Worry-the bitter tea that life must taste, also comes from thinking, starting with worry, treating others with tolerance and elegance will be diluted.
Eight ways to deal with troubles
Cardiac adduction
First, my heart is closed: my troubles are all because of my open-mindedness, so Meng Old Master Q said, "There is no other way to read, so please rest assured him!" He added: "Alas, some released chickens and dogs know how to ask, while others don't know how to ask!" Ladies and gentlemen, we all put our hearts outside, and the purpose of reading is to get our hearts back, so the more we put our hearts outside, the more miserable we are. Laozi also said: "If you are shocked as a god, you will see everything, and if you see everything, you will be greedy. If you are greedy, you will be troubled. If you are worried and delusional, you will be humiliated, wandering about life and death, always sinking into the sea of suffering and never distorting the Tao." Guys, why are you unhappy? You are open-minded and open-minded. You like everything you see, but it's not yours. For example, if you often go to department stores, I promise to give you a lot of trouble. Seeing these things is lovely, what should you do? Therefore, the more you open your heart, the more troubles you have. The more you close your heart, the less troubles you have. Therefore, always ask "You can, why can't I?" Don't ask, "I can, why can't you?" You ask, "I can, why can't you?" Only hate, if you ask "you can, why can't I?" Only regret, regret is harmless, hate is useless, God does not kill penitent people, and the heinous crime is not worth a word "regret". Putting down the butcher knife can become a Buddha, so regret has nothing to do. For example, of the 95 faculty members in our school, 93 have done it, but one or two can't. What should I do? I just think about it, it must be my poor expression ability, and they can't understand my kindness. The second possibility is that my cultivation is not enough. He regards me as his boss, and I can't convince him. I think it's my fault, not his, so I'm calm. So think of yourself first, don't look at others, staring at others is very painful. Thinking about yourself will be free and easy, so introspection is very important. Confucius' "loyalty and forgiveness" means starting from oneself, while forgiveness means thinking more about others. Confucius' principle of loyalty and forgiveness is as simple as that. Loyalty means doing your best and starting from yourself. Just like the recent anti-vice, everything starts with yourself, and forgiveness means that it is enough to think more about others. If we China people can do these two words, the world will be different and we can truly achieve world harmony. Therefore, the first point is inward. When you have troubles, you should think about it. Your heart is outward, so you should reflect quickly. The more introverted your heart is, the less trouble you have. The more your heart goes out, the more troubles you have.
Have the right opinion
Second, from the right perspective: a lot of trouble is caused by your wrong ideas. When you have troubles, you should think about it. This idea may be wrong. Therefore, there is a saying in the Six Ancestors' Tanjing: "When E Lai makes trouble, he doesn't need evil and righteousness when he makes trouble, and he is clean to the end." So when I have troubles, I keep thinking that my idea may be wrong. Let me tell you an example. When I was in Normal University and in my senior year, they elected me as the class representative. The class representative of senior three is very busy, so I have no chance to go back to my hometown in Hsinchu. Later, on the eve of graduation, someone asked whether to go for an outing, and I agreed, but my selfishness got up. I really want to take this opportunity to go back to my hometown in Hsinchu, so I privately let everyone choose when they vote in the future. This is selfishness! When you vote in the future, if it is Qingcaohu, you will be very grateful to him. If not, your hatred will come, right? So if you have troubles, it's mostly selfish. At present, the breakthrough, trouble is bodhi, trouble is awakening. So the second correct idea is that when you have troubles, you should think carefully. Your idea may not be correct.
Regard as causality
Third, as a cause and effect: when I heard a sentence I shouldn't have heard, I immediately thought of what I must have said before. The past "cause" and the present "effect" have been settled safely! Isn't it? I feel much more comfortable thinking like this, so when you hear something you shouldn't hear, you should immediately think that you must have said something you shouldn't say. I used to use "cause", but now I just use "effect". Sometimes when talking, other people's hearts are broken and we don't even feel it. Is there such a phenomenon? Yes, right? The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, the speaker is reserved and the listener is eager. Therefore, every reason has an inevitable result. The two most unfair things in the world are "getting something for nothing" and "getting something for nothing", right? No pains, no gains, no pains, no gains. Let me give you an example: if the exam is coming, there are two students, one of whom knows that if he doesn't study hard before the exam, the consequences will be unimaginable after the exam, so he will redouble his efforts and stay awake. Another student, who cares, plays the big exam, plays the quiz, and plays the exam or not. In the exam, he used two methods, one is called "bystander method" and the other is called "expert method". Using these two methods, his score is still higher than the other one. What do you think of the other one? He will feel where justice lies. I got something for nothing, and he got something for nothing, which is very unfair.
