1. Ancient Chinese verses about the gentleman
1. "The gentleman is magnanimous, but the villain is always worried" - "The Analects" The gentleman is magnanimous and broad-minded, while the villain is Often worried.
2. "Confucius said: A gentleman has nothing to fight for. He must also shoot! He bows and gives way to rise and drink, and his struggle is like a gentleman." - "The Analects" Confucius said: "What does a gentleman want to do? There is no fight. If there is a fight, it must be the archery competition! Both sides bow to each other and then go on stage. After shooting, this kind of fight is a gentleman's fight.
3. "Heaven moves vigorously, and a gentleman strives to constantly strive for self-improvement. - "Book of Changes·Qian Gua·Xiang" The movements of heaven are vigorous and vigorous, and a gentleman's conduct in the world should be like the sky, striving for self-improvement, being resolute, striving for improvement, and never Stop.
4. The earth's momentum is thick and gentle, and a gentleman should be virtuous to carry things. - "Book of Changes·Kun Gua·Xiang" Being strong and vigorous, a gentleman should consciously work hard and never let up.
5. "A man who is too generous is not a gentleman, and a man who is too small is not a gentleman." This is an ancient proverb that means a person who is narrow-minded and lacks tolerance is not worthy of being a husband. and the gentleman.
2. Are there any ancient texts related to the gentleman and the villain?
1. “The gentleman is about righteousness, and the villain is about benefit. "
From: "The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren")
"Yi" means "appropriate", that is to say, a gentleman always walks a suitable and right path. A villain is single-minded. Value self-interest, and it is easy to go astray driven by self-interest.
2. “A gentleman cherishes virtue, while a villain cherishes earthliness. A gentleman cherishes punishment, while a villain cherishes favor. "
From: "The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren"
That is to say, the things that the gentleman and the villain worry about every day are different. The gentleman cares about his own moral improvement every day, and the villain What he is thinking about is his hometown;
A gentleman always has rules and laws in his heart that cannot be exceeded, while a villain is full of thoughts about small favors and small advantages.
3 , "Be reserved without fighting, be gregarious without being party"
From: "The Analects of Confucius·Wei Linggong")
That is to say: a gentleman is gregarious, although he is solemn and dignified in his heart He is inviolable, but he never fights in a large group of people. At the same time, he will never form gangs and seek personal gain. This is what Confucius said: "A gentleman is harmonious but different." A villain is just the opposite. "Sameness but not harmony"
4. "A gentleman is not in comparison; a villain is not in comparison."
From: "The Analects of Confucius·Wei Zheng"
"Zhou" is able to unite and take care of many people. He interacts with people based on moral principles, so he has many like-minded friends. No matter how many friends a true gentleman has, he will be like oxygen in the air, making his friends feel happy and cared for.
The glyph "bi" looks like two people standing next to each other, which means that a villain likes to form a small circle and will not blend into a large group.
5. "A gentleman is magnanimous, but a villain has long-term relationships."
From: "The Analects of Confucius·Shuer"
The reason why villains like to collude with each other is It's because he has something in his heart and wants to seek personal gain and safeguard vested interests through this kind of collusion. This is exactly what the so-called "forming parties for private gain" means.
The gentleman is open-minded. Because he is calm and selfless, he can be peaceful and can get together with everyone with goodwill.
6. "It is easy for a gentleman to do things but difficult to explain. He does not explain them according to the way; he also uses tools to make people work. It is difficult for a villain to do things but it is easy to explain them. Although he does not explain them according to the way. , said; it also makes people seek to be prepared. "
From "The Analects of Confucius·Zilu"
Said, the same as "joy", happy. It is easy to get along with a gentleman, but it is difficult to please him. If you try to please him by unfair means, he will be unhappy.
You will never say that if you give him a small favor, he will give you the green light and open the back door. When he really uses you, he will arrange a suitable position for you based on your talents. This is called "Qizhi". 3. What are the classical Chinese texts that describe "a gentleman of high moral character"?
1. Wealth cannot be tainted, poverty cannot be moved, and power cannot be subdued.
Vernacular interpretation: Wealth cannot confuse his mind, poverty cannot change his conduct, and power cannot subdue his will.
Dynasty: Spring and Autumn Period
Author: Mencius
Source: Mencius? Teng Wengong: Wealth cannot be lascivious, poverty cannot be moved, power cannot bend.
