True friendship can stand the test.

The principle of never giving up friendship

Friendship needs understanding, trust and tolerance.

Friends should also respect each other.

Friends should help each other and be brave in giving.

Friendship has no distinction between high and low.

Don't be fooled by false friendship.

It is shameful to betray friendship for personal gain.

Friends should also remind mistakes.

well-known saying

Friends are such a group of people, who are easy to forget when you are happy, the first person you want to find when you are in pain, the person who doesn't say thank you when you help you, the person who doesn't feel guilty after being disturbed, the person who won't treat you differently when you fail in Maicheng, and the person whose name will never change when you are promoted step by step. -Cui Yongyuan

Only the true feelings between heaven and earth are the noblest and most precious, and life has a bosom friend. Even if there is fate, we should cherish and preserve it well, just like an old bottle of red wine, the longer it lasts, the more mellow it becomes. -Li Ge

Friendship is like flowers, it is best to be faint. The weaker the fragrance, the more attached it is, and the longer it lasts.

-Xi Murong

It is enough to have a bosom friend in life, and we should treat them with the same mind. -Lu Xun

The only way to find friends is to make friends with others. Emerson

We should treat like-minded people as friends, not like-minded people as friends. -Roland

When we are lucky, our friends know us, but when we are unlucky, we know our friends. bacon

One of the unique functions of friendship is that if you tell a friend that you are happy, you will get two happiness; If you pour out your troubles to a friend, you will be divided into half. bacon

Choose friends slowly, and change friends more slowly. Franklin

There are people who help others. However, only those who can sincerely wish you happiness without jealousy can be called true friends. Heine

A friendship that grows inch by inch like an oak tree is more reliable than a friendship that suddenly jumps like a melon vine.

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What helps us the most is not the practical help of our friends, but our belief in their help.

Epicurus

Knowing each other is the most important thing. When people know each other, it is very important to know each other. -Mencius

There are three friends who benefit and three friends who suffer. Friends are frank, friends forgive and friends listen more, which is beneficial. Friends make friends, friendly and soft, and friends will be destroyed and damaged.

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There is no distinction between old and young in life. Why should we get along first? -Du Fu

Those who combine kindness are called bosom friends; A soul mate is called a bosom friend. -Feng Menglong

There are no happy friends and no happy friends in the world. -Pu Songling

We have three kinds of friends: those who love us, those who are not interested in us and those who hate us. -Shang Fuer

We know each other all over the world, and how many people are close. anonymous

Classic material

Clinton "tore Masu"

(Friendship should also adhere to principles)

David Watkins is the executive director of the White House and Clinton's closest golf partner. A few years ago, he was exposed by public opinion because he used the presidential plane without authorization and had a "free tour" of golf with two assistants. David not only had to pay back all the expenses of this trip, but also was beheaded by Clinton with tears in his eyes, and he was dismissed on the same day. Perhaps Clinton can't stand it, but as a president of a country, he should distinguish between public and private. When he took office, he said that he would rectify bureaucracy. In order to be responsible for what you say, even a good friend should do business.

Hepburn and her designer

(* * * Like-minded, build long-term friendship)

As we all know, Audrey Hepburn is Givenchy's best clothing spokesman. Hepburn hardly wore non-Givenchy clothes all his life except most of his clothes. Because of their high interest in clothes, the two became the closest friends. No matter how repeated Hepburn's career and love, this great friendship never wavered and accompanied them all their lives.

Even before they met, Hepburn was fascinated by Givenchy's simple, elegant and sexy design style. After getting paid for her first performance of Roman Holiday, she went to the store and bought a Givenchy coat at the original price. Later, the director introduced Givenchy to Hepburn in order to select some original clothes from Paris designers for the upcoming film "The Dragon and the Phoenix Match". Givenchy couldn't find time to design them for her alone, so she decided to choose some ready-made clothes. It was Hepburn's choice-later, she wore several sets of clothes in "The Dragon and the Phoenix Match", which made Givenchy marvel at her unique aesthetics and impressed her from then on. Since this film, they have cooperated in 18 films. Not only did Givenchy design the wedding dresses for Hepburn's two weddings, but he also made her last shroud. Hepburn's appreciation of Givenchy is sincere. He never charges for his publicity, and even buys his perfume in the shop.

1957, in the year when Givenchy Perfume Company was founded, he also launched two perfumes, one was "Lede Givenchy" and the other was dedicated to Audrey? I love you by Hepburn.

