Text/Le Zai Qizhong

Recently I often hear: "We will meet at a high place."

Yes, we will meet at a high place, indeed. An inspirational quote.

However, an old friend of mine once said: "Life is not simply a mountain. You don't just climb the mountain."

I deeply agree.

As long as we climb in the right way, we still have a chance to reach the top.

But when you go through all the hardships to reach the heights, where do you go? It should be noted that a person cannot always stand at the top, so what should he do then?

The old gentleman can be said to be my life mentor. I learned a lot from him. He told me:

"Life has always been full of ups and downs, so you must know how to advance and retreat. Know the depth and make choices. ”

Know how to advance and retreat

Liu Bang has a famous saying: “Know how to advance and retreat to know the gains and losses.”

That is to say, a person must be able to assess the situation and know the situation. When to advance and when to retreat.

There is another story here.

Liu Bang, who was a minor official at that time, was originally the pavilion chief of Surabaya. One day he escorted Lishan prisoners to build the Xianyang Palace.

It rained heavily and the road was slippery. Many Lishan prisoners ran away on the first day on the road.

The laws of the Qin Dynasty were extremely strict. Liu Bang would be executed if he did not reach Lishan Mountain, and he would be executed if he arrived late at Lishan Mountain. Even if there were not enough people to arrive on time, he would still die!

After much thought, Liu Bang simply released the remaining prisoners.

Liu Bang also changed his destiny since he became a disciple of Fengxi. He became the biggest winner at that time precisely because he knew how to advance and retreat.

As the saying goes, there is a limit to progress and a rule to retreat.

In life, if you retreat blindly, you may end up with no way to retreat, but if you only know that moving forward, there will inevitably be no return.

I agree with this sentence: "As a human being, you must know how to advance and retreat. You will not solve any problems. It will also make your life harder and harder."

October 18, Tong Yao won the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actress, and netizens sent their blessings: "Sister deserves it!"

Tong Yao, once known as "Little Zhang Ziyi", was the one that both China Film and Beijing Film Academy were clamoring for. Girls also go through ups and downs before gradually getting better.

Knowing that the entertainment industry is not easy to break into, she slowed down, braked, and retreated on her acting career, concentrating on studying. She chose to retreat from the glitz and noise, and persistently pursued her dream of being an actor.

It was not until after graduation that she began to play supporting roles in some dramas and became familiar with them.

In July, "Thirty Only" hit the airwaves. Tong Yao used her own unique way to vividly interpret the character of Gu Jia who refuses to admit defeat. It received rave reviews and topped the trending searches.

At the age of 34, Tong Yao finally ushered in her own career and love harvest.

In the ups and downs of life, it is a process of continuous advancement and retreat. It should be noted that advancing and retreating freely requires vision and even more courage.

To know how to advance and retreat, you must not only advance and retreat, but also advance and retreat appropriately.

The most mature wisdom is to stay within yourself and advance and retreat in the right way.

Knowledge

I believe everyone has heard the story of the pony crossing the river when they were children.

Fairy tales when we were young have already told us that we need to understand the profound and the superficial. However, when you grow up, you will find that there are too many ponies in life.

Recently, there was a news report about a real-life pony crossing the river.

Mr. Zhang in the report said that when he went out on a puddled road, his car stalled when it encountered water. After trying to start it several times, it still failed, and he finally had to seek help from the relevant departments.

I believe you who often drive have also encountered this situation: driving on a puddled road, you can see that other people's cars can pass smoothly, but your own car stalls as soon as you pass.

The traffic police reminded drivers not to blindly pass through wading roads, and also gave important tips: Under normal circumstances, you cannot simply refer to the traffic capacity of other vehicles. Different vehicles have different chassis heights and different traffic capacities.

This is like a pony crossing a river. If you ask a cow, the cow says it is easy; if you ask a squirrel, the squirrel says it will drown.

People who know a lot about things have tried it on their own. They have more knowledge, a wider vision, and a bigger picture.

To put it bluntly, people who don’t know the depth of things just know how to keep moving forward.

Qingwen in "A Dream of Red Mansions" died of her own ignorance.

He left two onion-tube-like nails for Baoyu, who did not realize it even before he died: "When I go back, they see it and ask. There is no need to lie, just say it is mine. Since I have a false reputation, it is beyond my nature to do this. That's all."

There is only one sentence in the verdict of Qingwen's death: "The moon is rare, and the colorful clouds are easy to disperse." It is her. My ignorance hurts myself.

People living in society need wisdom and knowledge to survive, and they need to do more things that are just right, instead of blindly being themselves and not knowing what the world is.

The ups and downs of life are often like this, and the depth and depth are clear to the heart.

Understand trade-offs

The little monkey who picks up sesame seeds and throws away the watermelon is a household name in China. The choice seems easy, but it is actually difficult to understand. If you don’t believe it, look at the little monkey in the West and you will know what he is talking about. Not empty.

The ancient Indians did not use weapons to catch monkeys.

The clever hunter hollowed out the coconut and made a small hole, and put a banana inside. The size of the hole was very particular, and it just happened that the monkey could reach in with one hand free.

The monkey came after smelling the fragrance, put his hand in, and held the banana fully. No matter how hard the monkey retracted his hand, he could not take out his hand and the banana.

But because he wanted to get the banana, he refused to put down the banana and leave the hole empty-handed, so he was captured alive by the hunter.

You and I both know that the Laughing Monkey doesn’t understand the trade-offs, but why don’t you and I do the same?

Many times, we are like monkeys, losing ourselves because we don’t understand the choice.

Sages have long said that you cannot have your cake and eat it too. Since ancient times, it has been difficult to have both, so the most difficult thing in life is to make a choice.

Life has ups and downs, gains and losses are uncertain, it’s yours, so fight for it. If it's not yours, then throw it away. Don't be afraid to fight for it, don't be reluctant to give it up, and don't let your life only add regrets and regrets.

Strive for what is truly worth it and let go of the unnecessary, and life will be more meaningful!

Even now, Minglan in the drama "Do You Know" is definitely an independent woman in the new era.

She has been with her grandmother since she was a child, pretending to be ignorant to hide herself, and became a happy winner in life.

Minglan is indeed smart. She knows how to let go and make choices, which is true wisdom. The audience's love for Minglan just confirms their understanding and recognition of her view of choices.

People who know how to make choices are talents, and those who don’t know how to make choices are mediocre.

Life is complicated, and choices are just a matter of thoughts. When you know how to choose, all encounters are no longer mistakes.

There are all kinds of beautiful things in the world. Mountains have ups and downs, water has waves. Good times and bad times come one after another, and success and failure come one after another.

Life is never just one mountain, and life is never just one side. In addition to riches, there is also poverty;

There is a saying in "Cai Gen Tan": "Don't be surprised by favor or disgrace, just watch the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court; have no intention of leaving or leaving, just watch the clouds rolling and relaxing in the sky."

The benevolent see benevolence, the wise see wisdom, In fact, it is the understanding of the nature of events and the profound insight into life accumulated over the years.

Life is full of ups and downs. In everything, ordinary people know how to advance and retreat, the depth and depth, and the choices. This is great wisdom.

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