Yesterday, I accidentally saw a news: "Brother Tai angered the villagers for seven years."

Brother Tai, I think everyone knows him, that is, Zhu Zhiwen, who was very popular on the Avenue of Stars.

After Zhu Zhiwen became popular, he took part in some Shang Yan and made some money. After earning money, Zhu Zhiwen did not forget to repay the villagers. He paid for the bridge and paved the road for the village.

Neighbors and villagers asked him for money, but he lent it out without saying anything, and the most one lent him 500 thousand.

Millions were lent out, but the villagers used their own money, and no one was willing to pay back the money.

In recent years, there have been fewer and fewer Shang Yan, and his hands have gradually hardened.

He went to these villagers to pay back the money, but the villagers didn't. Some villagers even scolded Brother Tai: "He should give every family a car."

For seven years, the account was fruitless. In desperation, Brother Tai exposed the villagers' IOUs.

"It's too chilling."

Why are the villagers unwilling to pay back the money?

"He is so rich, what's wrong with sending us flowers?"

02

This news of Brother Clothes reminds me of something that happened not long ago.

Ms. Huang, who lives in Binjiang District, Hangzhou, was driving a BMW across the intersection when an electric tricycle came head-on.

The driver is a young man, playing mobile phone while driving.

Ms. Huang kept honking her horn, hoping to attract the young man's attention, but the young man was so absorbed in playing that he didn't notice the horn at all. As a result, the tricycle hit the BMW.

The shell of BMW's left headlight is broken, and it will cost more than 13000 yuan to repair it.

However, the young man refused to pay compensation. He confidently said to Ms. Huang: "You are so rich that you don't lack the money. Why do I have to pay for it? I didn't lose so much when I hit Porsche last time. Why did I lose so much? "

This young man who hit a BMW has the same logic as a villager who borrowed money from Zhu Zhiwen-I am poor and I am right, and you deserve it if you are rich.

03

Why should I say these two things?

Because the moral kidnapping of "I am poor and I am reasonable" is becoming more and more common in life.

For example, the writer "Knife Song" said one thing:

She has a roommate who rubs as much as she can eat and use.

I used to steal everyone's cosmetics at first, and then I even stole them.

Another roommate, H, asked her for a theory, but she had the cheek to say, "I took it. What's wrong? " Your family is so rich, do you still care about this? My family is poor, how dare you care about me? "

Afterwards, she said everywhere: "H is the best, but after using a little cosmetics, she found fault." Unsurprisingly, the richer she is, the more stingy she is. "

It's her fault, but she is a bad person.

Examples like "I am poor and I am reasonable" happen around us almost every day.

If we talk to such people, they will use poverty as a weapon and kidnap us morally unscrupulously.

04

Others have the same logic as "I am poor, I am reasonable".

These people are called "I am weak and I am reasonable".

For example, blind people in Anhui go to college.

A blind man in Anhui was admitted to the university. Because there are no special facilities for the disabled in the school dormitory, the school communicated with the parents of the blind and decided to rent a house for him outside the school. Air conditioning, bathing and other facilities are complete, the house and school are separated by a wall, and the blind mother takes care of them.

The school bears all the accommodation expenses and provides a special team of teachers for blind students.

The parents of the blind agreed at first, but they were dissatisfied within two days and asked the school to provide nurses, disabled cars and guide dogs.

When I saw the news, I was very angry and felt that blind parents had gone too far.

The school can't meet their requirements, so they complain to the media everywhere that the school is not caring enough and discriminates against the disabled.

Their logic is: I am weak, so you should accommodate me and take care of me.

▲ The old man slapped the young man and forced him to give up his seat.

05

Those who like moral kidnapping are not only "I am poor and rational" and "I am weak and rational", but also "I am old and rational" and "I am uneducated and rational".

So, we often encounter such a thing:

"You are so rich now. What's wrong with me spending some money on you?"

"I am so miserable, shouldn't I ask you for help?"

"You are so young, shouldn't you give me your seat?"