Washington and Payne

(Turn enemies into friends)

1754, when Washington was a colonel, he led the army to be stationed in Alexandria. During the election for the Virginia legislature, a man named william penn opposed the candidate supported by Washington. At the same time, on a specific issue about the election, the two men formed a confrontation. Washington's rude remarks offended Payne; In a rage, Payne knocked Washington down with one punch. Washington's men were furious when they heard the news, and the troops immediately came to prepare to teach Payne a lesson. Washington stopped them on the spot and persuaded them to return to the camp, so a war was temporarily avoided.

Early the next morning, Washington sent Payne a note asking him to come to a small local hotel as soon as possible. Payne thought Washington was going to duel with him, but found a sumptuous banquet in the hotel. Seeing Payne's arrival, Washington immediately stood up to greet him, smiled and held out his hand and said, "Mr Payne, it is human nature to make mistakes, and it is a glorious thing to correct them. I believe I was wrong yesterday, and you are satisfied to some extent. If you think it can be solved here, then hold my hand and let's make friends. " Payne held his hand tightly and said, "Mr. Washington, you are a noble man." If you become a great man in the future, Payne will be your permanent follower. "Payne was right. Later, Washington really became a great man revered by generations of American people. Payne didn't break his word. Until his death, he was a loyal follower and fanatic admirer of Washington.

Two scientists who are compatible with water and fire

People with different personalities can also become friends.

In the19th century, there were two German chemists-Justus von Liebig and Willer. Their cooperation and friendship is an anecdote in the history of science and ethics. Justus von Liebig's character is fierce, bright, brave, confident, aggressive and full of energy, while Wheeler's character is gentle, calm, patient and knowledgeable, even if he is attacked. One is "fire" and the other is "basin of cold water". However, these two scientists with different personalities have cooperated closely for a long time and made great contributions to the development of chemistry. They have the same feelings, the same science and the same knowledge, so water and fire are compatible.

Justus von Liebig wrote in his autobiography: "I have great luck, that is, I can get a friend with similar interests and goals. After so many years, my friends and I still cooperate with the greatest enthusiasm ... we are not jealous and work together. When this one wants to act, that one is ready. "

A writer who sleeps together.

(Different family backgrounds will not affect friendship)

Goethe and Schiller are the two most famous German poets at the end of18th century. Goethe became famous in his twenties and became a minister of state in his early thirties. He was born in a rich family and lived a noble life all his life. Schiller, ten years younger than him, was born in poverty and had a rough life. Although Schiller was famous in the literary world when he was in his twenties, poverty and illness always accompanied him. Nevertheless, Goethe and Schiller maintained a sincere friendship.

Schiller's friendship and diligence made Goethe start from wealth and enjoyment, pick up a pen and write again. The appearance of many famous works, including Faust, is inseparable from Schiller's influence. Goethe said to Schiller affectionately, "You gave me a second youth and made me a poet again-I am no longer a poet." Encouraged by his friends, Schiller finished his last masterpiece William despite his illness. The material of this work is provided by Goethe.

Together, they published Goddess magazine, co-sponsored the literary publication Steam Wheel, and * * * published the poetry collection Ke Seenyen. They are often conceived and drafted by one person, revised and polished by another, and then published. The power of mutual assistance makes their literary works shine.

Hearing the news of Schiller's early death, Goethe said sadly, "I lost half my existence." Twenty-seven years later, Goethe also died, and his relatives buried him with Schiller according to Goethe's wishes.

Forget to make friends in the art world

(Age difference will not affect friendship)

Fu Lei (1908 ~ 1966) is an outstanding translator and literary critic in China. Huang (1865 ~ 1955), a famous painter in China, is a pair of close friends who forget the year after 43 years. They met in the late 1920s, when Fu Lei was only in his twenties and Huang was nearly old. When Fu Lei studied in France in his early years, he not only studied liberal arts at the University of Paris, but also studied at the Louvre School of Art and History. After returning to China, he taught art history at Shanghai Academy of Fine Arts. Therefore, they share the same interests, and it was really a pleasant encounter.

In Fu Lei's Letters Collection, there are 1 1943 letters written by Fu Lei to Huang, starting from 1943 and ending at 1955, which lasted for 13 years. The book is full of spiritual harmony between masters and critics.