2. Virtue is not alone, there must be neighbors
Vernacular interpretation: A moral person will not be isolated, there will definitely be people who think like him to get along with him.
Dynasty: Zhou
Author: Written by many people
Source: The Analects of Confucius? Li Ren: Virtue is not alone, there must be neighbors
Three , Be quiet to cultivate your character, be frugal to cultivate your virtue.
Vernacular definition: Use quiet reflection to perfect yourself, and use frugality to save money to cultivate your noble character.
Dynasty: Three Kingdoms and Shu
Author: Zhuge Liang
Source: ?"Book of Commandments": Quietness cultivates one's character, frugality cultivates virtue.
4. Dan can be polished but cannot take away its color, orchids can be burnt but cannot destroy its sweetness, jade can be broken but cannot change its whiteness, gold can be sold but cannot change its hardness.
Vernacular interpretation: cinnabar can be ground, but its red color cannot be taken away; orchids can be burned, but its fragrance cannot be wiped out; jade can be crushed, but its whiteness cannot be changed; gold can be melted, But it cannot change its firmness.
Dynasty: Northern Qi
Author: Liu Zhou
Source: "Liu Zi Da Zhi": Dan can be polished but its color cannot be taken away, orchid can be Burnt cannot destroy its sweetness; jade can be broken but cannot change its whiteness; gold can be sold but cannot change its hardness.
5. Be happy with the world and worry with the world.
Vernacular interpretation: rejoice with the people of the world, share the sorrows with the people of the world.
Dynasty: Spring and Autumn Period
Author: Mencius
Source: Mencius? His Majesty King Hui of Liang: Enjoy the world, worry about the world. 4. The meaning of the word "gentleman" in ancient Chinese
1. [gentleman]: a general term for rulers and noble men, often used in conjunction with "villain" or "savage".
That gentleman is here. ——"Poetry·Wei Feng·Fa Tan"
A gentleman is disdainful. ——"Teacher's Theory" by Han Yu of the Tang Dynasty
A gentleman has few desires. ——Sima Guang's "Exercise thrift and show prosperity"
A gentleman has few desires.
2. [a man of noble character]: In ancient times, it refers to a person with high status, and later it refers to a person with noble personality and good moral character.
Isn’t that a gentleman? ——"The Analects of Confucius"
A gentleman never fights. ——"Mencius Gongsun Chou"
A gentleman is knowledgeable. ——"Xunzi Encourages Learning"
The gentleman of flowers. ——"The Biography of Old Man Taro" by Zhou Rong of the Qing Dynasty
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Lotus is the gentleman of flowers. ——"Ai Lian Shuo"
The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, while the friendship between villains is as sweet as sweet wine. ——"Zhuangzi·Shanmu"
3. An honorific title to others [honorific title to thers], Mr. Youyan.
Gentleman’s writing. ——Li Chaowei of the Tang Dynasty, "The Biography of Liu Yi"
A gentleman climbs mountains. ——Gu Yanwu of the Ming Dynasty, "Fu'an Ji"
All the gentlemen of the same society. ——Ming Dynasty Zhang Pu's "Tombstones of Five People"
After the gentleman. ——Liang Qichao of the Qing Dynasty, "The Biography of Tan Si Tong"
The gentleman observed the king's admonishment to Renzong, and it can be said that he lived up to his duties. However, Renzong's good governance has been repeatedly seen in the annals of history, and it cannot be said that Wang Yue's guidance did not begin with him. If the king makes an appointment, he will follow the philosophy of Renzong. ——Volume 24 of Sikuquanshu's "Yupisuxuzhitongjiangangmu"
4. In the old days, the wife was called the husband.
"Poetry·Zhaonan·CaoChong": "I have not seen a gentleman, so I am worried." "Book of the Later Han Dynasty·Biography of Women·Cao Shi's Uncle Wife": "Advancement increases the shame of parents, retreat makes the gentleman tired." Li Xian's note: "A gentleman is called a husband." Tang Dynasty Li Bai's "Ancient Style" No. 27: "How can I get a gentleman to ride on a pair of flying luan." Sun Zhiwei of the Qing Dynasty "Lotus Picking Song" one: "I pick lotuses, Picking lotus and sending it to the gentleman. ”
