1. Although you cannot prevent others from making any unfair criticism of you, you can do one important thing. You can decide whether to let yourself be disturbed by those unfair criticisms. ——Carnegie "How to Win Friendship and Influence Others"

It is not sad to be an ordinary person. The most sad thing is that an ordinary pebble insists on treating itself as a sapphire, a grass He insists on making himself taller than the towering trees.

2. The only way to avoid all criticism is to just do what you think is right in your heart - because you will be criticized anyway, and you will be damned if you do it, and you will be damned if you don't do it. ——Roosevelt, "Roosevelt's Narrative: Out of the Crisis"

Because criticism will make people dissatisfied, name-calling will make people disgusted, humiliation will make people irritated, and threats will make people angry. Only tolerance makes people unable to avoid, retreat, stop, and resist.

3. No hobbies

One day, Li Shimin smiled and said to the ministers: "That goat nose has a straight face all day long. I don't know if there is anything that can tempt him." ?" The courtier next to Li Shimin replied, "Wei Zheng likes to be jealous of Qin."

The next day, Li Shimin gave a banquet, and the food reward included three cups of vinegar and celery. When Wei Zheng saw it, he moved his index finger. Before he finished the meal, the tableware for serving food was all gone. Li Shimin said, "Look, you said you have no hobbies. Now I finally see it." I don't dare to have any preference. I just like this one (vinegar celery)." Li Shimin sighed for a long time.

4. Insignificant

Many years ago, in the adult education classes and demonstration teaching sessions organized by Carnegie, there was a reporter from the New York "Sun". But his boss showed no mercy to Carnegie and constantly attacked Carnegie's work.

Carnegie was really angry at the time, thinking this was a great insult to him and could not tolerate it. Carnegie immediately called Gustitaya, chairman of the Sun's executive committee, and specifically asked him to publish an article to illustrate the truth and not to make such a mockery. Carnegie was determined that those who made mistakes would be punished as they deserved. "

Now Carnegie often feels ashamed for his actions at that time. Only now did Carnegie understand that about half of the people who bought that newspaper would not read the article, and half of the people who did read it They will treat it as a trivial matter; and half of the people who really noticed this article will forget about it after a few weeks.

5. We no longer think that the other person is the most perfect person in the world. Each of us secretly praises and criticizes the other person, and uses other people's standards to measure the other person's faults. - Leo Tolstoy, "War and War." "Peace"

Being a human being should be as broad-minded as the sea. Be generous, tolerant and peaceful, friends. As long as you can truly be tolerant of others, you will have a successful life.