According to Huang's youngest son's memory, it was extremely difficult for the Huang family of six to live in Beiping on a monthly salary of more than 100 yuan during the isolated island period of the Anti-Japanese War. As a last resort, he also sold the paintings of the "Four Kings" collected at home. Huang's 80th birthday 1944, Fu Lei held an exhibition of paintings on his 80th birthday in Shanghai and published his paintings. At that time, Huang was trapped in Beijing and everything was handled by Fu Lei. He ran around and spared no effort to praise Huang Dajia in the "special issue" of the exhibition. There are many related matters in the letter, such as "Attached to the general table of paintings and calligraphy sent to Shanghai by old customers, the details of paintings and calligraphy received by Fu Zhai" and "Attached to the general table of accounts handled by Huang Binweng, a descendant of the Painting Association", which shows that Fu Lei's "righteousness and benefit are very important and unambiguous".

The Debate between Marx and Engels

Argument will not damage friendship.

French scientists are better than? Tremaud wrote a book called The Origin and Variation of Humans and Other Organisms. After reading it, Marx thought: "This is a very good book, which is still a great progress compared with Darwin." But Engels read it, but he held the opposite opinion: "This book is worthless!" To this end, two close friends are fighting with each other. Finally, Marx moved closer to Engels' viewpoint. However, Engels was not happy that he won. He said sincerely, "Without Marx's opinion, I could not have known the truth so clearly."

Lv Dai's friend.

Friends should remind each other of their mistakes.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Lv Dai (160 ~ 256) and Xu Yuan were good friends. Xu Yuan is straightforward and highly recommended by Lv Dai. However, Lv Dai occasionally makes mistakes. Loyal and bold, Xu Yuan always criticizes him in public. Some people think this is too much. When he went to Lv Dai to speak ill of him, Lv Dai lamented: "This is why I respect Xu Yuan!" After Xu Yuan's death, Lv Dai said sadly, "My good friend, now that you have passed away, where can I hear about the mistakes I have made since then?" What Lv Dai said can only be said by people who truly understand friendship.

New edition of world stories

(Different ways, different goals)

Guan Ning and Hua Xin in the Eastern Han Dynasty were good friends when they were young. They often study together and have close contacts. Later, through some small things, Guan Ning saw Hua Xin's low character and broke up with him.

It turned out that once they were loosening the soil and weeding in the garden, they suddenly hoed out a piece of gold from the soil. Ning Guan else, the gold as tiles and stones in general, as usual swing hoe; Huaxin was moved, picked it up and looked at it, then threw it aside.

On another occasion, Guan Ning and Hua Xin were sitting on the kang mat reading a book. Suddenly, there was a drum outside. It turned out that a powerful man passed by the door in a beautiful carriage. Guan Ning didn't seem to hear the drums, but he was still absorbed in reading. Huaxin threw away the book and went out to read it enviously.

Through these little things, Guan Ning found that Hua Xin was a man with great desire for power and money. Completely different from his own attitude and moral concept, he lacks the ideological basis of being a good friend. So, when Hua Xin returned to his study after the dignitaries left, Guan Ning cut the kang mat with a knife and solemnly said to Hua Xin, "Zi is not my friend." Sever their friendship resolutely.

Later, Hua Xin was really keen on fame and fortune, and became an eagle dog under Cao Pi. Guan Ning became a famous scholar and lived in seclusion. Wei Wendi asked him to be an official several times, but he resigned.

Kiko is hanging a sword.

(Friends should keep their word)

Ji Zha, the youngest son of Wu Junshou Meng in the Spring and Autumn Period, was in Yanling due to fief, also known as ji zi in Yanling. Shou Meng Xiang handed him the throne, but he refused. He is a famous saint. On one occasion, he was sent to Lu and was allowed to pass by. Xu Jun liked Ji Zha's sword very much, but he didn't mention it. Ji Zha knew this, but out of his mission, he didn't give him the sword. Later, when Ji Zha came back from his mission, prosthodontic had died. Ji Zha untied the sword, hung it on the tree next to Xu Jun's tomb, and left. They said, "Xu Jun is dead. Who did you give the sword to? " Kiko said, "I promised him in my heart. How can I go against my will just because he is dead? "

Liu Zongyuan went away from home on behalf of his friends.

(making sacrifices for friends)

Liu Zongyuan and Liu Yuxi, famous writers in the Tang Dynasty, are like-minded friends. They jointly participated in the reform of Wang Group and were both demoted after the failure of the reform. Liu Zongyuan was demoted as Sima in Yongzhou, and was soon demoted as the secretariat of Liuzhou. Liu Yuxi was demoted to the secretariat of Jiaozhou (now Zunyi City, Guizhou Province). Bozhou at that time belonged to a wild and uncivilized land, and the plague prevailed. Liu Zongyuan cried and said: "Bozhou is not inhabited by the people, but the dream is in the hall. Its adults have no excuses, and the mother and son are unreasonable." Considering that Liu Yuxi's mother was old, he wrote to the emperor and asked Liu Yuxi to go to Liuzhou and Bozhou in person, even if he got a felony, he would not regret it. At that time, it happened that someone in the DPRK asked for Liu Yuxi, so Liu Yuxi was reassigned to Liuzhou.

