Shakespeare has a famous saying: "Don't lend money to others, because lending it will make you lose both your life and wealth; don't borrow money from others, borrowing it will make you forget to be diligent and thrifty." I deeply believe it. .

There is a kind of person who would rather be frugal than ask others to borrow money no matter how difficult it is. Some people would rather borrow money to maintain their living standards.

It seems that borrowing money rarely ends up being embarrassing. What I usually hear the most is that someone lent money to someone and they still haven’t got it back. In the end, the two turned against each other.

I thought that this matter would not fall on me, because I was not well-off and did not have the ability to lend money to others.

But someone happened to talk to me, and the other person didn’t even have money to take the bus. In comparison, my situation is better. Don't help. It's so difficult to see the other person. According to your own ideas, it's not a last resort. Who is willing to open this mouth?

The money was loaned out, it wasn’t much, it was all I could get out at the time. The other party didn't say a specific return date. Maybe even he himself didn't know when he would be able to return it. I forgot that a few years later, he passed by me on business and gave me the money I paid back.

Later, the same situation happened again, and I even sent my daughter’s New Year’s money together. Not long after, I received a call from the other party at work. After a few words, he mentioned borrowing money again.

"I don't have any money on hand, and the salary hasn't been paid yet."

"Then help me ask your colleagues to borrow it first. Anyway, the salary will be paid soon."

"..."

Why do I feel so uncomfortable hearing this?

She said it was an urgent need, but after thinking about it, I had to ask my colleague if there was any money in the card and help me transfer the money to the other party. I would pay her back after my salary was paid.

As soon as your salary is paid, you should first pay back the money you borrowed from your colleagues, so that you can feel at ease. Owing money to others always feels like a big deal, and I feel at ease when I pay it back.

Later, I learned from others that he had not only borrowed money from me, but also from others. It seemed that he had borrowed money from everyone who could. It suddenly dawned on me that he was borrowing love from everywhere?

There is an old saying, "Rescue does not help the poor." It is not a normal phenomenon for a person to often ask others to borrow money. In today's society, as long as you are willing to work, you will always have an income, it's just a matter of how much. But when it comes to having to borrow money from time to time, this "emergency" is really a lot.

Some people say that in this case, it is better not to borrow. If it is not a real emergency, sometimes you think that borrowing money is helping him, but to some extent, it is harming him.

Therefore, when someone asks you to borrow money, you still have to ask clearly what the other person is using it for. After considering each situation, if you have the ability to lend him money and want to help him, it is best to do so in advance. There is an agreement, the so-called villain first, gentleman later, write the IOU and agree on the repayment period, this will be good for both parties.

If you feel that being so serious will hurt your feelings due to human feelings, it may hurt your feelings even more in the end. And this agreement is also a reminder to the other party, and thinking about the need to repay other people's money is also a motivation to work hard. Otherwise, borrowing may become a habit, and without the pressure of repaying money, you will not think about it as time goes by. Go and pay it back, and if you go and ask, the result is unpredictable. After all, the human nature is there.