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Some time ago, the popular program "Heartbeat Signal" caused countless young people to pursue variety shows.

While relaxing, many people said that they suddenly had the feeling of being moved when they were young when they watched their little brothers and sisters fall in love sweetly on the show.

However, Sisi, a little sister of mine, was a little uncomfortable. After talking, she hesitated to tell the reason.

It turns out that Sisi's long-distance boyfriend is coming back from studying in Japan.

"But, I'm wondering whether to break up with him ..."

Sisi said that during her boyfriend's absence, although they often played videos and called each other to be caring and attentive, the untouchable gap was quietly emerging.

Moreover, there is another boy in Sisi's life, who is excellent, handsome and lively. Most importantly, there are many girls chasing him, but he is particularly concerned about Sisi.

He always cares about her life, buys her all kinds of small gifts, takes her to her favorite shopping malls, accompanies her around the street and tells jokes to make her happy. In short, her life seems to be lit up again with him.

She told me in frustration that she seems to be really attracted to this boy, and she can't help but want to chat with him, share interesting things with him, care about every comment he makes, and even sneak through his social account in the middle of the night to read every praise message from him ...

However, on the one hand, she has to endure the suffering that she can't get inside, on the other hand, she can't help but fall into self-condemnation and chagrin of betraying her boyfriend.

I want to control my desires, but I am worried about missing my true love. I am in a dilemma, like a swing that swings up and down.

I want to ask my friends who are in love: Have you ever felt the feeling of thinking?

I have a crush on another boy when I have a boyfriend, and I want to get out, but I can't extricate myself.

2.

In my opinion, heartbeat is human nature.

Being infatuated with someone is like seeing a beautiful new dress when shopping, and wondering whether to buy it. In fact, you know that you don't have that much money at all, and even have a similar one, but the feeling of giving up is still very painful.

however, have you ever wondered if you felt the same way when you bought this dress?

freshness will gradually fade away, and so will love. When love fades away from its fresh shell and is put aside in the trivial matters of life, you will find that the ending is the same.

"Don't trust the opposition party, it's all the same after taking office."

Zhang Ailing once said: When you marry a red rose, over time, the red rose becomes a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white rose is still so bright a gleam on the foot of my bed; Married a white rose, the white rose is a rice dregs on the clothes, and the red one is a Zhu Shazhi on the heart.

what you can't get is always the best, but that's just an illusion.

There is a story in the Buddhist Sutra. There is a spider in the temple. Every day, she looks at the believers who come to worship Buddha and gradually becomes spiritual. One day, she asks the Buddha, which is the best, what she can't get or what she has?

Buddha didn't say anything, so let her take a walk on earth.

The spider turned into a girl spider and fell in love with Ganlu's son, but Ganlu's son loved Princess Changfeng alone. Prince Zhicao was very fond of spiders, so she didn't understand and went to the Buddha to judge.

Buddha replied with a smile: "A thousand years ago, it was Changfeng who brought manna to the cobweb and took it away. It was just an episode in your life, but the grass admired you at the door for a thousand years, but you never saw it."

Spider realized that the most precious thing in the world is not the moment you can't get, but the moment you can have.

According to "Seven deadly sins of human nature", people have many desires, including sense of superiority, desire to conquer, etc. To be honest, it is difficult to define the degree of liking, and most of the time, we can't judge whether we really like someone.

so, don't jump to conclusions yet, the risk is too great.

to say the least, is it necessarily love to give up the person in front of you and be with another person?

There are many grades of love, and the love at first sight is at the bottom. It is not cheap, but it is not advanced.

3.

Another thing that must be considered is, do you have sufficient trial and error costs?

in other words, can you guarantee that if this person becomes a boyfriend, he will be happier in love than he is now?

These answers seem difficult to answer, so it's better to think and analyze from another angle:

Being able to get together with your current boyfriend means that there must be something you like about him, but as you get to know him better, he exposes all his shortcomings and the truest side.

However, no one is perfect, he is just an ordinary person.

and the one who let your deer bump into each other is also not a god.

Of course, love is different from marriage. If marriage is a cabin at the end of the forest, love is one jungle adventure after another, and the companions in the middle have a chance to change.

To the extreme, there are so many girls in love rat. Why can't better people love them?

In the movie leap year, Anna, the heroine, waited for her boyfriend Jeremy for four years, but never waited for his proposal, so she decided to fly to Berlin on the day of leap year to propose to her boyfriend.

On the way, she met Declan, the owner of the hotel. They made a lot of jokes in the dispute and cooperation, but they also fell in love with each other.

However, when she arrived in Berlin, she found out that her boyfriend Jeremy's proposal was actually for the house. Disappointed, Anna began to examine her feelings again: Is the marriage that she is obsessed with and blindly pursuing really what she wants?

Actually, love is very simple. Anna finally understands that although she missed so many scenery along the way, she also saw a really beautiful soul, that is Declan.

Therefore, having a boyfriend can't be a rope to bind a girl. If it's not true love, why fight with him to the end and miss the opportunity of true love?

However, it is gratifying to meet Anna in love in the film, but the reality is often not so simple and pure.

It is not ruled out that there is a way out for divorce after marriage, and it is normal to break up in love. However, everything has a price, so you should be careful when trying and making mistakes, and it doesn't matter if you don't have that much.

when the cost is extremely high, think twice before you act.

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I always feel that truly deep and beautiful love is not a trivial matter, it can stand the test of reality and time, and it will not be defeated by a momentary heart.

No matter what choice you make, there is no right or wrong. Emotion is a complicated and uncontrollable thing, and no one is qualified to judge right or wrong on the moral scale.

However, there are eight words that I particularly appreciate:

There is beauty in your heart and regret in your actions.

If you are really surrounded by a perfect and appropriate love, you must cherish it, and don't wait until you lose it before you regret it.

Emotion is a very private matter. Only you know whether you love it or not, and only you know about it.

Sakyamuni once said, "No matter who you meet, he is the one who should appear in your life. He has a reason and a mission. It is no accident that he will teach you something.".

So, at any time, please respect your heart, make a choice to please yourself, and leave no regrets.

And to all girls who deserve to be loved, I have a good wish, that is, I hope you will never experience those cruel moments of hesitation, and I hope to win one heart and never leave each other.

As Gu Man's novel Why Shengxiao Mo says:

"If that person has ever appeared in the world, then everyone else will make do, and I don't want to make do."

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