If you are a person with a certain reputation or a certain official position, I am afraid it will be more difficult to be a "confidant" and it will be even more difficult to get out of the circle of narcissism. As Mr. Lu Xun said: "Celebrities are respected in society, and celebrities are often tempted by their admiration. If you don't stay vigilant, you will be stunned." So know yourself and strive to be a smart person. It is important for people to know themselves. The scary thing is that self-absorption is more dangerous than open challenge. Those who think they are right are not enough, and those who think they are wise are ignorant. After you understand yourself, you can understand others. Once the shooting star shows off its light in the brilliant starry sky, it ends everything. Self-exaltation will lead to danger, complacency will lead to overflowing. When you win, you think you are perfect. When you achieve great things, you take credit for yourself. When you have a high reputation, you feel arrogant. The ancients have classic discussions in this regard. Confucius said: "When three people walk together, there must be one who is my teacher." "Laozi" says: "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise." The French thinker Rousseau pointedly pointed out: "The reason why people are They make mistakes not because they don’t understand, but because they think they understand everything.” However, the proletarian revolutionary Comrade Xie Juezai humbly regards himself as a “patch” of the revolution. If the sages of ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, are like this, how much more can we, a common people like us, be far less wise? If you want to truly understand yourself, you must look at yourself from a different angle. First, "examine yourself." Look at yourself objectively, step out of yourself, and look at yourself, just like looking in a mirror, not only looking at the positive side, but also looking at the negative side; not only should you see your own highlights, but also be aware of your own flaws. This includes self-evaluation of one's own knowledge, abilities, personality, quality, etc., and avoid self-admiration or arrogance. Secondly, we should constantly improve ourselves, think of others when we see good ones, correct them if they are there, and encourage others if they are not. It should be noted that there is heaven outside the sky, and there are people outside the world. Only by truly understanding your own strengths and weaknesses, clarifying which ones need to be carried forward and which ones need to be avoided, avoiding your shortcomings and promoting your strong points, can you accurately position your life coordinates. Progress begins when you realize your shortcomings. 4. Know yourself, understand yourself, go deep into your heart, and don’t be confused by your own appearance.

Today’s society is a society with rapid economic and technological development. Competition is full of every corner of society. Although we have opponents all the time, and opponents are putting pressure on us all the time, but the real The enemy is ourselves. Our self often becomes the biggest stumbling block to our success. Many times, when we fail, the main reason is not because of any other reasons. The main reason often comes from ourselves, and it is us who hold ourselves back. In order for us not to hold ourselves back, we must know ourselves, understand ourselves, recognize our own strengths and weaknesses, make full use of our own strengths, avoid our own shortcomings, and correct our own shortcomings. Only when we know ourselves, can we maintain a normal mentality when we achieve results, and will not become proud and complacent, lose ourselves, and overestimate our abilities; only when we know ourselves can we maintain a normal attitude when encountering setbacks and failures. I will not be knocked down by it, I will continue to work hard for my set goals, and I will not underestimate myself. No one can succeed in a smooth sailing, and nothing can be accomplished without putting in any effort. When we encounter setbacks, when we retreat for various reasons, we must re-understand ourselves. , only on the basis of a correct understanding of ourselves can we regain our navigation coordinates and move towards victory. Many times, we always think that we are right, but when things come to fruition, we discover our mistakes. We often think that we fully understand ourselves, but in fact we are deceived by ourselves, or we are unwilling to be powerless. To understand ourselves, to know ourselves correctly, we are willing to be paralyzed by our own appearance.

Setting goals is an important way for us to cultivate and enhance self-control. In addition, we can also find our own idols, use them as our role models, and always adjust our actions and thoughts based on our idols. Idols can be revolutionary martyrs, national heroes, scientists, writers, athletes, business elites, outstanding classmates, etc. Generally speaking, the idols we choose should be people with relatively advanced ideas and greater contributions to society. Only in this way can we use idols as examples to motivate our own behavior and adjust our thoughts to play a better role. Of course, it’s okay to use singers and movie stars as role models. They also contribute to society and can at least play a positive role for us. If we take local gangster leaders, legendary thief, casino gamblers and other negative characters If you become an idol, it will only have a negative effect and push you into the abyss of failure or even crime. Many teenagers' bad habits are caused by negative influences.