5. Refers to the army of gentlemen in the Yue Kingdom in the Spring and Autumn Period.
"Guoyu·Wu": "The king of Yue has six thousand private soldiers as his central army." Wei Zhao notes: "The private soldiers and the ambitious people who are close to the king are the so-called virtuous ones in Wu. The so-called scholars. "The Capture of Huansha" by Chenyu of Ming Dynasty: "The King of Yue personally led one hundred thousand soldiers and six thousand gentlemen to cross Taihu Lake." See "Junzi Army". "Chronicles of the States of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty" Chapter 82: "King Gou Jian of Yue heard that the King of Wu had left the country, so he made a plan with Fan Li to send 2,000 troops from the Xi River, 40,000 handsome men, and 6,000 noble men to attack Wu from the sea and the river."
6. Good wine.
Volume 43 of "Lei Shuo" quotes Tang Huangfusong's "The Sun and the Moon in the Drunk Country": "Any wine...the one who intoxicates people with homemade mash and glutinous wine is a gentleman."
7. Bamboo The elegant name.
Song Dynasty Su Che's poem "Revival of Bamboo Shoots in the Forest": "Occasionally a thunderstorm is one foot deep, and I know that I am a gentleman in the South Garden." See "Junzi Bamboo".
The above comes from Baidu Encyclopedia 5. Ancient texts that show the style of a gentleman
Love Lotus said that among the flowers of water and land, the most lovely ones are fán (fán).
Tao Yuanming of Jin Dynasty only loved chrysanthemums. Since the Li and Tang Dynasties, people have loved peonies very much (some versions say it is very popular).
I only love the lotus that comes out of the mud but is not stained. It is clear and rippled but not demonic. It is straight in the middle and straight to the outside. It has no vines or branches. The fragrance is far away and clear, and the pavilion is pure. You can watch it from a distance but don't play with it (xiè). I say chrysanthemum, the flower that represents seclusion; peony, the flower that represents wealth and honor; lotus, the flower that represents the gentleman.
Yī! The love of chrysanthemums was well known by Empress Dowager Tao; the love of lotus, who can share it? The love of peony is suitable for everyone. Inscription on the humble house: The mountain is not high, but it is famous if there are immortals.
If the water is not deep, there will be a spirit if there is a dragon. This is a humble house, but I am virtuous.
The upper steps of the moss marks are green, and the grass color is green into the curtain. There are scholars who talk and laugh, but there are no white people who come and go.
You can tune the piano and read the Golden Sutra. There are no messy ears of silk and bamboo, and there is no laborious shape of case documents.
Zhuge Lu in Nanyang, Yunting in Xishuzi. Confucius said: "What is so shameless?" What is the style of a gentleman? Gentleman's style) refers to an upright person, a respectable person; a person with whom one can have deep connections in life; a person with whom one can rest assured in business; a person who is decent in language and work.
In ancient times, it was the style of a gentleman not to bow down for five buckets of rice. It was the style of a gentleman not to bow down and die exhausted. Later, it was the style of a gentleman. It was the style of a gentleman to be courteous and virtuous. It was also the style of a gentleman to be courteous and virtuous. It was also the style of a gentleman to even be a gentle lady. The following points are the expressions of a gentleman's style. Ancient Chinese scholar Zi said: Aspire to Tao, base on virtue, rely on benevolence, and play in art. According to the original text "Zhi Yu Tao", it can be interpreted as the metaphysical Tao, which means to aspire high and achieve the state you hope to achieve.
This "Tao" includes the Tao of Heaven and the Tao of humanity, both metaphysical and metaphysical. This is the most basic and highest purpose of teaching us to be determined.
Whether it can be done is another matter. Just like when everyone first came out to work in society when they were young, they all aspired to gain fame and wealth.
As far as making money is concerned, at least I hope to earn tens of millions of yuan. But despite my determination, in fact I only earn a few thousand yuan a month.
If you only get a few thousand yuan because you have a goal of tens of millions, then "don't do it!" If you don't want to go back to work! This shows that whether the ambition can be realized is another matter. Therefore, Confucius said that in learning, one must set high goals. This is the first meaning of "aiming for the Tao".
"Based on virtue", although the ambition must be lofty, it must start from humanity. The so-called way of heaven and humanity, the unity of nature and man, starts with moral behavior.
In other words, "aiming for the Tao" is to engage in philosophical thinking, and "according to virtue" is the behavior of living in the world. The ancients explained that virtue means gaining, and achieving results is virtue, so it is obvious , Confucius told us that thoughts are based on Tao, and actions are based on virtue. "Depend on benevolence", as has been said before, benevolence has a body and is useful.
