In one of the scenes, when he and Xiao San formed a new family and accompanied her shopping, he met his ex-wife Luo Zijun, who happened to work in that shoe store. His expression was extremely embarrassing and his heart was quite complicated.
Yes, how can you not be ashamed and uncomplicated? After all, he is the man who cheated first, left his wife and children behind, and selfishly had the cheek to return to the big house.
Although Chen Junsheng can be regarded as a man with principles and abilities in the workplace, he can refuse the money temptation of others in order to live up to He Han, even if he is short of money.
But at the same time, paradoxically, he is also weak and heartless. After all, he can't resist Lingling's ardent pursuit of himself during his marriage, or he fell into the "gentle town" she planned step by step, and finally got himself into a mess.
In the play, Chen Daoming plays Lao Zhuo, the owner of a Japanese food store, and some of them say something wonderful about the relationship between men and women, including one sentence:
If a woman's bed is easy to get into, I'm afraid it's not easy to get out.
I'm afraid this is the simplest and most powerful warning to a restless man.
In today's increasingly open sexual relations, what's more, the convenience of the Internet has given extramarital affairs a lift. Many people began to throw the shackles of marriage behind them.
Just like Chen Junsheng in the play, before getting married, she vowed to support Luo Zijun for life, and her sincerity was as clear as the sun and the moon. But after all, a piece of marriage paper can't beat the erosion of time and human nature.
In this life, people will like many people, whether it's red roses or white roses, pink roses or blue roses ... There will always be temptations, and many people will finally be tempted to pick them.
because of the nature of liking the new and hating the old, countless people are agitated and then cheat.
My friend Aya, after 1 years of marriage, her husband cheated on her. Her husband is an honest man who is said to be "harmless to human beings and animals". Their marriage is unremarkable and their family is as calm as water, but one day she was surprised to find that her husband had cheated on him for more than two years.
But when men pick flowers, they forget that roses have thorns, especially wild roses.
At the end of the story, although my friend didn't get divorced, her husband, in order to coordinate the two ends, has been threatened by Mistress San for several years to ask for alimony and a house, making him exhausted ...
In fact, we can easily imagine Chen Junsheng's next fate:
Chen Junsheng began to be forced to bear the living expenses of two families, and Lingling regarded him as a long-term meal ticket for the rest of her life. On the surface, meekness is just to cover up one's guilty conscience, and the illusion of meekness is more to increase the amulet of self-protection. Driven by selfishness, she will be exposed step by step, while Chen Junsheng will look at her bedside person who is full of abacus but gentle on the surface, compared with her ex-wife Luo Zijun who is arrogant but sincere on the surface, and then look at her step by step to overcome herself and achieve herself, and eventually she will regret her past and be angry with Lingling.
in the end, the escape is just a tragic ending with both money and people.
Roi, played by Ge You in the movie "If You Are the One", said: The choice of marriage is wrong, and a long-term marriage is to make mistakes.
if you can't be patient and restrained in this boring, you will eventually get angry.
whether you believe it or not, women always have the sharpest intuition about men's infidelity.
I once saw an online "How did you find out your boyfriend was having an affair?", commenting on the various incarnations of Sherlock Holmes.
In the message, they mentioned that they discovered her husband's infidelity from her eyes, a short message, the smell, a condom package, and even the folded toilet paper in the toilet paper basket.
Someone has described this intuition of women appropriately:
I can't explain the strange sense of smell between women. A woman, no matter how gentle and sensible she looks, can tell when she walks up to you. It sounds a little mysterious, but that's the truth. A man can't understand why this is in his life.
And once caught, the price for a man is not just divorce. There are countless articles that have analyzed why a man would rather have an affair than divorce: they will not only face the impact on reputation and family stability, but also involve the loss of property, living habits, social resources, the reshuffle of interpersonal relationships and so on.
Just like Ma Yili, the protagonist in the play, her husband cheated on her in reality. However, after many years, although the article has stood up again with great success, he still can't get rid of the word "cheating" in the pages about him popped up by major search engines. In those years, he and his marriage interveners suffered heavy losses.
So, whether it's divorce or marriage, it's hard to get your life back after cheating.
If you stay, your wife will become angry, suspicious and hysterical, and you will be ashamed, uneasy and at a loss. If you leave, your wife will be angry, suspicious and hysterical, and you will still be ashamed, uneasy and at a loss.
do you think a woman's bed is easy to get into? If you are not careful, it is likely to make your life difficult.
From the perspective of Xiao San, do you think his second choice will be true love?
In the play, when Chen Junsheng filed for divorce from Luo Zijun, he said:
I love her hopelessly.
Luo Zijun immediately fell into an ice cave: You once said that to me.
Yes, once true love is involved in every relationship between men and women, you can give a fig leaf more or less so as not to make everything look too ugly.
In my opinion, women who try to get involved in other people's families are more or less selfish. Because any woman with a conscience and a bottom line knows how to stay away from married men and respect other people's family members. "Keeping a suitable distance" is the common sense between men and women. Is it that a person who has lived for nearly half a life is unaware of it?
Let's not say that there are too many Yingying Yanyan around rich men, and it's well known that they want to marry into a rich family and become rich. That's why countless rich children have boldly threatened that women will flock to me if you wave.
A woman is often cautious when dealing with her body. When she rushes to your bed too eagerly and lingers, have you ever considered the secret?
for a man, whether a woman climbs up to you for money or love, it's hard for you to end up.
As for the girl who intervenes in other people's feelings and is willing to be loved in the underground and hidden in the golden house, wake up. Besides sacrificing her youth, more men will not divorce you easily. It is very likely that in the future, when they are tired of each other, they will start to find ways to alienate you. Even if he is divorced, you will lose it in any way in the end. Because I have climbed a man who has no sense of responsibility and no principles, his true love will always be "next". Why bother to spend all his good years fighting for entanglement and finding his own unique sky?
in feelings, we should also pay attention to rules, first come first, then come, and be justified.
It is a principle not to cheat before marriage, and not to cheat after marriage. Don't use human nature or true love as an excuse. Who do you think is not the same in all kinds of temptations? !
finally
in the adult world, there is a word called "responsibility".
We are responsible for many families, for ourselves and for others.
So, whether it's Lingling's selfishness, Chen Junsheng's cowardice or Luo Zijun's initial naivety, who will be smarter than who in this game of life? God has spared anyone. There is no free lunch in this world. As an adult, everyone is responsible for his own mistakes, whether it is Chen Junsheng, Lingling or Luo Zijun.
At first glance, this drama sets a spiritual benchmark for women to be independent, but in fact it also reveals:
Cheating, a dangerous adventure, is a self-destruction of another way of life.
Finally, I still want to review Ma Yili's famous saying: Although love is easy, marriage is not easy, and we should cherish it.