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The way of the world is an established behavior rule accumulated in our daily life and belongs to the category of social knowledge. Most of this knowledge comes from social interaction with different groups of people, as well as social conflicts and social development. With professional knowledge and skills, secular wisdom can help us to ease the tension between ourselves and others, and it is easier for others to feel happy and constructive in their interaction with us.

1. Even if we are not talking to important people, we should talk to them in a consultative tone instead of an arrogant attitude, because a person does not judge a book by its cover, and many practical tutors often come from humble life and work.

2. People who take the initiative to order food at dinner are not suitable for asking the host and guests to order food, because that is not what distinguished people usually do, but please pay attention to asking their preferences instead of just ordering what they like to eat. But this requires studying the menu at ordinary times and accumulating ordering experience. Respect the host's arrangement when serving food, and don't flush the table first.

3. Always look for friends, partners and colleagues (even children) who deserve recognition. Pay attention, even the boss needs your recognition, but try to praise the above in private, and praise the general friends and colleagues in public.

When you are praised by others for your looks, things and personality, don't take it for granted and don't pretend to deny it. The appropriate way is to express gratitude, especially to thank your friends for their affirmation and support.

5. Learn to use bills, including IOUs, receipts, leave slips and application letters. If you actively use these notes, others will think you are very standardized. If you know how to ask others to do so, you will be able to deal with these problems better in the future. Writing a note will impress others.

6. Even if you are not a service person, taking the initiative to pour water when friends or colleagues have guests will make friends and colleagues have great face and make guests feel that your friends and colleagues have great prestige. This will make your friends and colleagues especially grateful for your gesture.

7. Although you feel that you are a novice or a person with low status, you should be brave enough to ask questions and take the initiative to ask others' needs, instead of waiting for leaders or senior colleagues to be nice to you, because their performance often requires special efforts.

8. Remember to help answer and record calls, receive letters and send messages when others are not at their seats, and remind colleagues and classmates of some important schedules you know.

9. After consulting others, enter other people's rooms, look through other people's bookshelves or indoor items, use other people's computers, and sit in other people's private seats with the consent of others, but usually don't look through other people's notebooks.

10, you need to be invited to participate in other people's activities. If you can't attend, you should inform your host in advance. If you are late, you should inform the host at an appropriate time. When you arrive, you should explain. If you bring an uninvited friend, you should inform the host in advance.

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12. When there are many attendees, take the initiative to introduce your friends to others, or take the initiative to thread the needle between friends you know. Those friends who have relieved their strangeness will especially thank you.

13. When friends of different status are around, always smile and greet those friends who are introverted, unnoticed and may have a little inferiority complex. Helping the disadvantaged groups in social activities will be especially appreciated by others. For people with low social status, especially when you have living conditions and habits that you can't adapt to, you should restrain your discomfort and negative expression and try to say hello first.

14, don't eat alone if you have something delicious, take the initiative to tell them the good news you know. If you have something delicious, you can think that others will think that you treat them as good friends.

15. If someone does something wrong, don't criticize emotionally, especially pay attention to the facts and avoid evaluating others' character, personality and family upbringing. It is more constructive to propose solutions when criticizing. Don't forget to affirm the advantages of others when criticizing. If you can be humorous when criticizing, the negative impact will often be less. When you are criticized or embarrassed, you can laugh at yourself humorously and improve constructive communication.

16, heroes don't eat short-term losses. However, in many other cases, if there is a dispute, don't continue to add fuel to the fire, calm down, collect more data and think clearly.

17. When you are not fully sure, answer the invitation of others with the tone of "strive for" and "try your best" and promise to fulfill it to the maximum extent. Commitment is what 100% does. If you have a record of not keeping your promise to the same person three or more times, that person usually doesn't take your promise seriously. This is the so-called credit problem.

18. Although we are talking about business, we should try our best to do something for others without talking about returns, so as to win a sense of creditor's rights that is psychologically superior to others. A person's social status is the sum of social debts owed to him by others.

19, children should learn to take care of themselves as soon as possible, and some workers should take the initiative to help the humble chores in the office;

20. For children or younger generations, walk with parents, elders, and respected people, don't grab the road, give way, serve tea, and invite everyone to dinner;

2 1, attend a banquet, eat with friends, don't be picky about food, don't lift chopsticks just because you don't like it, even if you don't drink, pay tribute to tea instead of wine;

22. When asking questions, discussing or asking for advice from teachers or others, you should first stand up and greet them.

Don't speak ill of others or people you don't like behind others' backs. Strict opinions should be negotiated with the parties face to face. If you are positive to others, you can say it behind their backs. Good words for leaders should be personal.

24. Speak with self-discipline, don't say things that you are proud of to frustrated people, don't hold high your position, children and property, don't say discouraging things when you meet old people, say more encouraging words, don't criticize people easily without making suggestions, and don't have to say annoying things and do annoying things when you break up with people;

25. Don't bargain too much with hawkers, and talk politely with working civilians.

26. When you are received, guided or helped, you should send a thank-you message, or send greetings by email or find a special opportunity to thank you. Gifts from elders should not be refused;

27. Don't pick your teeth, yawn, stretch, spit, scratch your cheeks, smoke without consulting, and watch other guests get drunk;

28. If you don't visit or receive visitors when you are eating, sleeping or disheveled, you should treat them properly.

29. When receiving visitors and meeting distinguished guests, you should first reach out and shake hands, first help guide the seating, and the host should wait for the host to arrange seats;

30. For friends, call, email or write greetings if you have nothing to do, instead of looking for someone when you encounter difficulties;

3 1. When visiting from a long distance, try to hold a banquet. Guests should prepare gifts when they come, and return gifts when they receive them. To travel far away, local friends must first understand local preferences and taboos;

At first glance, you should ask this person's name. If the other person asks your name, please reply that your name is X or call me xx.

33. When in Rome, do as the Romans do, people bow and salute, people bow and salute, people greet and ask, people shake hands with me, which makes people feel close;

34. The addresses should be close to each other. The company you visit can be called "our xx company" instead of "your xx company"; Address "our colleagues here" instead of "your employees"; Call it "xx business that our company is doing now", not "xx business that your company is doing";

35. Questioning others should be based on more evidence, and don't talk nonsense; Although reasonable, the wording should be gentle, sincere and have the language of seeking advice; Before commenting on others, you should reflect on whether you can do it;

36. Knowing the good news and truth should be shared with others as much as possible, and the benefits will be shared; Special thanks should be given to those who have been encouraged, supported and helped.