The essence of benevolence is inner cultivation. The so-called study of life and mind is intrinsic. What manifests externally is loving people and loving things, such as universal love in Mozi’s thought and fraternity in Western culture.
"Relying on benevolence" means relying on benevolence. In other words, how Tao and virtue are developed depends on whether there is love for people and things. With this love, love for people, things, society, country, and the world will expand and expand to love the whole world.
This is the performance of Ren. "Rely on benevolence" and only then can you "play in art".
You are a swimmer, not a gamer. The art of "youyuyi" includes six arts: etiquette, music, archery, horsemanship, calligraphy, and mathematics. Confucius' education at that time focused on the six arts.
Among them, "ritual", in modern terms, includes all cultures including philosophy, politics, education, and society. As for modern arts such as dance, film, drama, music, art, etc., they belong to music.
"Shooting" refers to military and martial arts. In the past, it meant drawing a bow and shooting an arrow, which is equivalent to modern shooting, fighting skills, sports, etc.
"Royal" means driving. In modern terms, of course it also includes driving airplanes and spaceships. "Book", literature and history.
"Number" refers to science. All cultivation of talents and enrichment of life must be based on the cultivation of six arts. Art is by no means an art in a narrow sense.
In ancient China, there was no such subdivision. Everything that fell within the scope of the six arts was art. In life, we must understand the four key points of cultural and ideological cultivation: Tao, morality, benevolence, and art.
The first half of these four key points, "aim for Tao and base on virtue" includes spiritual thoughts, plus "depend on benevolence and play with art" as the criterion for life and conduct, which are all his principles. , and at the same time tell everyone that having these key points is called knowledge. Without lofty ideas, it would be too tacky, and a life that is too realistic will only bore you.
Without a certain basis for moral behavior, life is rootless and ultimately unable to mature. If there is no inner cultivation of benevolence, there will be no place to settle psychologically.
Without "playing in art", without profound knowledge and knowledge, life will be boring. Therefore, these four points are all important, and later generations have placed more emphasis on these four points. In fact, when talking about Confucian thought, we must develop balancedly from here.
Confucius said: A gentleman takes righteousness as a pledge, conducts it with etiquette, and uses it as a gift, and trusts it as a fulfillment. What a gentleman! Confucius said that a true intellectual must pay attention to his own responsibilities in life and pay attention to the four words meaning, etiquette, sun and faith. Be essentially righteous.
The meaning of righteousness here is, firstly, Mencius’ concept - righteousness means appropriateness, which means appropriateness and appropriateness. The second is traditional benevolence and righteousness - personality standards.
The third refers to the "study of principles" in addition to the "study of words and chapters" and the "study of recording hearings". ——The so-called philosophy and science in modern times are also the study of ethics. They all explore the highest principle of life-truth.
The "righteousness" of "a gentleman regards righteousness as quality" is also the righteousness of righteousness, which is used as the essence. The behavior expressed externally is etiquette, a behavior with a high degree of cultural accomplishment.
Sun is humble, very humble in attitude, not complacent or proud. Have faith in people and things, be true to your words, be confident and trust people.
Meeting these four conditions is the behavior of a gentleman, that is, an intellectual and a model personality. It is by no means comparable to "living in groups all day long, not being righteous in words, and being smart in doing good deeds." If you can't do this and just play around with small tricks, that's the end of it.
Confucius said: A person with lofty ideals and a benevolent person will not harm his benevolence by seeking life, but will kill himself to fulfill his benevolence. The phrase "sacrifice yourself to become a benevolent person" is commonly used in the Analects of Confucius. It was said by Confucius.
We will not explain this benevolence here. From the above discussion to the following, it is said that "benevolence" is the center of Confucian learning. In today's terms, it is the central idea. The so-called benevolent people do not want to live in order to harm their benevolence. For example, there are many religious people who would rather lay down their lives when encountering something that conflicts with their beliefs. 6. Looking for ancient poems that describe a gentleman
A gentleman has no tools. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Wei Zheng")
"A gentleman is likened to righteousness, and a villain is likened to benefit. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren")
"A gentleman wants to be slow in words but quick in deeds. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren")
"A gentleman uses literature to make friends, and friends to support benevolence. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Yan Yuan")
"A gentleman has no worries and no fears. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Yan Yuan")
"The beauty of a gentleman is not the evil of a man. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Yan Yuan")
"A gentleman only has no scruples in what he says. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Zilu")
"A gentleman is peaceful but not arrogant, and a villain is arrogant but not peaceful. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Zilu")
"Therefore, a gentleman will do everything to the best of his ability. " ("University")
——Ancient Poetry
Liu Yu of the Tang Dynasty Xiting Bamboo
The lead powder knots of the polyester are exposed, and the green jade branches are shaken by the wind.
