Nietzsche's famous saying: If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself;

If you stare into the abyss for too long, the abyss will stare back.

I have read it before, but I never quite understood it.

Even if Baidu explains it this way: When you understand the dark side of a thing too well, understand its inner motivations, understand its behavior patterns, and understand the convenience it brings, it is difficult not to be assimilated by it. . In the same way, when you are too immersed in a certain bad emotion or experience, it is extremely difficult to get rid of the negative entanglement.

But I still can’t relate to it.

It may be better to interpret it this way:

Just like someone snubs you, you respond with indifference;

If someone looks down on you, you will despise him with contempt;

When someone intentionally attacks you, your arrogance becomes even more arrogant;

People you hate will always easily turn you into what you hate. ?

But in real life, when someone ignores you, is it possible that you have to use your hot face to stick to their cold butt?

If someone despises you, don’t you just have to suffer it? If someone attacks, there is a high probability that they will be beaten back. Is there anything wrong with this?

Yes, the people you hate can easily turn you into the person you hate. Otherwise? ?

The psychologist said sincerely: Don’t let yourself become a hook for others to easily hang things on.

It’s the same reason.

It is so difficult to understand, and it is even harder to do it.

In fact, in the final analysis, you have to become stronger, your heart is softer, and you have to be tolerant and compatible with a high attitude, and the hook in your heart will be smoothed. Of course it's not easy to do this.

There is a saying that is particularly good: When you find someone, he can understand everything you say, the communication is smooth, and you enjoy the process very much, as if you have found your life partner and soulmate.

There is a 99% chance that you have met someone who has a higher EQ and IQ than you and is downwardly compatible with you.

Backwards compatible. Haha, what a good word. Unfortunately, most people don't have this ability yet.

The result can only be that the hook in your heart can easily be hung up by others with all kinds of negative emotions such as neglect, contempt, attack, arrogance, rudeness... etc. Just bear with it, haha.