Cause and effect are natural laws, just like one plus one equals two. It seems that the bigger the action, the greater the reaction. If you have three drinks here, you will run to another place first, right? There is a cause here, and there is a result there. Causality is a natural law, and it is natural to have a cause and a result. Look again, many idioms are causal. You see: as you sow, you reap, you pay your life, you pay your debts, you deserve it, you can't live by yourself, and so on! Those who respect others will always respect others, and those who love others will always love others. This is a cause and effect. I once made a list, a lot! Dare is also a cause and effect. The problem is that you created the cause, so you must have the courage to accept the result. I haven't dared to complain for ten years, not afraid, but didn't have the courage to accept the result. Guys, it's easy to complain and poke holes! The problem is that it is difficult to repair. It's like you dug a hole in your clothes with scissors. It's so simple! Excuse me, how did you fix it? If you want to mend it, the first cloth you use must be bigger than this hole, otherwise you can't mend it, right? It's too much trouble to make up afterwards. No matter how good your technology is, have you cracked it? Yes So I dare not complain. I can't even complain about it. Because digging holes is easy! But it is not easy to make up. Wow! So I don't have many opportunities to complain, because as soon as you create a cause, there will be a result, so many people's artificial causes will have a result, and cause and effect are natural laws. Ladies and gentlemen, when I heard a sentence I shouldn't have heard, I immediately remembered a sentence I shouldn't have said before. You are very free and easy. I think this is very important. Cause and effect are the laws of nature.
Criticism of others is duplicity.
Fourth, criticizing others is just a lip service. Being criticized is an industry that eliminates crime. On the surface, it seems that you are taking advantage of criticizing others, but in fact, you are wrong. You are committing a crime, and you don't even know you are making a mouth. On the surface, people are criticized by you, as if he has suffered, but in fact, he is wrong, and you are helping him to eliminate his sin. Therefore, it is hard to say whether it is a loss or an advantage. From that point of view, what is happening in the world is very strange! If you get something, you will lose it. You went abroad to study for a doctorate. Frankly speaking, you have lost your youth! Right? What you gain, you lose. If you don't become an official, you'll be at leisure, right? The same is true of losing, getting is losing, getting is losing, losing is getting, so a person who reaches the highest level should have nothing to lose. But he is poor. They are all suffering from loss, and if they don't suffer from loss, they will lose. Our heart, like a pendulum, gains and losses, gains and losses, and so on, is very painful. The highest state should be that there is gain and loss, because loss is gain and gain is loss. A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise. So I have always felt that between gains and losses, don't be too serious.
Improve yourself, don't be as knowledgeable as him.
Fifth, improve yourself and don't argue with him. Ladies and gentlemen, do you want to be famous? Some people say that it is easy to be famous. Just find some celebrities to scold you. Once he scolds you, you will be as famous as him. People will say you two have common sense! Almost! Once upon a time, there was a man who cursed. Once he scolded Professor Xu of Donghai University. Professor Xu asked my graduate school professor Dr. Zhao Yabo, "Should I scold him back?" Professor Zhao said, "Don't scold him for going back. When you scold him back, you belittle him on the surface, but in fact you promote him. People will say you two have common sense. " Among the teaching methods, there is a new teaching method called question teaching method. When others are asking questions, you should think about it and ask them at once. In fact, I think two people are cursing each other, which is the best questioning teaching method. When others scold you, you must concentrate on it for fear of missing a word, right? Because I want to refute it! We will concentrate on everything like listening to people scold you, and everything will succeed! Therefore, I think I still need to improve myself. I often think that since I am a scholar, I should learn from sages and sages, not compete with laity or saints, but strive for the future. I think I always encourage myself like this. If the other person is unreasonable, you can belittle the other person. For example, you can bark at each other like dogs. For example, if you pass a place and a dog barks at you, even if it is difficult, you should call it back. No need! However, it's best to keep this idea to yourself and don't say it. Saying it is a crime.
Know the truth and lies
6. Know the truth: In this world, that is true, that is false, everything is false, and only one thing is true, that is, the three virtues: virtue, merit and speech. I often use one to encourage myself. "The value of life lies not in his knowledge, his position, his wealth, but in his contribution." If you have these things, but don't know how to give them away, you may fail. Everything in the world is a tool, just like a stone. Used well, it's like a stepping stone. Bad use is a stumbling block, right? Look at this mouth! It is it to talk about morality and benevolence, and it is it to sow dissension and gossip. Look at these hands, it helps people, it pushes people; Look at these feet, they are running around doing things for others, and they should not leave. I think everything in the world is a tool, just to see if you can use it, whether you can use it or not, it is a stepping stone, whether you can use it or not, it is a stumbling block, but you want it to be a stepping stone or a stumbling block, and the sovereignty lies with me, so everything is fake, so there is no need to argue!