Yiyi is like a gentleman, no place is suitable for him.
Tangjia Island cherishes his friends in the rain.
Thinking of a gentleman in the rain, he tastes tea close to the bamboo.
Confucianism is adjacent to the ancient temple, and it is autumn again.
Li Xian of the Tang Dynasty acted as a gentleman. , It's still Kuang's favour.
Liu Yelang of the Tang Dynasty heard that he was not aware of it
The saint in the north was singing Taikang, and the gentleman in the south was wandering around.
The Han Dynasty listens to the music played by Jun Tian, ??wishing that the wind would blow it until the night.
In the Tang Dynasty, Du Mu and Linghu Shiyu admired the grass
Ordinary poems are as clever as spring, and they are happy. The quiet pavilion is full of fresh grass.
Originally it was more fragrant than a gentleman.
Song Xin Qiji settled the storm.
The cold moon is in the water and stone city. The sky is blue and green, and the heart is like iron. The gentleman is fine and has a bamboo stick, but he is so busy. The left yellow silk sentence. Who wrote. Silver hook grass is cool in the evening 7. I beg for all the ancient classical Chinese sentences containing the word "junzi"
Gentleman is generally a Confucian concept. I will give you " "The Analects of Confucius" and "The Book of Changes", take a look
There are sources and translations
The gentleman in "The Analects of Confucius"
(1) "The gentleman It is likened to righteousness, and the villain is likened to benefit. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren")
"Righteousness" means "appropriateness", that is to say, a gentleman always follows a suitable and righteous path. A villain, on the other hand, values ??self-interest and is driven by self-interest. It is easy to go astray.
(2) “A gentleman cherishes virtue, while a villain cherishes earthliness. A gentleman cherishes punishment, while a villain cherishes favor. " ("The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren")
That is to say, the things that the gentleman and the villain worry about every day are different.
What the gentleman cares about every day is his own moral improvement, and the villain What he thinks about is his hometown; a gentleman always has rules and regulations in his heart that cannot be exceeded, while a villain is full of thoughts about small favors and small gains.
(3) "Be respectful and don't argue. "A gregarious person but not a party" ("The Analects of Confucius: Wei Linggong")
That is to say: a gentleman is gregarious. Although he is solemn and solemn in his heart, he never fights in a large group of people. At the same time, he will never form cliques and seek personal gain. This is what Confucius said: "The gentleman is harmonious but different" ("The Analects of Confucius"). The villain is just the opposite, he is "similar but not harmonious" ( "The Analects of Confucius·Zilu").
We often see this scene in life: when everyone is discussing a matter, before the leader has finished speaking, someone will immediately jump out and say, yes, yes, yes, What the leader said was really good, and he said a lot of nice things like being lofty and far-sighted. But after the meeting, he would turn around and say to others, "Hey, what did this leader say? I don't agree with it at all?" His point of view!
Regarding the difference between the behavior of a gentleman and a villain, Confucius also said, "A gentleman is not in competition with others, but a villain is in competition with others but not in Zhou Dynasty" ("The Analects of Confucius").
"Zhou" is able to unite and take care of many people. He interacts with people based on moral principles, so he has many like-minded friends. No matter how many friends a true gentleman has, he will be like oxygen in the air, making his friends feel happy and cared for. The character "bi" looks like two people standing next to each other, which means that a villain likes to form a small circle and will not blend into a large group.
(4) "A gentleman is magnanimous, and a villain has long-term relationships" ("The Analects·Shuer")
The reason why villains like to collude with each other is because they have something in their hearts. Ghost, want to seek personal gain and safeguard vested interests through this collusion. This is exactly what the so-called "forming parties for private gain" means. A gentleman is open-minded. Because he is calm and selfless, he can be peaceful and come together with everyone with goodwill.
