Backpacking literally means "carrying a pot on the back" and originally described a person with a hunchback; the Internet slang "backing the blame" is the abbreviation of "taking the blame", which means "taking responsibility for others' faults". Therefore, he is often called "the scapegoat" by everyone. In addition, there are also "strength takes the blame", "we will not take the blame" and so on.

Who among us in the workplace has never taken the blame? Especially taking the blame to our leaders is often something we don’t want to do but have to do.

When we are scapegoated, we especially hope to hear others say "I believe you", "I believe it was not you", "I'm sorry, it's none of your business, I wrongly blamed you".

If we feel so happy and comfortable when we hear these words, we can breathe a long sigh of relief.

But it is often difficult for us to hear such words. This kind of "I blame you" is too luxurious for us in the workplace.

But it doesn’t matter, life is full of ups and downs, and there is no cloudy sky forever. If you dismantle the fortress of your heart and let your heart bathe in sunshine, you will gain more honesty.

1. As a person in the workplace, who has not taken the blame?

When we graduate from college and enter the workplace for the first time, we feel like we are in love with the company, and we must abide by the company's rules and regulations very strictly, for fear of breaking any rules.

Complete the work ordered by the leader carefully and meticulously, for fear of making any mistakes. But just in the "small society" of his own department, taking the blame is everywhere.

1. I clearly asked for the leadership’s advice to do a certain job, but when a problem arose, the leader said he didn’t know anything about it.

2. It is obviously a plan written by myself, or a work designed with great efforts, but the signature is signed by my immediate superior.

3. Some work was obviously completed by oneself and handed over to colleagues, but colleagues said "not really"

4. Some words were obviously not said by oneself, but were ignored by others. False accusations by others

Do these sound familiar to you? Do you feel that they are you at that time?

Xiao He, the scapegoat of the previous generation, was the person who best took the blame for Liu Bang in the early Han Dynasty.

Because Xiao He’s faults were relatively secretive, and they were finally transformed into achievements just right. In addition, the Han Dynasty gradually stabilized and became stronger. As the first administrative person at that time to create the era, Xiao He’s historical reputation gradually faded and was covered up. He took the blame for his deeds. 2. The psychological journey of the person who takes the blame after being blamed

1. When encountering such a thing, they are often in a low mood, depressed and melancholy, and even suffer from insomnia at night, tossing and turning, unable to sleep, and feeling depressed for several days. .

2. Some people even couldn't think about it for a while, couldn't swallow the breath in their hearts, or quarreled with the leader, or acted out of impulse, and resigned from the leader in a fit of anger.

3. If life hands you a lemon, squeeze it into juice and add some sugar. When you are sad, hang out with friends, chat, read books, do interesting things, inject yourself with a strong inner strength, and work hard to move forward according to your own plan. 3. What should those who take the blame do?

1. Adjust your mentality, mentality determines everything.

The long foot of the road is called the ruler, and the high mountain is called the peak. Attitude determines destiny. Only by maintaining a positive, optimistic, healthy and good attitude can things be solved better.

I saw a story before: an old lady’s son came home from other places. She happily went out to buy vegetables and make dumplings for her son. When she came back, she found that the meat she bought was short of a pound or two. The more the old lady thought about it, Yue was angry and lost his temper at his wife, and even shouted that he wanted to go to the stall owner to settle the score.

Not only was the old man not annoyed, he smiled and waited for her to finish her tantrum and comforted her: "Are you buying groceries just to be angry or to make dumplings to make your son happy? Why are you so angry and hurting your body over such a trivial matter? , It’s not worth wasting time arguing with the stall owner.”

After listening, the old lady thought that her son was going home soon, so she continued to make dumplings while humming a little tune.

After being blamed, adjust your mentality, stop complaining, and change your mind. Things will always come to light, and there will always be solutions to problems.

2. Instead of complaining, it is better to change yourself and grow yourself

My favorite sentence in "The Ordinary World" is: You cannot wait for others to arrange your life, you have to go it yourself Fight and struggle.

When we cannot change others, we must change ourselves and strengthen ourselves. Don’t repeat yesterday mechanically, don’t complain about trivial matters in the workplace, and make a study plan for yourself.

Learning does not end with graduation from college, but for us in the workplace, learning has just begun.

There is a saying that goes well: Ability is accumulated bit by bit over a lifetime and cannot be mastered overnight.

Etiquette for communicating with people in the workplace, ways of speaking, getting along with people with high emotional intelligence, various office software used at work, various soft abilities needed at work, new Skills and so on.

Only by constantly accumulating your own knowledge and mastering new skills can you be able to solve various new problems at work, and only then can you take the initiative. When you are strong, others will not say anything about you.

3. Start from the details of daily work, do the work impeccably, and leave no chance for others to blame.

001. When asking the leader for instructions on work, the plan is clear and the conclusion is Be clear

In daily work, many issues require asking the leader for instructions. Before asking for instructions, we must consider and analyze these issues from all aspects and give our own ideas, suggestions, plans, etc. Although we do not have decision-making power, we are executors and should give leaders answers instead of throwing questions to leaders. It is best to submit the report to the leader in writing for approval.

It is also necessary to make a written work progress report, and report clearly to the leader the problems encountered in the work, solutions, processing progress, etc., so that the leader can understand the work progress.

002. When handing over work to colleagues, in order to avoid problems in the next joint and blaming the blame on ourselves, we must also explain clearly to colleagues and prepare and confirm the content of the work handover.

003. When dealing with other daily matters, such as contacting customers, communicating with colleagues, dealing with other departments, etc., try to do it in writing on matters that are prone to problems. Written at the end

In our lives, we have to deal with many relationships, parent relationships, friend relationships, colleague relationships, boss and subordinate relationships, husband and wife relationships, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, classmate relationships, etc.

In dealing with so many relationships, many people do not handle them well, which leads to intensified conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, tension between husband and wife, friends turning against each other, and colleagues becoming enemies.

So if you take the blame and don’t complain, you can strengthen yourself so that others don’t dare to underestimate you and don’t give others a chance to pass the blame.

Life is full of collisions, and more importantly, growth.