On the night before I officially participated in offline classes on November 18, 2018, I stayed up late to complete the summary of achievements in 2018. It was not just for homework. I also needed to review it at the end of the year. Under this challenge, I have never written 100 items before. Fortunately, it was 100 items. If it were 10 items, to be honest, I would not have the motivation to write. Just a small awareness, what I realized is that if the vision and goals attract me enough, the current motivation will be strong enough.

It has almost the same meaning as what Mr. Nagacheng said, "Look farther away, zoom in a little, and you will be more motivated in the moment." It is the comparison picture of the barbed wire fence. I forgot something this year. When I saw this picture, I was deeply impressed.

In a whole day of empowerment and brain-burning learning, one of the biggest gains from following Teacher Yongcheng’s rhythm is to break many cognitive constraints. For example, when it comes to goals, I will always be bound by some limiting thinking before I even start to think about them:

I am a mother, I don’t have time

Am I determined? The goal is too high

I am not sure what I want

It seems that this is what I need...

These hesitations, worries, Doubt and self-denial interfere with yourself when you think about it. And Teacher Yongcheng has been asking you a soul question: What exactly do you want?

I particularly enjoy the process of being asked layer by layer using the coaching technique, because by changing the questioning method, I can ask deeper and deeper questions little by little. This question is really difficult to answer. People with more experience and sobriety may find what they really want earlier in life. Some people may find it after being touched by something, and some people may find it slowly. I realized it through experience. This question will always accompany me. Every time I do something, I ask myself: What do I want?

Just like me in the past and many parents and friends I have come into contact with now, what we want is to meet our own needs or the needs of our children. Many times, we confuse these two things in the name of love. thing. I still remember that on a summer night, many children were playing in the community. One child pushed another child for some reason. The child cried. The mother of the child who seemed to have hit her responded without saying a word and yelled a few words. , then walked back with the child in hand, and kept apologizing to the mother. The child's reaction was to suddenly cry and beat his mother. What happened behind this scene? This mother did not ask, seek confirmation, or ask for information. She just felt that it was very embarrassing at the time, so she tried her best to protect whether she was an educated parent in the eyes of others, and the perspective of her children was simply ignored.

Four steps and seven tables, seemingly very simple tables, have a profound logical methodology behind them. It avoids a lot of over-the-top goals. It guides you step by step from why-what-how to 2019. If you follow it, you will have more confirmation and confidence to do it, and it will be clear at a glance how to do it. Just follow the broken down tasks one by one. Just do it.

At the same time, one thing that is certain is that as long as the three major expectations for 2019 are fulfilled, the satisfaction level for this year will basically be 9 points. So you actually set your own priorities, and what you actually project behind your priorities is your own values ??(Who are you? What do you want?).

Because of this certainty, you can avoid being disturbed by other unexpected temptations or things during the process, such as chasing the wind when you see something, or panicking when you see others flying.

In the past, I didn’t think that the universe or energy had anything to do with myself or myself. Recently I have begun to realize that people do indeed exude invisible energy in language, attitude, behavior and other dimensions. For example, why do some people feel so inspiring, warm, true, and accurate when they say the same meaning?

Why do we get to know some people? Those people may say something to us, eat together, do things together, and somehow we are attracted and influenced by the energy. Energy is fluid. As long as it is an object, it has energy. This is true in physics.

I still remember this metaphor in a book, which says that if we want anything, we just place an order with the universe, and the universe will respond to you, just like sending a package to you.

In my understanding, doesn’t “placing an order” mean taking action? If you want to do something, you should at least have thoughts and ideas before doing it. If you do nothing, you are not placing an order with the universe.

I think setting goals is a bit like "What package do you want the universe to deliver to you?" What kind of surprise do you want to open it? Is it what you want to receive? Is it a package that can be received? Is it something you really like? Is it useful?

The feeling of hypoxia

When I marked my current position as 36 years old, wow, I took a quick look at my watch, my God, it seems that almost half of the time has passed. . There was a sense of urgency, and it felt like my head was deprived of oxygen for a few seconds.

At least I haven’t stopped experiencing it

But when the teacher asked us to use colored pens to mark the topics from the age of 18 to the current age, there was a completely different feeling. . From college to now, every few years have been quite fulfilling. Although there are too many unsatisfactory regrets, it is better than having no experience at all. Especially in the four years since I returned to my hometown from Beijing at the age of 32 to have a flash marriage and have children, I have been living each year seriously, taking care of the children as much as I did my job, studying to recharge, applying for jobs, trying and making mistakes, stumbling like a child. Just like atoms, they collided like this, at least they didn't stop and didn't think about anything or do anything.