(5) "It is easy for a gentleman to do things but difficult to explain. He does not explain them in a way, and he does not explain them in a way; he also uses tools to make people work. It is difficult for a villain to do things but it is easy to explain them. Although he does not explain them in a way "Tao means speaking; it also enables people to be prepared." ("The Analects of Confucius·Zilu")
It is the same as "joy", which means happiness. It is easy to get along with a gentleman, but it is difficult to please him. If you try to please him by unfair means, he will be unhappy. You will never say that if you give him a small favor, he will give you the green light and open the back door. When he really uses you, he will arrange a suitable position for you based on your talents. This is called "Qizhi".
The characteristic of a villain is that it is easy for you to please him, but it is difficult for you to get along with him. There are many such people in life. For example, if you give him a small favor, do him a small favor, or even treat him to a drink, this person will be very happy. Even if the way you please him is unethical and unfair, he will still be happy. But it is very difficult for such people to get things done. You must not think that if you win his temporary favor, he will be very loyal and give you the green light all the way. Although you have spent a lot of effort and money to open up the joints, when he really wants to use someone, he will You will not be assigned a job based on your talents. Instead, they seek perfection and blame, feeling that you are not qualified here and that you are not up to standard there, and everything you have done before is in vain. He will try to make things difficult for you and make you feel embarrassed. So it is difficult for you to get along with such a person.
The gentleman in "The Book of Changes": When the sky moves vigorously, a gentleman strives to constantly strive for self-improvement; when the terrain is weak, a gentleman carries things with great virtue.
The previous sentence "As heaven moves vigorously, a gentleman strives to constantly strive for self-improvement" is more widely circulated. But over the past two thousand years, there have been many people who know it and few people who can understand it. Moreover, there are still different interpretations in the academic community, and currently, there seems to be no generally accepted correct interpretation. 8. I want to write a review about "Junzi", please help provide some information,
Gentleman 1. Ideal self-cultivation personality - Gentleman "Benevolence" is the highest state of Confucian ethics and morality, but , when it comes to a person’s specific cultivation, “gentleman” is his ideal personality model.
Zeng Shen emphasized that "a gentleman uses literature to make friends, and friends to support benevolence" ("The Analects of Confucius? Yan Yuan"). Trying to use the establishment of the gentleman to assist the realization of the cultivation of benevolence or to implement the high standards of benevolence into specific practice-the gentleman's personality.
Regarding the meaning and requirements of a gentleman, Confucius once said: "A gentleman has nine thoughts: seeing wisely, listening wisely, looking warmly, looking respectful, speaking loyally, doing things respectfully, and questioning. "It is difficult to think about anger, but to think about meaning after seeing it." ("The Analects of Confucius·Ji Shi") talks about it more broadly, but only talks about the general principles in all aspects of speech and behavior.
Zeng Shen then entered into more specific requirements. He said: "A gentleman has three things, food and drink are not among them.
A gentleman has three pleasures, and bells, chimes, harps, and harps are not among them... There are relatives to fear, a king to serve, and children to leave behind. This is the only joy; There are relatives to fear, a king to go to, and children to be angry with, these are the two joys; having a king to be compared to, friends to help, these are the three joys... Learn it when you are young, and forget it when you grow up, this is a waste; There are two costs for serving the king and taking the responsibility lightly; there are three costs for making friends for a long time and losing them."
("Anthology of Han Shi Wai Zhuan") In addition, "Zengzi established affairs". The chapter also contains a lot of strict requirements for gentlemen, such as: "A gentleman will not deny others' pleasure or fulfill others' courtesy. He will not hesitate when he comes and he will not be careful when he goes. He will not slander those who leave and will not bribe them when they return. This can also be said.
A gentleman is respectful but not difficult, comfortable but not flattering, generous but not indulgent, generous but not frugal, and straight but not stubborn." He also said: "When a gentleman enters a country, he does not use taboos, does not violate taboos, does not accept fancy clothes, and does not fear offensive words. Therefore, he says: "Instead of being extravagant, it is better to be thrifty; instead of being arrogant, it is better to be fluent." ”
Obviously, the definition of a gentleman greatly exceeds the specificity and strictness of the “Nine Thoughts”, although it does not exceed the scope requirements of the “Nine Thoughts”. Throughout the history of Chinese thought and culture, this kind of division has The style of discipleship is very representative.
