Family Traditions and Family Instructions_Famous Quotations from Zhendexiu of the Song Dynasty, "Guide to the Zhaiguo"

What you say will be followed, and what you teach will be done.

Learn etiquette: Be sensible and understand etiquette. You must be kind to your parents at home and your teachers at school. You must be respectful and obedient to them and follow their teachings.

When they talk to you, you must answer them. If they ask you to do something, you must do it immediately. Don't be too lazy or stubborn.

Learn to sit: When you sit down, you must be stable and upright, with your feet evenly placed and your hands tucked in. Do not bend down, bend, lean back, lie on your back, lean forward, or tilt.

Learning to walk: Keep your hands in your sleeves and walk slowly. Do not throw your shoulders, shrug, or jump.

Learn to stand: Put your hands on your chest, keep your body upright, and avoid any lameness, instability or crooked posture.

Learn to speak: When describing things, you should be simple and do not say unfounded words. Your voice should be low and soft, and do not shout loudly.

Learn to read: You must concentrate on reading the correct words, segmenting the correct sentences, and read slowly. You must read every word clearly and cannot look around or fiddle with other things in your hands.

Learn to write: Hold the pen attentively, and write the words neatly, evenly and cleanly, and do not smudge randomly and make it confusing.

As the stars change, things change and people change.

Modern society has long abandoned etiquette norms such as bowing with hands and walking with sleeves rolled up, so the above content can only be regarded as historical materials for cultural appreciation.

But what is touching is that the ancients actually formulated such detailed etiquette standards for daily life activities such as sitting, standing, speaking and doing, indicating that they consciously shouldered the social responsibility of promoting morals and customs.

This kind of social responsibility is the driving force of civilization.

If a nation does not know how to establish certain civilized standards for daily life and allows people to let it go, it means the abandonment and loss of this nation's culture.

What is more important than formulating these etiquette norms is that the ancients were able to further implement these etiquette norms into the content of family education. Once any concept enters the level of family education, it means that it will become a broad and profound concept. Social fashion.

For example, if some civilized customs in modern society, such as not spitting and not jaywalking, can also become the content of family education, it will inevitably lead to a great change in the civilized style of society.

Ye Mengde's "Family Instructions in the Stone Forest" Family Traditions and Family Instructions_Excerpts of Famous Quotations

Ye Mengde's "Family Instructions in the Stone Forest" Family Traditions and Family Instructions_Excerpts of Famous Quotations

Song Dynasty "Shilin Family Instructions" by Ye Mengde.

1. A few tips on self-cultivation should be taken as a warning to the disciples.

Although a gentleman is poor, he has great ambitions, in order to cultivate benevolence; although he is rich, he has a humble appearance, in order to eliminate arrogance; living a comfortable and comfortable life can keep the blood from slackening, which is to follow the principles or Because of etiquette; because of hard work and tiredness, but the appearance is not dull, this is the reason for loving friendship; although one is angry, one does not deprive others of what should be given to others because of it; although one is very fond of it, one does not give more than the quota to others, that is why The reason for the victory of etiquette over personal feelings.

You must keep my words in mind and use them to improve your self-cultivation. Even if you cannot achieve the ultimate good, you will not fall into the bad.

You must not neglect this matter.

If you are poor and have no ambition, you have already fallen into a dead end; if you are arrogant and rich, you will be criticized by thousands of people sooner or later; if you lose your fighting spirit, your days of peace and happiness have come to an end; if you do not persist in being enthusiastic when you are tired, If you are a guest, it is easy for the guest to misunderstand you; if you deliberately deprive others of their deserved benefits out of anger, or if you give too many benefits to others out of love, this is a behavior that is narrow-minded and selfish.

The reason why the above points can become the key to self-cultivation is that they enable people to have a harmonious environment and clear-headed decision-making no matter in good times or bad times, even when they are losing control of their emotions. , strong fighting spirit and noble personality.

2. Don't deceive others when you're close.

Sima Wen Gong wrote "The Doctrine", in which there is a chapter that says: The pedantic old man has no other secret for serving the monarch, just not to deceive the monarch for a long time.

The same should be done to parents.

This is the wisest saying in the world.

It is not easy for you to explain how to treat a monarch. Let’s talk about how to treat parents.

I don’t think anyone in the world can avoid being deceived by younger generations.

If you love a child, teach him a lesson. If the child appears to obey but does not take any action, this is deception.

If you make a mistake but conceal it and keep silent so as not to let your parents know, this is also deception.

Having thoughts hidden in your heart, avoiding the most important ones and not daring to reveal them all is also deception.

Pretending to do something that looks good on the surface may not be true, and this is also deception.

Zeng Zi mourned his deceased relatives and could not eat or drink for seven days. Although this had no effect on our deceased relatives, it was out of his inner feelings.

Zengzi's filial piety has reached its extreme, and its level of difficulty makes it difficult for future generations to imitate.

If you want to gain a reputation of filial piety through your actions, you cannot fully show your true feelings for your loved ones. You should realize that doing so is also a mistake.

If a relative dies, it would be too difficult for future generations to imitate Zeng Zi and they would not dare to do it. What’s more, if their relatives are still alive and deceive him, what should they not dare to do?

Now that you have heard my teachings, you must follow them one by one without losing anything.

Repent if you have made a mistake and do not make it again.

You must not let your parents hear about your affairs; if you have any thoughts in your heart, you must tell your parents everything, and you must not hide anything. Do what the Son of Man should do, and do not do what the Son of Man should not do.

Adopting literary methods to gain a good reputation can also be said to be filial, but it must be premised on not deceiving.

This mentality is also used to treat the monarch. Is there a second way?

