Can I go back to my parents' home on the winter solstice?
For years, we have had a saying here: "The winter solstice is not winter, and the winter will kill my father-in-law." That is to say, on the winter solstice, the married daughter can't go back to her mother's house for dinner, but must go back to her husband's house. Otherwise, it will be unlucky for my father-in-law. For this reason, I am puzzled. What does the daughter-in-law have to do with the happiness and disaster of the old man when she spends the winter solstice at her mother's house? Although everyone may have this idea, however, no one dares to violate it on purpose. In case the old man happens to have a disaster, who can bear the responsibility? Therefore, on the winter solstice, all the married daughters will go back to their husband's family.
Why can't I go back to my parents' home on the winter solstice
First, in the past, it was very difficult for my daughter-in-law to live in her husband's family. The feudal ethics of "three obedience and four virtues" is the biggest constraint for daughter-in-law. As a result, the daughter-in-law in her early years will pack up and go back to her parents' house after the busy farming (planting wheat in autumn), and live for a winter. After all, as the saying goes, a daughter feels free in a place where her parents' eggs are big; In my husband's family, I feel wronged even in a big place. Also, in the old society, the daughter didn't live in her mother's house, and outsiders wanted to joke. Look at his daughter, who lives in her husband's house all the year round and never comes back to her mother's house. She is so worthless that she can't live without a man. As a result, the busy farming is over, and everyone has to go back to their parents' homes for a winter. That's true, but for those young couples, it must be a hard ordeal. With the rule that "the winter solstice does not last, and the father-in-law dies in winter", the husband can take his wife home in an upright manner the day before the winter solstice. As for my wife, some will put on airs and say, I don't want to go back if it weren't for the solar terms. Actually, that's just lip service, and the reunion of husband and wife is also the wife's wish.
Secondly, in daily life, contradictions and entanglements inevitably arise between husband and wife and between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Those angry daughters-in-law always get angry and go back to their parents' house. Although the husband and the husband's family's deacon Presbyterian church have invited them many times, some wayward daughters-in-law still lose face. Well, the winter solstice is coming soon, and parents who are still reasonable will say: If the husband's family comes to pick you up again, go home. If we don't go back, people will laugh at us. As a result, the angry daughter-in-law will push the boat along the steps. A family conflict will be over.
thirdly, in those poor days, who would like to eat jiaozi to improve their lives, even a large family? With the saying that if you don't eat jiaozi on the winter solstice, your ears will be frozen off, and you can eat jiaozi in a winter. Poor families should also try their best to provide jiaozi for their children. Eating jiaozi means reunion. Can a daughter-in-law be reunited if she doesn't go home to eat? Therefore, it is natural to take your daughter-in-law home. However, eating jiaozi on the winter solstice is meaningless to modern people's life.
everyone's opinion that I don't go back to my parents' home on the winter solstice
@ That year has passed: it's all a lie, and there are still some places to say that I should go back! One place, one custom.
@ Tornado Twitter: This is a jingle. I didn't spend the first fifteen days at my parents' house. Is there any scientific reason?
@haoandrui: At what age are we talking about this? What about the door-to-door son-in-law
@ Kyle's Beibei: It's all superstition. In the past, the parents' custom that men are superior to women and fathers are above everything else, they can go wherever they like.
Some netizens also said:
@ My thoughts turn to sand: I'm not allowed to go back to my parents' house for dinner on August 15th. One year, I wanted to have a reunion festival with my mother, so I went back to the fifteenth. The locals were very surprised. My mother helped me out and said, My husband's family is not interested in this. My father-in-law has always been in good health and is over 8 years old! It seems that this statement is superstitious!
Although they know it's superstition, many people still have to do as the Romans do:
@ How about King Ben is a local tyrant? So I have to come back at 9 o'clock the night before!
@ Tongshan City Association: I have always known that this statement is unfounded, but don't let the old people commit taboos. Don't go back to your mother's house on this day.
@ Xuzhou Wang Yu: How embarrassing you are for the girls who want to go home for dinner!
taboo of winter solstice 1. Go home early
It is said that at midnight on this day, the yin is particularly heavy. If you stay in the wild, you will see the wonders of ghosts walking at night, so everyone should go home early on Ghost Festival. Don't work overtime today. If you really want to work overtime, go home and catch up.
2 Don't put chopsticks upside down
Don't put two chopsticks in the middle of the rice. It's like putting incense on an incense burner, which is a mode of worship. That person will think you are inviting him to share the food.
3 Don't swim and paddle
Don't swim in dangerous waters. It is said that the "water ghost" will find someone to be a scapegoat in order to be reborn ...
4 Don't be greedy for money
Don't pick up money from the roadside, which is used to buy off the cow's head and horse's face. If it infringes on their things, it will be easy for them to teach you a lesson
5 Don't look back