Du Su betrayed his friends for glory.

It is shameful to betray friendship.

When Wu Zetian was emperor in the Tang Dynasty, the imperial edict prohibited slaughter. Zhang De, who took the post of gleaner, just gave birth to a son, slaughtered the sheep in private and invited colleagues and friends to dinner to celebrate. Du Su secretly took Zhang De to entertain his colleagues to eat mutton, and exposed Zhang De's violation of the imperial ban on slaughter to Wu Zetian. The next day, Wu Zetian said to Zhang De, "I'm glad to hear that you gave birth to a son!" Zhang De thanked the emperor. Wu Zetian asked, "Zhang De, where did you get mutton for dinner?" Zhang De listened to the emperor's question and immediately kowtowed and repented. Wu Zetian comforted him and said, "The imperial edict prohibits slaughter, but it does not prohibit happy events or funerals at home." If you treat guests from now on, you must also choose your guests carefully! "Wu Zetian after watching, showed him Du Su against Zhang De's paper. At this time, Du Su felt ashamed; All the civil and military officials in the Qing Dynasty looked down on Du Su.

Yilin story

The shortest distance

Many years ago, The Times published a difficult question, asking for an answer publicly. The topic is: "What is the shortest distance from London to Rome?" Many people looked for answers from geographical location, but they all lost. In the end, only one answer won the prize, and that was "a good friend."

With friends, talking and laughing along the way, not only will you not feel that the road is long, but you will sigh that the road is so short. In the journey of life, friends can support and help each other. With the encouragement of our friends, our steps will be more steady and solid.

There is only one and a half friends in life.

Once upon a time, there was an upright man who became friends with all the heroes in the world. Before he died, he said to his son: Although I have been wandering in rivers and lakes since I was a child, I have made one and a half friends in my life.

The son was puzzled, so the father leaned close to his ear to explain, and then said to him, you will meet my friend as I told you, and you will naturally understand the nature of friends.

The son first went to his father's friend and said to him, I am the son of XXX, and now I am being hunted by the court. I am eager to join you, hoping to save him! Hearing this, the man couldn't think, so he called his son and ordered him to take off his clothes and put them on the unknown court criminal, and at the same time let his son put on the clothes of the court criminal.

My son understands: when your life and death are at stake, only those who can truly treat you or even give up their own flesh and blood to save you can be called your friends.

The son went to his father's half-friend again and said the same thing with a fist in his hand. Hearing this, the half-friend said to the court criminal who was asking for help, son, I can't save you for such a big thing. I will give you enough money. You can run, run for your life. I promise I won't turn you in ...

My son has learned that people who can protect themselves wisely when you are in trouble and don't hurt you when you are frustrated can be called your half friends.

People who betray friendship will come to no good end.

Donkeys and foxes go hunting together. They suddenly met the lion. Seeing that the situation was not good, the fox immediately ran to the lion and promised to give him the donkey as long as he escaped safely. The lion agreed and the fox lured the donkey into a trap. Seeing that the donkey could never escape, the lion immediately caught the fox and ate the donkey before eating it.

In other words, those who betray their friends and friendship will come to no good end. (Aesop's Fables)

See the truth in trouble

Two good friends were walking on the mountain road when suddenly a big bear appeared in front of them. One of them climbed the tree quickly, and the other one didn't have the ability, so he fell to the ground and pretended to be dead. The bear came and touched the face of the man who fell to the ground, and then left. Because bears are harmless to dead animals. The tree climber climbed down safely and asked, "The bear just whispered to you. What did he say? " The fallen man replied, "The bear told me that people who are killed and can't help are not good friends."

False friendship can't stand a small test.

The yellow dog and the black dog are lying in the sun under the wall outside the kitchen. They are talking about friendship.

Black dog said: "The greatest happiness in life is to live with loyal and reliable friends, help each other when they are in trouble, eat and sleep together, love each other, seize the opportunity to make friends happy, and find their own happiness in the happiness of friends-can there be more happiness in the world?" Life would be much easier if you and I became such close friends. "

"Great, my baby, let's be friends!" Yellow dog said enthusiastically. The black dog is also very excited: "dear yellow dog, there is not a day when we don't fight." I feel very sad several times! " ! Why bother? The master is very good. We eat too much and live in spacious rooms. Fighting is totally unreasonable! Humans regard us as a model of friendship, so let's prove to humans with actions that there are no obstacles to forming friendship! Come on, shake hands! ""yes, yes! " Yellow dog shouted.