Once upon a time, a man went to visit his friend. The man was poor and his friend was rich, so he was given a lot of gold and silver. As soon as the man came out, he was so tired that he put all his gold and silver on his body and fell asleep. When his friend came out to see it, he was startled and woke him up. He said, "You are so poor that I gave you so much gold and silver. Why are they all released? " After he was awakened by his friend, he said something, which made sense. He said, "As soon as we open our eyes, everything is yours. When we close our eyes, which thing is yours? " Sometimes even your wife is not necessarily yours! So, everybody, what's there to argue about? Tomorrow may not be ours! Some people say, "The dead have no today, and the living have no tomorrow." We all live today, right? There used to be a joke that a child was a sixth-grade pupil. One day he went home to do a lot of homework, and his mother put the child to bed first. In the middle of the night, his mother woke up and saw that the child was still catching up on his homework. She couldn't bear it. She said to him, "kitten! Don't write, write tomorrow! " At this time, her little son woke up and asked, "Mom, what day is tomorrow?" His mother was very good and said to the child, "You close your eyes now and open them at dawn. That's tomorrow. " Later, the child got up the next day and kept shouting: "It's tomorrow! Now is tomorrow! " Actually, it's still today Ladies and gentlemen, what day is tomorrow? Tomorrow is just a hope, just a hope. No one dares to say that I can live to tomorrow. You live today, and you can't even keep tomorrow. What are you fighting for? Life is like a dream, why take it seriously! If someone scolds me, I will regard him as a dream. Did anyone dream of scolding you last night and wake up today and say, I'm really reluctant to part with it, isn't it necessary? Life is like a dream, why take it seriously! Ladies and gentlemen, that's true, so many things make it easier, easier, more knowledgeable and easier. I think it will be very comfortable.
Don't involve yourself in it and add trouble to yourself.
Seventh, don't get involved with yourself, which will only increase your troubles; Buddhism has four noble truths-suffering, determination, extinction and Taoism. Why suffering, gathering, extinction and Taoism? Ladies and gentlemen, many things are related to ourselves, and the pain is coming. I can give you an example. I used to study in Hsinchu Middle School, a provincial school. There was a class meeting in the third grade. Because I am short, I always sit in the front row. Once the tutor came in and said, "Don't study so hard, put away all your homework!" " ! We will have a class meeting. "Because I sit in the front row. I don't know how many people are catching up with their homework, but I hate hearing what my tutor says! I think it's hard for my tutor to say such a thing, so I made up my mind to make good use of that week's diary, so I went back to all the dictionaries, collected all the bad words, wrote three whole articles, scolded my tutor for being worthless, and finally added, "I have studied for nine years and have never met such a tutor!" "One day, on Saturday afternoon, it was raining and my tutor invited me. The tutor said, "If you don't write, I'll forget. On that day, many people were catching up on their homework. Can the teacher stop talking? "If the tutor doesn't talk, how will the class be held?" Mentors are based on things, not people. I didn't expect me to scold him so badly! He was very sad, and finally the teacher added, "I have been teaching for 39 years and I have never met such a student!" " "I think it's fair, ladies and gentlemen, it's all because of this party! It turns out that it's not just me. Why should I get involved with myself, which will only increase the pain?
Let me give you another example. If there is a meeting today, there should be a hundred people present and one or two people absent. The chairman will not notice or speak, will he? If one third of the people are absent, should the chairman speak or not? I think it will be half less tomorrow. Some people will say that if one third of the people are absent today, the chairman will not speak. What should we do? So the chairman should speak. The chairman's speech reached every day, but today's meeting didn't reach that person's ear. How does he feel? He must be very emotional. He will think that I am seldom absent today, so the chairman told me this. This is also because it is difficult to get together with yourself, and the pain comes. I have a friend who is an official at the central level. It is not easy! I found him very free and easy. Once, he was sitting here, and someone called his name next to him, and he kept cursing and cursing miserably! I'm a rare friend. He laughed and laughed and didn't care at all. Unless you point to his nose and call his name and keep cursing, he will say, "Ah! You are talking about me. " I think this person is very free and easy. So, we are human! Everything is related to myself, which is very painful. For example, if someone writes the words Zheng Moumou together and puts three crosses beside them, I will feel sad. In fact, my three characters are also three of tens of millions of Chinese characters, which are not uncommon, but I feel very cordial after using them for more than 40 years! Right? Actually, it's not my patent, and others can use it, so it's also a collection. Ladies and gentlemen, even if things are related to you, pain will come, which is very important.
