2, admit it. Children are born by themselves, and husbands are chosen by themselves. Don't expect them to become excellent through your transformation, let nature take its course to a great extent.
3. Speak less. Everyone is tired of talking too much and talking about being a man. Everyone is enthusiastic about telling jokes, but they delay the time to do their homework. They also develop the habit of being glib, keeping things quiet, silently observing and paying attention, and inadvertently guiding.
4. Sunshine. Although the mood will be bad, you must manage your emotions. You hope that Ta is a sunny child, and Ta also hopes that you are a sunny mother. You should have positive energy everywhere.
5, bearish. Don't compare your children, plan your big goals in the future. You should be aware of yourself. Ta's grades are not good, but Ta is healthy, mentally healthy and has a good personality ... TA is always good. Think like this, and you will be cheerful.
One thing I have been trying to do since 16 as a mother is not to worry, let alone pass it on to my children. I think instead of asking others "how to be an anxiety-free mother", we should deeply realize the great significance of "being an anxiety-free mother" and always reflect and correct when we are anxious.
The following is the profound influence of being an anxious mother on her children:
Your daughter is only in grade one. Please protect her interest in knowledge and focus on learning, and build a protective barrier for her. Don't be a victim of "exam-oriented education" so young. I am a teacher in 985 University, and I have seen many babies whose parents have worked hard to raise collapse in the university. Do you want to think about whether to raise a child who is physically and mentally healthy, a child who is strong enough to cope with the future world, or a child who is physically and mentally damaged halfway and can't look forward to the future?
Therefore, what to do depends on how to adjust your emotions when you encounter contradictions and conflicts. One principle is not to get out of control. If you can't do it, then turn around and walk away. Talk well, talk well; Well done, well done, is the mother's instinct. Let's return to this instinct and give our children a normal family atmosphere. I've been on this road. Always think and reflect. Welcome to my home page to watch my video and text. Let's be good mothers together!
Hey hey, speaking of this problem, I want to talk about myself. I am a baby mother born after 80, and my child is 2 years old. I chose milk powder for my children. Up to now, I still remember what an elder sister said to me, "You are the mother of the child. If you think he can, he can. "
20 18, when the child was born, my friend chose about 400 milk powder for the child. I've learned about baby-care shops. Almost all of their milk powder is over 6 years old, so I give them two for free, and then give them a lot of toys. In fact, you bought all the gifts. This should belong to invisible consumption. I bought a cowshed for my child through purchasing. I bought a bucket at that time, for fear that the children would not adapt. Sister Daigou told me that I believed her words. You think your child can, so can he. Mom's heart is very strong. His words have always inspired me. In these two years, I have raised a child. My children do things very regularly. He was ill and didn't take medicine. I keep telling her to drink water. He drinks water repeatedly at home. From the end of last year to now, I had a fever twice, caught a cold once and didn't take a bite of medicine. Of course, my child is ill. I know why he is ill, and I am calm. I think he has a normal fever and cold. Now children go to the hospital, almost all of them are blood tests and intravenous injections.
My child got sick for the first time a month ago. Once I held her and sat on the sofa for three nights. He didn't feel any discomfort during the day. At night, because the fat man has phlegm, he only sleeps comfortably with him. I didn't take her to the children's hospital. My friend said I was calm.
You should trust your children and yourself, and you will gradually get rid of anxiety. Let's go
If a mother has been anxious about her children's study since the first grade, then you may not be able to go to college, and you will have collapsed with depression.
In retrospect, eldest brother is a freshman. Before junior high school, children are really happy, and kindergarten children are the happiest. Whether you can grow up healthily and happily in primary schools depends entirely on whether mothers are reasonable and open-minded. The state advocates reducing the pressure and burden on primary school students, giving them a happy childhood, and giving them a strong body, sunny personality, kind nature, tenacious toughness and excellent moral character. Of course, there are also correct learning attitudes and good study habits. Children's life is really not all about learning. Learning is only a part of life, and scores are not the only criterion for measuring children. Don't put too much pressure on your child, and the child will not be so anxious.
When my daughter was in elementary school, she enrolled in two interest classes, and her grades were in the middle and upper reaches. After she entered junior high school, she didn't have time for interest classes. Six or seven subjects, maritime tactics, are written until about eleven o'clock in the evening, and all of them are used to make up for sleep on weekends. She has no time to travel and exercise. Fortunately, she was in good health as a child and studied in her later years, but the pressure was really great.
Now in senior high school, I rest for one and a half days every two weeks, study by myself every night, and sleep at 1 1 half past one every night. Everyday life is learning, learning and learning again. Children are under great pressure, and the college entrance examination is still far away. The countdown has begun. Isn't it pathetic? How many children are anxious and depressed and unable to study, how many children envy and yearn for childhood happiness, but we are unable to change the status quo.
A child's happy childhood is really short and precious. Let's look back at how much effort the child has made, cherish the present, give the child a blue sky to enjoy freely, let him have some happy memories during the heavy recess in the future, and make him willing to work hard for a better life.
Let the children be happy, and then they will be happy!
Calm down, don't care too much about the children, don't expect too much, as long as the children are healthy and happy, as long as the children are safe and happy, nothing else is a problem!
When children are hungry, we want them to eat well and sleep well.
With the growth of children's age, parents begin to want more and more, regardless of whether the children are willing, acceptable or not.
We are parents first, and then parents in the eyes of teachers.
Raising children is a long-term investment. What we should cultivate is their abilities: optimism, happiness, thinking and self-motivation ... instead of staring at the scores in the report card and making the children breathless.
12 grade children, please pay attention to learning methods and interest cultivation.
If you are tired, have a rest. If you don't start, you will have a bad interest in learning.
Parent-child relationship is the foundation of everything.
I also want to know how to do it. Children's homework makes me anxious, children's grades drop, and children are rebellious. When I didn't face these things, I told myself to calm down. These situations appear again and again. I am anxious again and again, but I can't show it. Adolescent children are not easy to manage.
Few Chinese mothers are not anxious. In fact, anxiety and non-anxiety have no effect on the development of things, but only infect anxiety. Therefore, mothers should first try not to infect their children with anxiety and strive to create a warm family life. Secondly, try your best to help children. God disposes, man proposes, if I say, I have tried my best. Then there is nothing to regret for failing. So the only way to solve customer service anxiety is to take action.
It is impossible not to be anxious at all. That's what real life is like.