Children with autism should be encouraged. They have their own way of learning and progress. Parents should respect their ways, don't impose their own ideas on their children, and look for their children's ideas. Every life has its value and significance. It is the existence of these special children that inspires human love. Their existence is their contribution, so that human society can support and care for each other! Parents should sort out life and other things in the family, settle down first, have the ability to take care of themselves, and handle their emotions well, so as to take care of special children. Every child is like a closed door, don't hit it hard! Find the key to the child's heart! Don't mislead children. In daily life, we often mislead children. Especially sentences with the word "no". One of the main manifestations of being misled is to see the child lying on the ground, but his mouth shouted "Don't lie on the ground". We didn't know what to do at that time. Later, we went to listen to Professor Yang Zongren's three-day class and learned what was going on. It turns out that the child doesn't understand the real meaning of "don't lie on the ground". Every time he lies on the ground, we tell him "Don't lie on the ground". Children with normal language can naturally understand it, but for an autistic child, he doesn't understand it, he only understands it.
Knowing this, we changed the way we talked to our children. When he is lying on the ground, I will say "the baby is lying on the ground" first, and then pull him up and say "you can't lie on the ground". After a few months, the child gradually understood the true meaning of the word "no" and would not say "don't lie on the ground" when lying on the ground.
Our children's self-control ability is generally poor, so they will show that they don't know the rules. This cannot be improved in a short time, and it needs long-term intervention. I have two specific methods. One is to remind you in advance, not to criticize you afterwards. For example, I think another thing is more important, that is, you should clearly tell your child the reward and punishment measures in advance, and then you must implement them, so as to help your child consciously control his behavior.
This requires a long process. Don't beat and scold children, and don't be anxious. I couldn't do it before. I hit him. What I want to say is that teachers cannot replace parents, and educational institutions cannot replace families. Parents can get help and guidance in educational institutions, but ultimately it is the parents themselves who help their children. No matter what major parents studied, they should now study another major-autism major. Only with mother's love and expert level can we help children effectively. It is impossible to turn an expert into a mother, but it is feasible to turn a mother into an expert. Therefore, before the question of how to teach children, we all have a question of how to teach ourselves. Parents of autistic children have as many problems as their children. We should help ourselves first and teach ourselves first, then we can teach our children and save them.
If parents lack perseverance, can't stand setbacks, can't face the reality, can't control their emotions, and are always in a state of depression, inferiority and sadness, children will not have any hope of recovery.
Benefits of on-site training: 1. A mother knows her children best, and love is the most powerful in training. 2. Long-term contact with mother and emotional communication are very beneficial to children's emotional development.
3. At home, you can adjust the training content at any time in time, so that children can keep their attention and interest, and will not cause mechanical training.
4. At home, we can take all kinds of phenomena encountered in life as the content, and combine life and training organically.
I'm afraid the training will be a protracted war. When the behavior training is over and the children grow up, I'm afraid they need psychological training and so on. Sooner or later, parents have to go into battle by themselves, and it is better to be late than early.
6. save money. This is especially important for less affluent families.
In addition, it is best not to let children break away from the normal crowd and let children gradually adapt to the basic rules in the crowd. Institutions are auxiliary, and the key is parents. Self-training is not necessarily at home, let alone behind closed doors.
When you don't know what to do at first, you'd better take part in institutional study. Usually you can discuss with other parents, and you can also see all kinds of information on the Internet. How can I raise my children?
1, often think, often teach
Educating autistic children is a big project, and we have to invest a lot of time and energy. As long as we have time, we will think about it, including finding a way to find a way. This is also our concern, expectation and blessing for our children! It will be passed on to the child in an invisible form, which is conducive to his recovery. Teaching, as long as you are with your children, whatever you can teach, no matter when and where. You should fill the child's time and don't leave him blank. You should participate in children's activities and life, and let children participate in our activities and life.
2, casting nets everywhere, focusing on training.