Don't expect others to be like themselves in everything.
Eighth, don't expect others to be like yourself: people are different and different, so the world will be rich and colorful. Why is the natural landscape so beautiful? Because it has everything, including mountains, grasslands, deep valleys, plains, streams and rivers, the world will be so beautiful and so will people. Only when they are smart, mediocre, stupid, strong and weak will they be colorful. If everyone's IQ in this world is 180, I think this world will be very chaotic and no one will obey anyone. So you must have everything in your own way, and don't expect others to be like you. Ladies and gentlemen (look at the ten-dollar coin), what shape is this? Circle, if I say it's a straight line, you will argue with me very much. Actually, you look round from the front, but I look straight from the side, right? Different angles! Why do you ask others to have the same angle as you? A person who can take pictures only takes good angles. There are white houses everywhere. As long as he gets a good angle, he will stand out. At first glance, he thought it was the White House! Right? It is because we have a good angle that we can't give the best angle to others. Some people look beautiful from the front, some people look beautiful from the side, and some people look beautiful from the back, you know? Why can't we look at people from the best angle? Look at this again. If you look at it this way, it is still round (directly under your eyes). If you look at it this way, it is oval (placed in front of your eyes). If you look at it this way, it is round. People will say that you have no aesthetic sense! It is because of different angles that everyone has different angles. There is no need to expect others to have the same angle as you. I think this is very important. People are different and different, so the world will be colorful. We should treat people, life and everything in the world from the best angle, so that you will feel very free and easy.
Don't attach too much importance to what you have.
Ninth, don't care too much about what you have; Everyone will attach importance to what they have to affirm themselves, which is right. Overemphasis is also the root of trouble. For example, I used to like to watch Bao Qingtian in China TV Tuesday Theater. There was a Pang Taishi in it, but he attached too much importance to his position and always thought that I was an imperial envoy of the imperial court, and you were just a small Kaifeng governor. What is this? Therefore, I often fought with Bao Gong, and finally I was down and out. Therefore, if a person values what he has too much, it will be very painful. For example, you ask a university professor, "What is the most important thing?" He will tell you to "learn", nothing is like it, only reading is high! Right? But now it has been changed by people who don't like reading, saying, "Everything is top grade, but reading is not good!" " "alas! It's been changed in a big mess So, you ask entrepreneurs, "What's the most important thing? "He will show you the money in his hand and say," Here you are! "He will also ask you how much a catty of" learning "is worth. So everyone will use what they have to affirm themselves, which is right, but too much attention is also the root of trouble. For example, when I was at school, I often told myself: I just studied two years more than my teacher and three years more than my workmates! I despise the books of these two or three years. Why not? What can't I do? Ladies and gentlemen, I think this is very important. If you despise it, you will feel very free and easy!
Tianding furnace, where people live.
It was tempered.
Finally, the tripod furnace where people live has to be honed: as you know, "jade is rough and abrasive." "Xiang" needs to be lit before it can be smelled, and people need to temper it a little. The so-called "people know everything, people know everything", when we are tempered, you should not feel very sad, and don't complain, because God intends to fulfill you and give you a great responsibility, but it depends on whether we can bear the unbearable anger and suffer the sufferings that people can't eat, so God deliberately gives you a little temper, for example. Deliberately say three ugly words through someone to see if we can stand it, so sometimes God gives us a test. This is what Meng said: "If God is going to demote Sri Lanka, he must first suffer his mind, strain his bones and muscles, starve his body, empty his body and confuse his actions, so be patient and get what he can't do." "Because I can't do many things, it is God's mercy to put all this on me. I want to thank God for his mercy.
In short, I use these dozens of methods to make myself happy in my life, so I often cultivate a happy mainstream. The stronger the mainstream is, no worries will enter my scope, and they will be washed away as soon as they come. So I ask you to do your best to cultivate a happy mainstream. This method won't work. I'll use the second method. If the second method doesn't work, I'll use the third method. I have never been worried for ten years, because I always feel that nothing will happen.
Finally, I ask you a question: "How do we want to spend our lives?" Crying is a lifetime, and laughing is a lifetime. Why don't we just laugh and laugh!