Feeling a little excited

When the teacher asked me to fill in the topics for each of the next 7 years, my mood was different again. I started to feel a little excited. Fortunately, I have several seven years in the future where I can do what I want to do. I have a feeling that "it's not like there's nothing I can do, it's impossible." I feel like I have special strength at that moment. For seven years, if we focus on one major theme and advance it year by year, I believe it will work.

This table also triggered my thinking about the time spent with parents and children, so I immediately added the following table to the course. Many parents are particularly looking forward to their children growing up when they are young. It is too troublesome and unnecessary. Heart. If we calculate carefully, the time when they overlap can be calculated accurately to the number of hours.

We can calculate it like this:

The first step is to mark the age of your child, which is the current position

The second step is 0-6, In the three stages of 6-12 and 12-18 years old, assuming that you roughly take the minimum amount of time you can spend with your children every day and take an average, including overtime and business trips, take the lowest value, you will You can roughly see how much time you actually spent with your child before the age of 18.

Once it was calculated, a student did the math yesterday and it was 448 hours. I asked her how she felt, and she said that she went over and hugged her child tightly. The feeling was completely different from the annoying little one before. Warcraft is different.

If we can also set one or two themes for each 6-year period, this theme has a child's growth, and we can also put our own growth goals into it. The company of our parents and children, or for the children, how happy they must be and how many beautiful memories they have.

Imagine that your child goes to kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, or high school. Every few years, you see your mother growing up differently. When your mother publishes a book, your mother becomes better at cooking several delicious dishes. My mother has become more interesting and fun. She actually learned roller skating with me. She was so cool when she performed on the stage...

I really hope that "we" can all grow up to be what we like at that time. , that kind of solidity and joy, when I think of these pictures, I don’t want to work hard for it every day.

And these times are also irreversible.

Your 7 years are also 7 years in the eyes of your children, and 7 years in the eyes of your husband are 7 years in the eyes of the person you love the most.

When I used painting to draw, I could really lock it in. For example, when I think of money, it is not a pocket or a pile of gold coins. The first thing I think of is a road. I am a gold coin hunter. The road is not flat. It is like fighting monsters. I have to jump and jump every now and then. of. Then there were gold coins planted in the ground. Later, I thought rationally that it meant I wanted to invest or pursue passive income, including the rain of gold coins from the sky, which also represented passive income.

When I was drawing, I remembered the purpose of the cash flow game---how to escape from the mouse trap? That means your passive income must be greater than your total expenses.

If it were not for painting, I would not be aware of what I am thinking and how I am thinking. And having pictures can really serve as a reminder to yourself at all times. Where your attention is, things will happen and results will come. So it's also a good way to lock in your attention.

The power of mental imagery, the pictures produced in the mind, are drawn externally, one is to clarify and the other is to strengthen.

At that time, I saw the chair with a little light in the dark. I imagined my future self walking down to my current self, touching my head and saying something. I felt deeply about that scene.

"Mom Dong, you are indeed a loving and energetic mother. You have the ability to help more people. Just do it bravely. In 2019, you will meet many noble people and face challenges. Take it head on. Just go ahead and do it, I'll be waiting for you there."

If the future me says a few words like this to the present me, I will indeed feel more courageous. The dream must be wild and the prophecy must be self-fulfilling, then the system will naturally activate, and I am willing to activate it.

What is the biggest change before and after the event? What do these changes mean for the future?

Some of these forms were done before during Operation Diamond. The biggest difference was that many of them could not be filled out at that time. It felt a bit like making up the numbers. Many concepts were filled in just for the sake of filling them in. In fact, there was not much excitement in my heart. And this time, because it is almost the end of the year, another year has indeed passed, and some things have happened. Then listen to the use of each form and the logic behind it, and there are specific things that can be answered.

This difference means to believe first and do it first. If you don’t do it and don’t believe it, it won’t do any good, right? In the future, this belief and motivation support will make me more active, more daring to think and do, and break through one by one. I look forward to my day.

I recommend you because I believe in you. I want you to grow faster and better, become what you like, and have you as my friend when we meet at a higher place. Giving yourself more possibilities may lie in a small choice.

I really can’t make any suggestions, because I’ve put a lot of effort into it. Yesterday, I was watching Yongcheng Talking about Growth on Xiaoetong, as well as the videos, audios, and verbatim transcripts of each tool sheet. This is such thoughtfulness, my friend. They can see it.

And the friends around Teacher Yongcheng are so sincere and real, and their desire to help each other be so warm and sincere.

In the end, people are the most important.

Although the offline get out of class is over, in fact, for me, everything really begins. Special thanks to Teacher Yongcheng and every member of the team, including classmates, seniors, and brothers in the group, who bubble up to answer everyone's questions and interact almost every day.

Mom, in 2019, please go to your beloved self.