Nowadays, children who love to dawdle are more common, and dawdling has become a common problem in children's study. This phenomenon has a forming process, not a sudden dawdle. There are several situations in which children procrastinate in their study and life: the first is that they have low interest in learning, bite the bullet to cope with it, are helpless when they are tired, procrastinate when they can, lack self-confidence and are irresponsible; The second kind of "slow temper" is slow action, slow pace and nervousness. If you are anxious, you are still me; Third, the concept of time and efficiency is lacking, and the significance of time to life is ignored. According to the different situations of children's dawdling, we should prescribe the right medicine and correct dawdling. In the first case, we should strive to stimulate interest in learning, enhance self-confidence and improve our sense of responsibility. In the second and third cases, efforts should be made to improve learning efficiency. First of all, let dawdle pay the price. The child got up in the morning and dawdled, and the parents were extremely anxious. They shouted to detain the child, but the child was not in a hurry. Finally, parents had to ride their children to school quickly. In fact, this practice of parents is also one of the reasons why children muddle along. Children will think it doesn't matter if they muddle along. Under no circumstances can they be late. They have parents. For example, in the above case, Linlin got up in the morning, waiting for her mother to dress her and help her wash her face. The correct approach should be that when Linlin dawdles, the mother should not worry and let the children worry themselves. Mother can stand aside and say, "If you don't hurry, you'll be late.". I won't help you. " Say similar words only once, don't nag repeatedly. If the child is late, the teacher will definitely ask her why. If the child says "Mom didn't help me get dressed", the teacher will definitely ask her why she needs her mother's help in her own affairs. After being criticized, children will realize the harm that procrastination brings to them, and they will speed up their own pace the next day. Second, help children build a sense of time. If you want your child to change procrastination, you can't rely on loud voices, and you can't beat and scold. Parents can help their children know time by telling stories, establish the concept of time, and let them realize that time is the most precious wealth in the world. It is the longest and shortest, the most and the least, the fastest and the slowest, and it is the easiest to throw away but cannot be recovered. If you delay it, it will slip away quietly. Only by cherishing it and grasping it will it be "enduring". Parents can also tell their children some stories that cherish the success of time to inspire them, and they can also post famous sayings on the wall to remind them. In short, let children realize the value of time through various channels, and let them understand that fooling around will waste a lot of time. Third, increase regular activities. Children dawdle, not only in their studies, but also in all aspects of their lives, such as Lin Lin's performance in the above cases, doing homework and dressing and eating. Therefore, to overcome procrastination, we need to start from different angles. Starting from the actual performance of children, it is feasible to increase regular activities. How long does it take to do a thing? Set it in advance, and then implement it as soon as possible with good quality and quantity. If parents and children evaluate and adjust their requirements together, they will do better next time. Parents should check the design time in time. When the child does something, the parents time her, tell her and praise her for being a few minutes faster than yesterday. In this way, children will have high enthusiasm. For younger children, it will be better if parents and children have a small competition of regular reading, regular memory, regular answering questions and regular labor together. Fourth, change the evaluation angle and say less "slow". The evaluation of "slowness" will make children ignore the use of time, which has long been described as "slowness" Every time children feel that their study time is very long, naturally there will be too many "episodes": staring blankly, playing with rubber, going to the toilet, drinking water and so on. So at school, the teacher praised her consciously. She made progress today, faster than yesterday. At home, parents should also consciously praise her and tell her that you can get up "soon" as long as you don't do anything else while studying. If a child's procrastination is caused by "clumsy hands", parents should find ways to exercise her hands-on ability and help her improve her skills and agility. Parents can play some small competitive games with their children, such as watching who wears clothes quickly and who takes a bath quickly. Through these competitions, parents can teach their children self-help skills such as dressing, washing and packing toys at any time, and teach them how to use the order of doing things to improve efficiency and arrange time. Fifth, feel "I can be fast" with "speed measuring method". Record how many words you can write and how many questions you can do per unit time (say 5 minutes). Then calculate how long it will take to finish all the homework at this speed, and the result will definitely surprise the children: I can finish it so soon! And made her realize "it's worth it." I finished my study task quickly. What should I do with the extra time? Many parents will use this time to let their children develop in an all-round way: increase piano practice time or add extra homework, but in any case, they can't be idle or play. Children will think: it is better to slow down, anyway, the faster the task, the more. Therefore, you have to make your child feel "worthy of being fast" before she will go "fast". Six, the task is moderate, leave freedom. Children want to play as soon as they finish the task, but many parents ask them to do other exercises next, so that they can't see the dawn of play, so the children come up with the trick of dawdling. If you tell your child, "that's all, you can arrange it freely when you're done." The task is moderate, ensuring that the child will accelerate. More incentives, less urging. Some children are really slow in doing their homework, but it may be that the homework is difficult, or the children have developed the habit of muddling along, or there is something wrong with their intelligence. If this is the case, the more parents rush, the more panicked the children are, but they are slow. If parents say, "It would be better if you were faster." "If you hurry up during the exam, you may have more time to check." Positive children will consciously remind themselves to hurry up next time. In addition, children's dawdling behavior may also be related to parents' own behavior. Some parents usually like to watch TV or books and newspapers while eating, and some parents also delay because of fatigue or laziness. These behaviors have a subtle influence on children, and it is very easy for children to develop bad habits such as inattention and procrastination. So parents may wish to check themselves first and set an example for their children. Change the procrastination of children's homework. 