2. It can be said that without the humiliation of Changsha, there would be no fame and fortune of Zeng Guofan in his later life. The success of this setback left a deep impression on Zeng Guofan's self-education and strengthened his frustrated and unyielding character. From this experience, Zeng Guofan realized that humiliation is the greatest motivation and blow is the best help for people with will. Grit your teeth and eat the humiliation alive, which becomes the nutrition to nourish your will and determination. This constitutes the core part of Zeng Guofan's life experience. Decades later, he also educated his son in a letter from home, saying: "Few people in the world have done nothing, and doing something useful is half-life, and those who have made progress are half-life." "Be rebellious from all sides" and "the only way to be rebellious". "The so-called hero is really good at swallowing blood."
Not only the emperor is narrow-minded, but also the ministers who repeatedly hit the wall in officialdom are selfish. Many defects in my personality, temper, temperament and style are also important reasons. In retrospect, I used to have a strong sense of moral superiority in dealing with people, thinking that I was aboveboard and clear about people. So superior, sharp-edged, talking too hard, doing things too straight, of course, it is easy to cause resentment from others.
He saw his fatal weakness more and more clearly: too arrogant, too eager, too reckless and too strong. Later, he became kind, modest and thoughtful.
Before that, he always held a mentality of "everyone is drunk, I wake up alone". Now he is trying to tolerate those ugly officialdom survivors, put himself in their shoes, try his best to win over and comfort them when communicating, and "take advantage of them" when necessary.
6. His plan is to start from himself, infiltrate the surrounding areas, cultivate a group of gentlemen, occupy important areas, and gradually influence the whole social atmosphere through these people to realize the benign development of society. In his letter to Hu Linyi, he said: "The overall situation of the world cannot be redeemed. Those who can be encouraged by the public can cite a group of honest people and train a few good officials as seeds. " Therefore, while Zeng Guofan was an official, he also spent a lot of time and energy educating people on moral knowledge and cultivating subordinates' cronies, which is unparalleled in the history of China.
7. If you eat these four grabens, you will be ashamed of yourself. Therefore, although you have stolen your name recently, you dare not claim to be capable or self-righteous. Fear of people's words and destiny all stem from tempering.
Zeng Guofan summed up his life and repeatedly said that setbacks were his driving force, so he encouraged his younger brother to grit his teeth in the face of setbacks, persevere and turn passivity into initiative, so as to expand his mind and increase his skills.
8. Everyone has a strong "self-centered" and "superior" instinct. This instinct can not only encourage people to be competitive and make achievements, but also make people feel conceited and even jealous of talents. Therefore, this instinct must be cultivated and tempered like taming a fierce horse, in order to benefit from it and get rid of its harm, and finally become a great sage and a great country.
9. Left: His two major hobbies in his life, listening to people's praise and cynicism, all originated from this. He has never refused any praise from others in his life, nor has he missed any opportunity to find fault with others. Especially when he meets someone who is equal to himself, Zuo instinctively becomes a cockfighting, always unable to restrain his attack tendency, scolding him from the beginning, exposing his shortcomings and doing everything. This was more obvious in his later relationship with Li Hongzhang and Guo Songtao.
10. To friends, be sincere first. "mortals come with' virtual' and I go with' sincerity'. Over time, counterfeiters tend to be sincere. " The second is respect. "As for the way to communicate with people, the word' respect' is the main word." The second is forgiveness. "I want to stand firm step by step and know that others want to stand firm. I want to work hard everywhere and know that others have to work hard." The so-called elegance. Today I am in prosperity, and I expect there will be adversity in the future; Today, I am arrogant. I hope others will be arrogant or bully my children. "Then there is Hun," You can only get rid of the machine if you forget it ". Don't care too much about everything in interpersonal communication and share it too clearly. Finally, don't be jealous. Zeng Guofan thought this was so important that he took "not jealous" as his will in his later years and told future generations.
1 1. Zeng Guofan created a more comfortable living space with a humble and harmonious attitude. Left arrogance finally got revenge. At the end of Xianfeng nine years, Zuo met the biggest stumbling block in his life.
12. Zuo failed in interpersonal communication all his life. His high status, condescending, straightforward and arrogant make him few friends. In officialdom, he is also a maverick, lacking tolerance for subordinates and colleagues, which has greatly affected his official career.
13. Zuo Tang Zong likes to let him wander at his feet all his life, so he often has no strength to recommend his subordinates until he may leave his job. Liu Jintang has made great contributions under his command, but he has always been a Taoist title and has not been promoted for many years. He was so angry that he once wanted to quit his job and go home.
14. Zeng Guofan's interpersonal communication is much more successful than Left. Zeng Guofan has made friends like a cloud all his life and is a very outstanding figure. Zeng Guofan had a successful career all his life and got help from his friends. The success of his career, to some extent, is the success of being good at employing people. On the other hand, he is better at putting himself in the other's shoes, helping and repaying his friends and sparing no effort. Almost all Zeng Guofan's subordinates were recommended by him, and 26 of them became governors and ministers, that is, ministerial officials. Fifty-two people have become officials with more than three grades, that is, officials at or above the deputy ministerial level. In addition, there are countless Taoist priests, county magistrates, prefectures and county magistrates. Before and after the restoration of Tianjing, the Hunan department was "civil and military for a long time." British historian Paul Berger once said, "Zeng Guofan was the most powerful man in China. When he died, all the governors were his subordinates and nominated by him. If he had hope, he might have become an emperor. "
15. Throughout the ages, people with determination abound, but few people actually carry it out.
16. Confucianism requires that when a person conflicts with others, he should first find the root cause from himself.
17. Confucianism requires that when a person conflicts with others, he should first find the root cause from himself.
18. Most people are in a state of lethargy or bed rest all their lives. Some people are imprisoned by material desires all their lives, just like pigs trapped in a circle, and they have never been awake all their lives. Some people, aware of the need to be awake, are in a state of "diligence and laziness" all their lives. They want to work hard all their lives, and they can't get through the key points. There are many reasons, but the fundamental reason is that we can't be cruel to ourselves, and we can't resolutely step up and sweep away all the traps.
19. Zeng Guofan very much agrees with Zhu's sentence. People must have a bitter process to grow up. Leisure will never change completely. Writing daily lessons and cultivating oneself is the "fierce cooking" stage of Zeng Guofan's life.
20. In his later years, Zeng Guofan summed up his own life experience and said that a person's life is like a process of fruit ripening. Don't worry and don't slack off. Human efforts and God's cultivation will make a tree grow taller quietly, and it will also make a person mature slowly: "Without help, the flat land will grow taller in thousands of feet."