimental, sorry. If you make it a habit not to go out with others during working hours, you won't offend others. Life's energy is limited... ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

25. A child does not know loneliness. When a child is alone, he will create a world and many spiritual friends! ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

26. The most important thing for learning is "communication". Only by being knowledgeable can one not be rigid, pedantic, or Sourness does not mean bad habits; only by "passing" can you cultivate integrity, mind, and vision. Only by being "common" can one become "big". If one is not big and has no knowledge, there is a danger of sitting in a well and looking at the sky. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

27. Writing down your thoughts (whether in a letter or in other ways) is much different than just imagining in your mind. Writing it down requires correct and precise thinking, so the self-examination written on paper is particularly profound and leaves a deep impression on myself. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

28. Art cannot be limited to perceptual knowledge, nor can it be limited to rational knowledge. It must carry out the third step of emotional in-depth. In other words, what artists need most, besides reason, is the word "love"! The so-called innocent heart not only refers to purity and innocence, but also refers to love! There is a saying in French called "Great Heart", which means "love". The words "great heart" are really meaningful. And this love is by no means vulgar, the feelings of mother-in-law and mother-in-law, but a warm, sincere, white, noble, raging, and selfless love. Merely rational without emotion, of course, cannot express music - Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

29. People spend their whole lives floating in high tides and low tides. Only mediocre people live like stagnant water; Or you need to have extremely high cultivation to be free from fatigue and truly liberated. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

30. I have asked you about your financial situation repeatedly in the past, mainly to understand your material foundation and to speculate on how long it will take to reduce performances and strengthen study - not only Musical studies only. I understand very well that material life is not guaranteed in Western society, and any lofty ideals are out of the question. But the so-called material security depends first on your living standard, and secondly on whether you can arrange your income and expenditure, maintain a balance, and save regularly. The standard of living itself can go up or down, and there are countless degrees of good and bad, high and low levels; you need to think clearly and thoroughly about which level you are going to set - Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

31. Abandonment without fighting is hypocritical, detachment without suffering is frivolous, and a wise man who escapes from reality is cowardly. ——Fu Lei

32. Poets often say that love is blind, but love that is not blind is healthier and more reliable after all. ——Fu Lei "To live a good life"

33. There is no quick way to learn any knowledge, especially language. ——Fu Lei

34. Work hard to relax yourself mentally, and keep it in mind so that you can achieve good results. Nervousness is harmful to everything. ... With the concept of "I am doing my best", when you are nervous, immediately relax yourself. Treat your spirit just like you treat your hands and fingers. Pay attention to relaxation at all times. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

35. Art is your lifelong career. Art itself is already exciting. You must not be overly nervous when practicing piano. Life is limited, and energy is also limited. We must take a long-term view and run a marathon. You are an emotionally impulsive person, so you should restrain yourself more. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

36. As long as you fall down one after another, as long as you can get up, you will gradually climb to the top and transcend the ego. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letters"

37. "All great artists (whether they are composers, writers, painters...) must have both unique personality and universal humanity. We only need If you can discover the human nature in your heart, you will find a bridge of communication with the artist. Furthermore, if you can carefully understand and appreciate his unique personality, you will be able to fully understand a work of art.

——Of course, it is impossible to understand and feel exactly the same as the original author. The amount, depth, and breadth of understanding are still very different; and our own personality also plays a big role in this. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

38. The size and level of achievements are beyond our control. Half of them depend on human power and half of them depend on talent. But as long as you are strong, you are not afraid of failure or setbacks. Don't be afraid of blows------whether they are personnel, life, technology, or academic------blows. ——Fu Lei

39. Competition issues are certainly a heavy burden, but you must be mentally prepared anyway. As long as you try to put aside gains and losses as much as possible, you can be calm and completely relaxed mentally and physically. Only in this way can you hope to achieve good results... If you can often think of the famous saying "Essays are eternal, you know the gains and losses," you will definitely be much more relaxed mentally. Only in this way can we avoid the feeling of excessive fatigue and fatigue. The most tormenting thing is not mental work and physical work, but worry! ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei Family Letter"

40. Slowly, you will develop Treat the past with a different mood. It means being able to think of things without being frightened, being able to analyze the causes and consequences calmly and objectively, and making predictions about the future to avoid making the same mistakes again. Only when a person dares to face the past and mistakes and truly and thoroughly repent can he not be eroded by memory. I believe you will slowly learn this and become stronger. ——Fu Lei

41. Anyone who is obsessed with skills all day long is an art craftsman rather than an artist. If a person cannot escape this level, he will never dream of art in his life! Art is the goal, and skill is the means; those who always only pay attention to the means must forget its purpose. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

42. A person's life always rises and falls in high tides and low tides. Only mediocre people live like stagnant water. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

43. Your easy-going temper needs to be changed to some extent... When you are always among people, you will lack the opportunity to reflect; your thoughts, feelings, and emotions cannot be properly organized. ,induction. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

44. A person's service to the people does not necessarily require standing at a conference to give a speech or doing some earth-shattering undertaking. He can tell what he knows bit by bit anytime, anywhere, bit by bit. , tell others what comes to mind, which is invisibly sowing and cultivating for the country. ——Fu Lei

45. The size of our achievements is beyond our control. Half of it depends on manpower and half of it depends on talent. But as long as you are strong, you are not afraid of failure, setbacks, or blows—no matter it is Personnel, life, technology, academic - blow. ——Fu Lei

46. A person’s service to the people does not necessarily require standing at a conference to give a speech or doing some earth-shattering undertaking. He should tell others what he knows and thinks bit by bit anytime, anywhere. , invisibly sowing and cultivating for the country. ——Fu Lei

47. Only fools will turn around when they hit a nail; smart people will learn to behave when they see others suffer. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

48. If you don't use enough effort; you will never get good results if you don't suffer enough! ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

49. We know you You have a strong spirit of self-criticism, but your personal world is limited after all. People's praise of you can only encourage you. Different opinions can make you progress and expand your horizons. I hope you can think about it with a calm and open-minded attitude. ——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

50. Bitter tears are the wine that cultivates your soul - Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

51. Emotional trauma and destruction "is what wants you" Look at these things as the ashes of the soul. When you look at them, you can't help but feel a lot of emotions. But don't hurt yourself unforgettablely, but look at them with the same condolences as if you were looking at an ancient battlefield.

——Fu Lei's "Fu Lei's Family Letter"