Let me answer this question for a friend who took his daughter to the Netherlands in early March. In March, the domestic epidemic gradually decreased and we became the safest place in the world, while the epidemic began to break out abroad.

Her husband is Dutch. He returned to the Netherlands in December last year to start a business. He urgently needed her help because the epidemic lasted until March. So there is still a sense of belonging, otherwise it would not have passed during the worst period in Europe.

She said she didn’t feel any different before, except that she couldn’t order takeout at any time, and payment was still made in cash. From wearing a mask in the face of the epidemic, she saw a completely different side, one that felt very insecure. Wear a mask

Seeing that the domestic epidemic situation is getting better, I have been bored at home for two months, but I have to leave for the Netherlands. When Europe is in a serious situation, everyone does not wear a mask and has no intention to prevent the epidemic. People have blind confidence that their own immune system can survive.

A friend of mine works in catering. When he went out to hand out flyers, he was teased by children on the roadside. His husband said that customers would be reluctant to buy their takeaways when they see him wearing a mask. The pressure of wearing a mask is too great.

First I was afraid of being laughed at... now I am afraid of being criticized! Their concept is that healthy people should not wear masks and should donate them to medical staff.

Currently, the Netherlands has also suspended many tourist attractions and closed many museums, concert halls, cafes and entertainment venues. The Dutch, who used to parade on the streets where people came and went, were forced to stay at home and wait quietly for the epidemic to pass. Friends said that I just want to spend this year healthy.

It seems that living in our own country is really different from living in a foreign country. At least we can now gradually resume work, drive out, and have safe health.

Hello, my son has been living overseas for a long time. I communicate with him often. Because he is studying English major. So he went to Africa after graduating from college. Working as a translator in Africa. He worked in Africa for a year and a half. After returning from Africa, he went to Iran and stayed there for three years, also working as a translator. For three years in Iran, his life was pretty good. I also learned the local language and became familiar with the local culture. Later, he felt that his cultural level was somewhat insufficient. So I went to South Korea at my own expense. I have been studying and living in South Korea for a year and a half. These experiences gave him comprehensive training. Improve his ability to live independently.

First, the pace of life.

Through observation and communication, I discovered that when living abroad for a long time, it is actually very difficult to adapt to domestic life. I remember his first vacation back from Africa. When communicating with us, the rhythm does not match ours. Many times we can only speak and he can listen, but often he cannot respond to what we say. Because the pace of domestic development is too fast. Many countries and even developed countries cannot keep up with China's development speed. This has resulted in many people living overseas, especially those in the third least developed countries, whose pace of life overseas is far behind that of life at home. Therefore, it is difficult to adapt when you return to China, and you may even be unable to return to your country if you stay abroad for too long.

Second, eating habits.

Because he basically eats at home when he is at home. After going abroad, you may not be able to adapt to foreign eating habits. When he was in Africa, most of what he ate was something called Sousamian. It is eaten with your hands. During the time when he returned to China for vacation, I noticed that he had obviously lost a lot of weight. However, he also learned to cook for himself while abroad. Sometimes we teach him how to make dumplings and how to cook Chinese food online. Improve your life from time to time. Otherwise, if you don’t eat well, you will be homesick very easily.

Third, a sense of belonging.

Take my son’s life in South Korea as an example. He said that when he was in Korea, he spent most of his time with the Chinese in Korea. Little contact with locals. Most Chinese overseas are like this.

Maybe they are forced to live overseas due to livelihood or some other reasons. Even if you live for many years, you will not have a strong sense of belonging. My son speaks of Koreans in South Korea. Although they are both from the same ethnic group as South Korea, they do not have a strong sense of belonging. Most of the time, Koreans gather together. Because the culture, background, and history vary from country to country. Chinese people are still very patriotic abroad. After I left the country, I felt particularly patriotic. Once there are some inappropriate remarks about China abroad, the Chinese people, especially overseas Chinese, react particularly strongly. This overseas child’s heart is particularly strong abroad.

I hope many people are preparing to go abroad, whether it is travel or life. Everything goes smoothly and safely. Thanks!

Without the feeling of home, can you have a sense of belonging? Wandering, homeless, and wandering are not in line with the nature of modern people.

Hello, I am an immigrant from Canada. I am very happy to answer your questions with a video from my perspective. Thank you. Hope you like it.

Being overseas for a long time is like a big tree without roots, like duckweed floating on the water. Your thoughts and concepts will be out of touch with those at home. It’s very difficult to work overseas. When you return to your country to develop, you have to start a new business from scratch. An overseas that cannot be integrated into, a China that cannot be returned to. I am so confused. Even if I start over, I still hope to return to China and never live such an erratic life again.

