If the marriage is unhappy, should we stop the loss in time or endure it for the children? Most marriages in China are fabricated, for children or other reasons. Some people say that ten couples are really happy, maybe just one, or not even one. I wonder if this statement is a bit negative. As a man who has never been married, he always looks at the scenery inside the besieged city from the outside. But the scenery is much more, and some characteristics and laws have been sorted out. Qian Zhongshu said: people outside the besieged city want to go in, while people inside the besieged city want to come out. That metaphor is so apt that some people often regard it as a classic proverb. I firmly believe that when I first entered the besieged city, every couple felt that their marriage could be happy and they could rely on each other for a lifetime. That is people's good wish for idealization.

It's just that the dream is full, but it's actually beautiful. In the trivial life day after day, emotions are eroded by reality, worries are worn away, and marriage gradually becomes a beacon. When the trust between men and women will cease to exist, love will cease to exist, and two people will coexist, which will become a kind of suffering and a kind of destruction to each other. At this time, is it time to stop loss and complete the embarrassing marriage connection, or choose to endure for the children and maintain the marriage integration again?

I firmly believe that people have all kinds of ideas, but it's not who has the final say. People who stop losses in time, some people say that they are selfish and ignore the overall situation for themselves. What's the big picture? It is the integration of the family and the influence on the children. However, people who stop in time will say: life is so short, why should I wronged myself? Leave early and leave late, really? In that case, there is some truth. I don't agree to keep a failed and tasteless marriage just for the sake of children. Imagine if the quality of marriage is embarrassing and children have been living in an atmosphere of parents quarreling, cold violence and even beating, can they still be happy? Can he grow up healthily?

The answer is no, what is the significance of such a detailed marriage? On the other hand, these divorced people only need to be optimistic and positive, even if they live alone, they also educate their children well. In fact, there are many such examples in daily life. Therefore, it is irrational and not the right choice to compromise for the sake of children and use children as an excuse. However, everything has two sides. For children, the abandonment of parents is undoubtedly a serious blow to them, which is bound to happen.

The failure of marriage lies not in the children, but in the husband and wife themselves. If both husband and wife can recognize their own problems and take the initiative to reflect on themselves, they can find a solution from them, so even if they use their children as an excuse to maintain a complete marriage relationship, it is not a mistake. Yes, you can satisfy your actual ideal. At that time, everyone was married. Isn't it good to find each other? However, it is normal that people will change after being together for a long time.