Because of the particularity of men and women, it is called a "fourth emotion" that is divorced from family, love and friendship. The highest realm of heterosexual friendship is "danger". Once it is uncontrollable, it will cross the border and enter the love between men and women.
Smart men let women set themselves off, smart women let men set themselves off. A confidante is a beautiful background in a man's life, picturesque just for you.
A confidante is the most precious, rare and coveted existence in a man's life.
meaning
A confidante is a female friend who can achieve deep resonance on the basis of spiritual independence and spiritual equality. It is a close female friend and the purest friendship between men and women who are not involved in mixed emotions. Take selflessness as one's own responsibility, as opposed to a woman's "blue confidante". For the opposite sex of similar age, it can be called a confidante; People with a big age gap are generally called "forgetting to make friends". A bosom friend can be an inner listener or a spiritual reader. "But it must be a complete spiritual exchange. Once love or sex happens, this relationship will collapse. " What is a wife? It's a woman you are willing to pay your savings to keep. What is a confidante? A woman can tell her the secret, but not her wife. "Annie baby said. So many men want to have a confidante. Unfortunately, it is difficult to find a confidante who admires each other. Even if you are lucky enough to find one, you may turn your confidante into a "femme fatale" because you can't grasp each other's "degree" in the process of communication, which makes you fidget and fall apart.
The confidante believes such a sentence; True love spans the length of life and soul and can exist in various forms. What men in this world need most, besides their wives, is a confidante.
The most important thing to be a confidante is to abide by the boundaries.
When you are sick in bed and struggling with pain, the one who holds your hand in panic and tears will be your wife. She is afraid of your pain, afraid of your death, and can't wait to hurt and die for you. She is crying. Obsession moves you and makes you uneasy. And the confidante didn't. Confidante don't cry. She just stood by the bed, looked at you quietly, read your heart, and then told you with her mouth, her eyes and her heart that she knew where your pain was. She understands you and is willing to share it silently for you, so that your soul will no longer be lonely and make you happy. This shows the essential difference between the two: crying because I love you; I don't cry because I understand you.
A man, if there is a woman who loves you deeply and understands you in his life, what else can he ask for?
Female confidantes are all extremely clever girls, and they know best: if a woman wants to be eternal in a man's life, it is either his mother or the female confidante he will never get. Know him, she just doesn't belong to him. Give him enough care, but don't give him a good impression, don't give him the threat that you will fall in love with him, and don't let him have the impulse and enthusiasm to fall in love with you. This is the skill of being a confidante.
You went out for a long trip and there was no news, but there was a major natural disaster where you went, and your confidante was worried. You called many times, but you couldn't get through every time because your phone was turned off. When you have lingered enough and stood in front of her unkempt face, she just smiled and asked, "Long time no see, how have you been?" She won't mention her worries, her worries, never. She knows that mentioning those things has nothing to do with her. She doesn't want love, just friendship. She is like a naughty headhunter. She winks at you, and then brings out the naughty, enthusiastic and active elements of all the boys in you. You have no choice but to surrender in front of her. I really can't escape, and I don't want to.
Usually, a wife is a confidante, and a confidante is a listener. She may be gentle and lovely, or she may be like a generous buddy. In front of her, a man can be a tired bird or a prodigal son, tired, lonely, helpless, evasive and lazy, but she can accept your darkness, give you peace and make room for your energy recovery.
If the wife is the sun and the lover is the moon, then the confidante is the star. When the sun and the moon are tired, the stars are not. They flicker and are far away, willing to be lonely but brilliant and long.
No matter how high you are in front of others, you can't look up. In the eyes of your confidante, there is only dignity, not majesty. She can walk into your heart through layers of masks, like entering a no-man's land, and talk to you in a language that you and she both know.
Therefore, those who can become confidantes must be the best among women. And those who can have a confidante must be wise men.