Hello, although I have never lived overseas, I personally think that whether you have a sense of belonging depends on many factors. If you have a career and family overseas, and the whole family lives a happy life, I I think you will have a sense of belonging, but you will also miss your motherland and hometown at certain moments, just like "Xu Zhimo"'s "Nostalgia".

This is the same mentality as brothers who work far away from home. If he has a successful career and a harmonious family, he will have a sense of belonging there, and it will be his second hometown.

Brother, no matter where you are overseas or where you are, your mentality is also very important. Make yourself happy and your sense of belonging will increase with your achievements. There is a saying that goes: Once you get there, make peace with it. Take care

Having lived in New Zealand for a long time, let me answer my personal thoughts

The sense of belonging is different depending on everyone’s mentality

1. I am in New Zealand The part about having a sense of belonging: I am with my loved ones, my career is here, I have bought my own house through hard work, and have my own home. Because I am a local resident, I enjoy all medical benefits. Because the original family is not very warm, so there is no need I live a happy life as a supporter in China.

2. When I don’t have a sense of belonging: I don’t have many friends here. Everyone meets by chance, and the friendship is not very deep. I am more than 30 years old. It’s not easy to make good friends even at this age.

3. Especially when arguing with other ethnic groups about maintaining national unity, I feel very powerless. It’s really difficult to deal with one to many... Now During the outbreak of the new coronavirus, we wore masks overseas and attracted abuse from them, because they wore masks when they were sick, and we wore masks to protect ourselves. Whether it was a cultural conflict or they were discriminating, I really think about it at this time Returning to China

4. I think the people who feel the most touching are the parents of immigrants who have children. Many Chinese children cannot speak Chinese, but their parents are not very good at English... and the children When the school is all Westernized, there is a cultural war between China and the West within the family

So you can’t have your cake and eat it too

It will feel like a second hometown because of the local society. The culture, language, environment, etc. are all too familiar and I no longer feel like I am abroad. But I don’t have a 100% sense of belonging. The reason is simple, because no matter what, you are always a foreigner in the eyes of the locals.

I am a person with strong adaptability. I have lived on campus since middle school, and my university and postgraduate studies are all in other provinces. It takes more than 20 hours by train. After graduation, I went to Shenzhen alone, and later went to Guangzhou, where I worked for six years.

Then got married, moved to Türkiye, and currently live here for two years.

Two years is not a long time. When you face a strange world, a strange language, a strange religion, different living habits, and different tastes of food... it is unlikely that you will have a strong sense of security for the time being. sense of belonging. You can only slowly get used to the life here and accept many things that are completely different from before.

I remember that during this epidemic, when everyone was staying at home, a joke was circulated in the circle of friends: "Have you been staying at home recently... Can you only communicate with your friends through mobile phones? You want to ask your friends out to eat and play, but you can't. No place to go? Supermarket shopping has become one of the few opportunities to relax? Can’t see many people on the street? No public transportation? Can’t order takeout? Express delivery has become slow delivery and I don’t know when it will be delivered Delivered to? Congratulations, you have finally experienced the daily life of most overseas Chinese!" This is really not a joke, it is indeed a portrayal of my daily life.

After two years, I have basically adapted to life here, but there are still two issues that are still a bit tricky.

First, the breakfast issue. Turkish people are accustomed to eating breakfast at home, and almost all of it is raw or cold food. Looking at the huge table, it can be roughly divided into several categories: various jams, various cheeses, various olives, plus butter, bread, eggs, cut cucumbers and tomatoes, etc. If there is any hot food, it would probably be black tea. At that time, you will really miss the sumptuous breakfast in China: fried rice noodles, rice rolls, rice noodles, preserved egg porridge, tea eggs, soy milk fried dough sticks, glutinous rice chicken, quicksand buns, bamboo noodles... all steaming hot and fragrant, oh no Thinking about it, my mouth is watering.

The other is visiting. Turks like to visit each other and chat with each other. The host will prepare black tea and desserts, and sometimes invite guests to enjoy dinner. A visit lasts at least half a day. Leaving in a hurry is a sign of disrespect for the host. This is a sign of their hospitality and closeness. But this is different from the living habits of us Chinese, especially in big cities in China. Our relationship is very simple and we seldom visit each other. For us, home is a relatively private place and we will not be disturbed easily. There are default social places for friends, colleagues, and relatives to get together, such as coffee shops, restaurants, bars, parks, shopping malls, KTV, etc. Therefore, I am still not used to the Turkish people's enthusiastic habit of visiting each other. What's more, I don't understand their language very well, so it's inevitable to sit there and feel a little embarrassed. After the outbreak of the epidemic, the Turkish government called on everyone to stay at home. During this period, I felt a lot cleaner.

There is no perfect place in the world, we can only adapt to the environment. No matter where you are, you should be positive and optimistic, live seriously, and live brightly. No matter where you go, no matter what the weather is like, always bring your own sunshine.

Attached is a picture of the local breakfast