Autistic children have obstacles in language, behavior, emotion and cognition. Several aspects of rehabilitation training should go hand in hand and be focused. If only behavioral problems are corrected within a certain period of time (such as half a year), it is not advisable to ignore other problems. Or think that it is even more undesirable to correct the behavior problems first and then teach the language when the behavior problems are completely normal. We should pay attention to all aspects of children at the same time, but in different periods, we should correct one or two problems repeatedly, so that children can know what to correct and what to learn. When one problem is solved and consolidated, or there is some progress, we must correct the next one, alternately, and pay attention. Always mention it to prevent retrogression. When a problem has made some progress, just put it aside for a while and change the content. After one or two intensive trainings, the problem can't disappear completely, as long as there is progress every time.
3. Break down the objectives and proceed step by step.
To solve any problem and learn any problem, we should follow the principle of gradual progress, and break down an overall goal into several small goals, from easy to difficult, from decomposition to combination, such as wearing shoes. For the first time, let him put his feet in and I'll help him put them on. The second time, let him untie himself, put his feet in, and I helped him put them on. The third time, let him untie himself, put his feet down and buckle himself. Sometimes he will say I can't wear it, but my mother will. I will say that I do my own thing, and he will go on to say: My mother does her own thing, and I want to express what my mother does. But I will insist, at first he will cry.
4. Create learning opportunities and create learning scenes.
In life, create learning opportunities for children, set learning scenes, and let children increase their practical experience. Children can be deliberately arranged to do something, so that children can know their own abilities in practice and increase their self-confidence. For example, I let my children go to a small supermarket to buy things, eat and drink, and go to different stores to buy them; When eating in a restaurant, ask him to ask the waiter for napkins, small bowls, etc. And when shopping, let him ask the salesman where the bathroom is and so on. Of course, all this must be done under my reminder. I know all these things. If I do it instead of him, he will have less chance to study.
5, language training, perseverance
Language training is a part of the rehabilitation process, because language is a communication tool. Without tools, there will always be obstacles for children to communicate. Tell more stories and teach them anytime and anywhere. 6. Pay attention to participation and cultivate self-confidence.
In children's learning, pay attention to give them a pleasant feeling and a successful experience. The emotional intelligence of autistic children is very low, and they often show special self-confidence, special retreat and timidity. The correct way is to give the child confidence and a sense of accomplishment, and show appreciation for her. When children have emotional disorders, don't continue to let them learn cognitive content, mainly to guide their emotions first, and then continue to teach after their emotions are stable. Too serious setbacks will form a morbid personality and eventually make people lose confidence.
7. Appropriate punishment and clear priorities
Appropriate punishment is necessary, but we should pay attention to the principles and methods of punishment: first, the punishment must be timely and specific, what to punish him, what to punish him, let the children understand the causal relationship, and the punishment should be clear. Second, the punishment should be steady, pay attention to physical safety and psychological safety, and don't accidentally hurt children. Psychological safety is very important. Let children have appropriate ways to vent their emotions after being punished, and pay attention to relieving psychological pressure. Third, punishment cannot be an excuse for mothers to vent their emotions. After our child was punished, she promised to change in the future, but we will find that the same problem will recur. At this time, it is often not that the child is not aware of the mistake, but that there is a problem with control. All autistic children have problems with their control systems. In this case, try to train their control ability. Training should be prioritized, and children have many problems. Where should we start and which problem must be solved? Those problems that are directly related to children's interpersonal communication and have an impact on others should be taught first, without affecting children's communication barriers, and can be tolerated, such as certain rigid behaviors.
My impression of autism rehabilitation
1. Autistic children will feel more or less abnormal in perception. There must be physiological reasons for their special behaviors and special ways of reflecting, such as being afraid of certain sounds and refusing certain foods, which all indicate that their hearing and taste are abnormal. So we should understand some of his performances, not simply reprimand.
2. Autistic children learn what they know, teach them what they know, don't teach them what they don't know, don't learn what they don't know, they must teach, and any problems can't wait for him to come naturally. As long as they are taught, the potential of autistic children is enormous. Don't underestimate the child's ability, don't think that he may give up if he can't learn, and try to do everything.
3. The intellectual development of autistic children is unbalanced, some aspects are higher than normal, such as memory, some aspects are lower than normal, some aspects are two years worse than normal, some are four years worse than normal, and some are even bigger, such as language, but autistic children have their own advantages. When teaching autistic children, we should highlight his advantages and cultivate his advantages, and we should not ignore his advantages in order to correct the backward aspects.
