People often deal with different types of stress on different occasions, such as workplace, family disputes, intimate relationships and so on. On different occasions, the psychological resources needed seem completely different.

Then, under these circumstances, how to solve their internal contradictions internally and how to maintain relative emotional stability externally?

Emotions are protective for individuals, and each emotion has a corresponding function to help us understand our inner needs. For example, when we feel angry, anger reminds us to refuse or stay away from harmful experiences; When we are happy, happiness can help us to establish a safe relationship with others; When we are sad, it reminds us that some pains in our hearts need a safe release channel, and so on. Therefore, there is no good or bad mood. What is destructive is that we reject the need for emotional communication, or we mismanage it. In a person's life, emotions have a great influence. For example, if a child is born with a personality trait that is easy to satisfy, ta may be easily satisfied in the interaction with caregivers, and caregivers will be more easily satisfied in the process of raising children, so that caregivers will have more energy to invest in the interaction with their babies, and babies will be further satisfied from these interactions. This kind of satisfaction may attract caregivers to put more energy into ta, so that there will be a positive interaction between the baby and caregivers. However, if the child is difficult to raise at birth, it may make the breeder very anxious in the process of raising, and these anxious children will also feel it. When children feel their parents' anxiety, ta's inner world may become very fearful and even chaotic. Because as such a weak child, ta does not have the function of metabolizing these anxieties, and ta needs the help of caregivers' ability to accommodate these anxieties to release stress. Adaptation refers to a process in which children's anxiety is manifested, and parents receive these emotions as a container, but these emotions are filtered in their parents' bodies and become less harmful. Children will feel safe when they feel that their parents can handle these emotions calmly instead of being controlled by them. When we know more about the function of emotions, what we need to cultivate is the ability to experience emotions and understand them. When we are more familiar with and understand emotions, our ability to manage emotions will be stronger. Good emotional management ability also comes from our inner attitude towards ourselves and others. The more capable we are of loving ourselves, the more capable we are of loving others. When there is enough acceptance and respect for life in our personality, we also have the ability to choose a better way to manage our emotions. In social life, on the one hand, we need to learn various social norms to help us better adapt to society, on the other hand, we need to cultivate our emotional management ability and learn healthier expressions to develop constructive interpersonal relationships. You can try some simple tricks: 1 Listening is more important than speaking in interpersonal relationships. You should pay attention to the mood behind the words so as not to be disturbed by the literal meaning. Moreover, * * * emotional listening itself can help build good interpersonal relationships.

2. In interpersonal relationships, deal with emotions first, and then deal with things. Avoid dealing with things emotionally, which will make things worse.

3. When emotions are about to get out of control, stop yourself first and count to dozens before you speak. Many times, emotions are not so harmful.

4, try to express directly, rather than trying to understand yourself, without saying anything about each other, such expectations can only bring frustration to both sides.

The most important thing is to grow your own personality. When a person's personality is healthier, he is more capable of respecting himself, others and being loyal to himself. The more true a person is to himself, the easier the relationship with others will be.