1. [Time division method] The attention of children in grades one and two is short-lived, and the attention duration is generally around 15 to 20 minutes. If it lasts too long, the brain will be tired, the learning efficiency will be low, and the amount of homework will be large. Doing homework will be a long and painful thing. In the face of homework that can never be finished, the final choice of children is procrastination. Therefore, time can be divided into several parts, three or four segments. For example, if the homework is expected to take 1 hour, divide the time into three "20 minutes", and after each "20 minutes", rest for 5 minutes or 10 minutes. Because each time is very short, and there is a "short-term ultimate goal" as an incentive, I feel hopeful when I start writing my homework, and I will concentrate on doing my homework within the specified time. You can also use the method of changing numbers into quantities, that is, divide all the homework to be done into several parts according to the quantity. For example, if there are 15 math problems, it is stipulated to rest for 5 minutes every 5 problems, and then do the next 5 problems. During recess, children can listen to music, chat with them or play some games. At the beginning of implementation, parents must urge reminders and strictly control the time for rest and homework. Second, find out the reason for the slowness. Once, I found my son copying new words very slowly. After careful observation, I found that it took her 10 second to write a word, and then she wrote the next word every 10 second or so. The reason for the original slowness is that there are too many intervals. I told her the results of the analysis and told her that in order to improve the speed of doing homework, the interval must be reduced. The time interval between two words is no more than 5 seconds. After writing a whole page, you can rest for 5 minutes, drink water and sharpen pencils. After studying for half an hour, you can rest 10 minutes, draw pictures, read pictorial or play with toys. She is full of energy, so let me test her on time. Therefore, the writing speed is more than doubled. The conclusion is: concentrate the idle time and let her play. Third, [ability training method] First of all, learning is a kind of ability. The basic ability needed for homework is the coordination of visual perception and action. All homework materials must be visually processed, and at the same time, they must be transmitted to the hands through the brain, and the homework will be completed by the hands. In other words, homework is the result of "coordination" between eyes and hands. If children's visual discrimination, visual breadth, visual memory and fine movements are backward, then doing homework is a difficult or even incompetent job for children. In addition, children often do things by interest, so it is much easier to play while learning than to copy or repeatedly calculate. To fundamentally solve the problem of children's homework procrastination, the most important thing is to improve their learning ability, which will drive their academic performance. Let children do more outdoor activities is an effective way to improve their learning ability. For example, sticking cicadas, catching slugs, shooting basketball, playing table tennis and shooting. Can exercise children's hand-eye coordination, paper-cutting, imitation painting, threading and so on. Can exercise children's visual ability. In addition, skipping rope, skating, trampoline, walking on the balance beam and other activities can cultivate the coordination and balance of children's bodies. Fourth, some of them are slow movements caused by children's own personality characteristics, and they are also influenced by family environment. If the family is also slow-tempered, sloppy and procrastinating, it will also affect the child's dullness in all aspects. Some children are slow-thinking, doing things half a beat slower than others, and can't get up quickly. When you meet this kind of child, you should first face up to it and don't abuse the child with words like "stupid". First, family members should set an example, change the habit of doing things slowly in the past, develop the habit of doing things resolutely and cleanly, and let "fast" be used in daily life. For example, doing housework with children, the competition is to see who finishes first or within the specified time, such as washing clothes, dressing and folding quilts. Over time, the child's chronic temper will change. If you drag it to study, you can get up quickly. Second, through game activities, we can make a training plan to promote children's reaction speed and quick thinking. For example, write 30 simple addition and subtraction questions on paper every day, and calculate the time with a stopwatch to see who can accurately complete the calculation in the shortest time. This is a calculation; Copying a long list of numbers in the competition to see who can finish it fastest is writing; Parents write down several groups of numbers or letters at will and ask them to use the same numbers or letters quickly and continuously. For example: 256552889556877595922, write "55" with strokes, or find a book, and compete to see who finds a word with high frequency in an article, that is, looking for it; Playing solitaire, the sooner the better, means. This kind of calculation, writing, finding and speaking training can be designed by parents and practiced for half an hour every day. Seek speed on the basis of quality, the sooner the better. Be sure to stick to it for a month or two, and never give up halfway.