"The child is so young, can't you make way for him?"

"You are a man, how can you be as knowledgeable as a woman?"

"You are a scholar, how can you dispute with an uneducated person like me?"

……

Poverty, weakness, old age, smallness, etc. have thus become the shields and amulets of some people.

Because I am poor, weak, old and young, you must help me unconditionally, tolerate me and let me take advantage, otherwise it is stingy, stingy, rude, immoral and heartless.

But everyone is a first-time person. Why should I let you go?

The strong help the weak, and the rich help the poor. It's just mutual affection, not duty.

06

I'll tell two more stories.

The first is the story of Wu Hengzhong in Chongqing.

▲ Wu Hengzhong and his wife

200 1 Mr. and Mrs. Wu Hengzhong, who are over 60 years old, separated from their son Wu Jun and lived on their own in order to reduce the burden on their son's family.

After separation, Wu Jun borrowed money everywhere, built a new house and bought a van.

In April, 2003, during a transportation, Wu Jun had a car accident and died on the spot.

Wu Jun left, but left a debt of 6.5438+0.9 million yuan.

The person who lent money to Wu Jun sighed: "This is over, the money is gone."

Just then, Wu Hengzhong came to the door.

Wu Hengzhong went door to door and asked, "Did my son lend you any money?"

If he borrows it, he will write it down in his notes.

"When Wu Jun borrowed money, people believed that he borrowed it, so someone died."

Wu Hengzhong decided to pay his son's debts.

He and his wife get up early and get greedy every day, reclaiming wasteland to grow vegetables and pay off debts.

It took Wu Hengzhong nine years to pay off his son's debts.

"This way, my heart will be practical." He said.

The second is the story of Xu Tao.

▲ Xu Tao and his parents

On 20 12, while visiting Weibo, Ceng Pengyu came across a "loan promise":

"Although wet behind the ears, but I borrow money from you with my personality. Because even a dollar and a dime is very important and helpful to me. I hope you can give me a detailed account number, and I will call you the money within 3~5 years. Because it is borrowed, I promise to give you 5% interest every year ... "

This promise was written by a college student named Xu Tao. His father has leukemia and needs 400,000 yuan for surgery.

Xu Tao's family was poor, so he had to borrow money from Weibo to raise money.

Ceng Pengyu was a little touched and donated a sum of money.

After donating money, Ceng Pengyu soon forgot about it.

On May 9, 20 15, Ceng Pengyu suddenly received a phone call:

"Hello, my name is Xu Tao ... I'm here to pay back the money."

Ceng Pengyu thought it was a scam and immediately hung up.

But Xu Tao kept calling, so Ceng Pengyu had to pick up the phone again.

After some conversation, Ceng Pengyu finally remembered.

Xu Tao said, "I'll pay you back today."

Ceng Pengyu said, "No need to return it."

But Xu Tao insisted on returning it, so Ceng Pengyu had to give him the account.

After a while, Ceng Pengyu received the money.

This money is more than his donation 10%.

Xu Tao wrote in the remittance message: "Two years, 5% interest every year, thank you."

I admire people like Wu Hengzhong and Xu Tao. "Although I am poor, I have a bottom line and dignity."

07

"Indian conscience" Aamir Hussain Khan, in the "Interview with the Truth" program, discussed the topic of respecting the elderly with a doctor:

In a lecture, a teenager asked me, "Sir, should we respect the elderly?"

I said, "No."

In our culture, respect is due.

But respect what?

Respect their behavior, not their age.

If a person's behavior is incorrect, then no matter how old he is, he can't be respected, but should be blamed.

I especially like Aamir Hussain Khan's interpretation of respect. ?

Aristotle famously said, "Equality means that the poor do not take advantage of the rich."

This sentence is extended:

Equality not only means that the rich do not bully the poor, but also means that the poor do not bully the rich.

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Fairness means not only that the strong do not bully the weak, but also that the weak do not bully the strong.

True equality means that everyone has a balance in his heart.