Because Zeng Shen’s school’s requirements for “gentlemen” are too strict, sometimes it can’t help but reveal some flavor of Taoism. The chapter also says: "A gentleman will never be petty, nor will he waste his time on others. When he acts in a humble way, he will not be insignificant to others. If others know it, he will do so. If others don't know, I will know it myself. A gentleman will stick to this all his life." "
"A gentleman sees benefit and thinks of disgrace, sees evil and thinks of criticism, is addicted to lust and thinks of shame, and is angry and thinks of trouble. A gentleman will fight this battle all his life.
"This kind of careful attitude in life, although its requirements are basically within the scope of Confucianism, but using Taoist logic to demand a gentleman has a tendency to be passive and avoidant.
This tendency , may be what Zeng Shen wanted to avoid at the beginning, but the development of his thoughts, like many other things that people can participate in, will undergo deformation that is difficult to grasp after it reaches a certain level. < /p>
2. Original concept of modern people: What is a gentleman? We need to borrow metaphors from the ancients: When Confucius cursed people, he just called them "villains". There is also a famous saying that "a gentleman is a metaphor for righteousness, and a villain is a metaphor for profit." . The oldest meaning of a gentleman mainly refers to a person who is educated and has good moral character. However, ordinary people do not have the opportunity to receive education, so they are also called "villains" together with those who have no virtue... What is a gentleman? A friend said: During the dinner, we were talking about "what is a good man". I asked my friend, do you think you are a good man? He thought for a while and said: "I don't know what the definition of a good man is, but I am a person who sticks to my word, and can be called a "gentleman" because the definition of a gentleman is one who has a sense of responsibility and does not make promises easily, but can definitely do what he says. Of course, he must do what he says. Determine the criticality of the matter.
In modern society, it is difficult to be responsible for various interpersonal relationships and roles... " I also thought about it and replied: "Actually, it's not just about what he says. A person who is punctual, not easy to let go, and not easy to act arbitrarily, such as "using alcohol to commit murder", can also be included in the gentleman's list. Make peace with a good man or something! "Actually, we girls are shouting every day to find a good man, with the demeanor of a gentleman and the demeanor of a general.
In fact, our requirements are not very high. Unfortunately, it may be difficult for men.
Because people who bear the name of gentleman must be very considerate of the feelings of the people around them and take care of their families. Unfortunately, for gentleman, the details of life that they are accustomed to will definitely bring them no real freedom and ease. Baggage. The benefits of being a gentleman are now fashionable: Men are not bad, women don’t like them. Some men like to pretend to be “gentlemen” and treat the women they love so submissively, causing women to fall into the trap of gentleness and change completely.
Women are curious animals by nature, and they will feel puzzled, persistent, and unbelievable, and love and hate them at the same time. In fact, observing a man carefully and keenly does not rely on simple superficial gentlemanly demeanor, but should understand more! His living conditions, treatment of others, whether everyone is equal, don't believe that he only loves you and pleases you. As long as he treats you well, he will not consider anything else. The disadvantages of a gentleman: If you really are. If you fall in love with a gentleman, I advise you to be mentally prepared to accompany him to bear the pressure, because he will have many friends, socialize a lot, and even have fun.
At this time, sensitive women will have a certain attitude. It's a sour taste, and I admit my bad luck behind my back. There are so many men in the world, why should I choose a gentleman and let myself pay for him silently? However, I believe that gentlemen must know how to be grateful and full of expectations and beauty. Fantasy, because in their world, they are the most perfect, so they always look forward to the perfect you appearing to advance and retreat with them and grow old together
Gentleman = persistence because of the way a gentleman treats things and things. It is often very decent, so it is a kind of consciousness that drives him to persist. We can define it as "persistent". A persistent person will treat life rationally and pursue perfection in everything. Because the reputation of a gentleman is gorgeous and glorious, I am full of heart. I wish such people can escape and find their own goals in life and a world of their own! "Book of Changes" says: If the sky is strong, a gentleman will strive for self-improvement; if the terrain is good, a gentleman will carry things with great virtue.
The previous sentence "Heaven moves vigorously, and a gentleman constantly strives for self-improvement" has been more widely circulated. However, over the past two thousand years, there have been many people who know it and few people who can understand it.
Moreover, there are still different interpretations in the academic world. At present, there seems to be no generally accepted correct interpretation of the original text of the Book of Changes.