Some people say that the severe stage of autistic children is about 4 to 8 years old, which is a low point. After 8 or 9 years old, it will slowly recover. In the severe period, it may take a lot of effort and time to make progress, but if we teach after the severe period, we may learn it soon, but we can't wait. You can't give up in a serious period, and after a long time, quantitative change will change qualitatively.
5. Autistic children have "epiphany" in learning. When accepting a new content, they usually go through such a process: tension-stagnation-acquisition-maintenance. So we often feel that teaching something is slow, but once we learn it, it is not easy to forget it. Therefore, when teaching a child to learn a new thing, don't worry. After a while, he will learn it. If he gives up during the stagnation period, the child will not learn in the end.
6. The rehabilitation process of autism follows a spiral upward trend, which is upward on the whole, but there are repetitions in the upward trend. It must be noted that every repetition is not a repetition of the past, but an inevitable stage in the process of children's progress, so don't be dejected and despondent when you see the corrected problem coming back. Generally speaking, the occurrence and degree of problems are decreasing.
7. The rehabilitation prospect of autism is to become normal, and to some extent, keep parallel with normal people. After onset-trough-recovery-stability, it finally reaches the best level at the end of adolescence, so this is a turbulent process and a plastic process.
8. Some problems need to be solved a certain number of times, and some aspects have not made obvious progress after long-term training. Not necessarily because the method is wrong, but also because the accumulated amount is not enough, there is no qualitative change, and it needs to be continued.
9, some phenomena fade, improvement is at the expense of time, such as soliloquy, hand self-stimulation exercise, and after the peak of rehabilitation, they appear again and again unconsciously. This kind of thing restricted by physiological factors has a rehabilitation limit, while things restricted by social factors, such as language expression level and interpersonal skills, will continue to improve.
The education of autistic children is the same as that of other children, and the role of family, especially parents, is very important. School and social education cannot replace family education, which needs to be continued and consolidated; Moreover, from the perspective of autism rehabilitation, the confidence and attitude of parents and families are decisive. Parents are advised to master the following principles during training:
1, try to use short and clear instructions: when you ask questions interactively with your child, you must first make sure that the child is paying attention to yourself, and then give him short and clear instructions.
2. Training old and new skills should be interspersed: an important task of parents in training is to create opportunities for their children to succeed, maintain their motivation to learn and improve their self-confidence. In the process of training, while teaching them new skills, we should also give them enough opportunities to repeat the skills they have learned, so that children can have a sense of accomplishment in the learning process, and accordingly avoid the kind of educational methods that are greedy for new things and hate difficulties and the mentality of encouraging others.
3. Sharing control: In life, we often see unsatisfactory situations. First, parents arrange everything for their children, and children can only obey instructions. The other is that parents leave everything to their children. The so-called control sharing is to prevent these two extremes. Autistic children, like normal people, are particularly motivated by things they are interested in. If a child wants to play with a toy, parents should play with the child, and talk about something related to the toy in the process of playing, so that the child can learn while playing. However, they sometimes do some repetitive mechanical behaviors or dangerous behaviors. In these cases, parents should not leave their children alone, but should take necessary control or divert their attention and interest.
4. Conditional reward: Parents must be able to pay attention to rewarding their children's skills and efforts in time, while avoiding inadvertently rewarding misconduct.
5, the use of natural rewards: that is, children's behavior is rewarded in the natural consequences of behavior.
6. Reward children for their reasonable efforts: In the initial stage of training, children often fail to meet their parents' indicators. Even though children have made some progress, there are still some defects in their skills. In order to keep children's interest in learning and gradually realize their goals, parents should pay attention to constantly rewarding their children for their reasonable efforts.
7. Emphasize various forms of things: Everything has various forms according to its shape, size and taste. Children with autism often only pay attention to one aspect. If parents don't emphasize the diversity of things when getting along with their children, they will lose many educational opportunities in vain. The body is not equal to life, the body can be disabled, but life will not be disabled, life will not be presented in only one way, it is colorful! I hope you will be satisfied with my answer!