The two new friends immediately embraced warmly and licked each other's faces. Just then, the chef threw out a delicious bone. The two new friends immediately rushed to the bone like lightning, rolled together and bit each other, making a handful of dog hair flying all over the sky, until a bucket of cold water was poured on their backs, and the two babies were taken apart.

The world is full of such friendship. Listen to them, you think they are single-minded and single-minded; Throw them a bone and they will all become dogs. ("krylov's Fable, Dog's Friendship")

Improper friendship will bring disaster.

Rats are unfortunately loved by frogs. The frog foolishly tied the mouse's foot to his own. At first, they walked on the ground, walked around, everything was normal, and they could eat millet. When he came to the pond, the frog took the mouse into the water, and he played in the water himself, quacking with joy. The poor mouse was flooded and died. Soon, the mouse surfaced, but its feet were still tied to the frog. The kite flew here, saw the mouse, rushed into the water and caught it. The frog was brought out of the water and became the kite's food.

In other words, inappropriate friendship will bring disaster.

Friendship is never far away.

One night, a man had a dream that he was walking on the beach with a bodhisattva, and suddenly bits and pieces of his life flashed in the air; He found that in every scene, there were two pairs of footprints on the beach, one was his and the other was the bodhisattva's ... After the last scene, he looked back at the footprints on the beach and found that there were only one pair of footprints on the beach several times! And those times happened to be the lowest tide and the saddest time in his life. ...

He asked the Bodhisattva doubtfully, "You promised me that you would follow the sound to save the suffering. Once I vowed to follow you, and you would always walk beside me to protect me, but I found that in the most painful time of my life, there was only one pair of footprints on the beach! I don't understand why you left me when I needed your comfort most? "

The Bodhisattva kindly and gently replied, "I will remember you, protect you and never leave you. In your most difficult and painful times, you only saw a pair of footprints, because that's when I held you in my arms ... "

When we are faced with a test, we often think that we are lonely. When we feel most isolated, calm down and have a look, and you will find that there are actually many people with you. ...

Application and innovation

Is it rare to have a bosom friend in life?

In ancient times, the economic blockade and the bondage of various ethical codes built a gap between people, and it was reasonable for the ancients to find a confidant. We are happy to live in such an open era. Here and now, the exclamation of "a bosom friend is rare in life" seems a bit out of date. However, among us avant-garde trendsetters, there are many people who have this kind of psychology. From a sexual point of view, they all made the same mistake and narrowly understood the meaning of bosom friend.

A bosom friend is like-minded, but some people misinterpret him as a person with the same personality as themselves, and even agree with him on any issue. As we all know, "there are no two identical leaves in the world." Under such harsh conditions, you can only find your own shadow. What holds this idea is actually individualism, taking its own interests as the center, measuring others by its own standards and imposing its own ideas on others. Is it a bit paranoid and morbid to sigh that "a bosom friend is rare in life"?

Confidantes are not uncommon. Open your heart and mind, and you will find that many people around you have the same noble interests and aspirations as you, so only the two can break the restrictions of time and space on intimate friends.

Debate on the different interests of huaguan

Today, I read "Different Interests" and admire Ning Guan for treating Kim as "stone-like", but I am quite puzzled by his final conclusion that "a son is not my friend", which not only causes deep thinking on the criteria and attitude of choosing friends.

Like-minded, similar personality, of course, is very important for making friends, but this is not the only criterion. For example, Guan Ning in the article concluded that "a child is not my friend" just because Hua Xin "picked up the gold and threw it away" and "abandoned the book".

Everyone has his own ambition, so why should we have the same ideological ambition when choosing friends? Personality differences in choosing friends are not necessarily bad things, but complementary. If you are a weak person and stay with strong friends, you will become strong over time, just like going to Zhu Zhechi.

Perhaps Guan Ning saw some ugly places in Hua Xin's personality, such as money worship and official position, but as a friend, he should not abandon him by breaking off diplomatic relations, but should realize this with reason and emotion, persuade him well and help him correct his shortcomings. If Guan Ning had persuaded him instead of abandoning him, Hua Xin would not have become someone else's eagle dog.

Therefore, we should not be too hard on our friends. If a friend makes a mistake, we should help him correct it instead of breaking up casually.