Emphasizing that you should not deceive others does not mean invading your own privacy.

Deceiving others emotionally is subject to moral condemnation, deceiving others in business is illegal, deceiving your boss at work is incompetent, and deceiving your parents during your growth period is not conducive to your parents helping you in time. Correct mistakes and seize opportunities.

If a person is good at deceiving, he is destined to be despised in work and life.

Never equate loyalty with being a fool. This is a moral quality that is easy to achieve but very valuable. This quality is the most basic professional ethics at work, and sometimes even Ability to make up for deficiencies in ability.

3. Be careful with your words and save trouble.

When I look at people talking, there are only four types: People who are accustomed to spreading absurd and false stories often talk freely, regardless of the interests and gains of the person being discussed, and just follow their own interests and speak freely.

People who like to inquire will exaggerate and praise some content that is roughly similar on the surface, although they are exaggerating and they don't know it yet.

For people who are immersed in the feelings of likes and dislikes, although the people they like are ugly, they try their best to cover them up; even if the people they hate are kind, they cleverly slander them.

Those who exclude others because of their interests deliberately create troubles and set up conspiracies, so as not to be ineffective in excluding others and to avoid slandering others deeply.

There are only two types of people who are obedient: simple people who don’t know right from wrong and believe everything; careless and fast-talking people who don’t care about the pros and cons and spread everything.

This is why you cannot speak without caution.

Now I know that you can probably avoid the first four shortcomings, but I can't help but worry about the last two.

The reason is that you are not deeply involved in the world, have not experienced tribulations, and are not yet able to clearly understand the cunning nature of human relationships. How would you know that you can avoid following these mistakes and sinking into them?

Therefore, if you want to speak carefully, you must first reduce irrelevant matters. When choosing friends, you must pay attention to simple and quiet people. If you do not pursue extraneous matters, you will naturally not enter the land of right and wrong.

The people you interact with are all kind and decent people, and they naturally like people who can consciously prevent harm. Then, words of right and wrong will not reach your ears.

You must hear some rumors as a last resort. You must use your brain to think about the words that come from innocent people and do not believe them; you must take warnings from the words that come from careless and fast-talking people. And don’t spread it easily, so you may be able to avoid some mistakes.

Advising people to be cautious and save trouble seems to give people the feeling of being unhappy and overly cautious. But think about it carefully: No matter when or where, who can avoid the disputes and disasters sown by talking nonsense? The author describes in detail the process by which words are spread and changed by people with different thoughts, and fully demonstrates that careful speech is an important means to respect others and protect oneself.

Modern people advocate opening their hearts and speaking freely, but most of them only focus on improving their expressive skills. This makes it easier to cause slander and mental damage to others just for the sake of quick words.

Once something like this happens, modern society is a legal society, and those who cause trouble through words will be even more difficult to escape.

Be careful with your words. Not only should you choose your words according to the target audience, but you should also work hard on being good at listening and reducing communication.

This raises the art of speaking to another level than the usual requirement to improve expression ability.

4. There is no need to overstate the metaphors of the scholars.

A saint has a nature composed of a sincere heart and perfect morality, and is rooted in the supreme morality composed of the golden mean.

If these are released from the heart and expressed in words and deeds, not only will all the issues they think about be in line with the rules, bad thoughts and evil thoughts will not be able to enter, and willful behaviors that are illegal will not be able to It was imposed on them, so the saints were not at fault.

The so-called fault does not mean it is manifested in actions or language (it is considered a fault). People usually think that a fault is not considered a fault until it occurs.

Yan Zi’s fault is the kind of fault I am talking about.

The meaning of Bu Er is to be able to stop it before it happens, and to put an end to it before it manifests itself. In other words, the fault in words and deeds is the second fault.

You should encourage yourself with the thought of never making mistakes and learn from Yan Zi’s mentality. This is my usual wish!

You should encourage yourself with this!

The meaning of never making mistakes does not mean not to make mistakes repeatedly in words and deeds, but it means that if incorrect thoughts come into your mind, it is the first time you have made a mistake; if you make further mistakes in words and actions Showing it out is a second mistake.

This requires people to be able to detect in time when wrong thoughts begin to sprout in their minds and eliminate them first, completely eliminating mistakes before they take shape. This is a very high level of effort and effort to avoid mistakes. Cultivation of the realm requires extremely high moral wisdom and the habit of self-righteousness that can be developed over a long period of time.

Family tradition, family motto, family rules, famous sayings

1. Frugality fosters integrity.

2. Use your body to help the country.

3. Don’t be obsessed with wealth.

4. Filial piety comes first.

5. If you have a clear conscience, why worry about being like a rat.

6. Be proud and calm when frustrated.

7. Only when you know your shame can you make progress.

8. The instrument must be large and the mood must be broad.

9. Repay grievances with straightness and resolve grievances with justice.

10. If you are lazy and content yourself, your family fortune will be difficult to achieve.

11. Be consistent with your heart and your words, and you will never be deceived.

12. If you promise someone something, a thousand pieces of gold will never move it.

13. If people have no faith, everything is false.

14. Losing your husband’s life, integrity and shame are the most important thing.

15. Give kindness without thinking, and never forget receiving kindness.

16. If you are eccentric, you will regret and make many mistakes.

17. Get up at dawn and sweep the court.

18. Time flies like an arrow, and the sun and the moon fly like a shuttle.

19. Once a word is spoken, it is hard to follow.

20. When people are happy, they should not be jealous.

21. The food should be simple but refined, and the vegetables in the garden will heal the delicacies.

22. If young people don’t work hard, old people will be sad.

23. A hundred acres of fertile land is not as good as a small skill.

24. A little tolerance for everything means a blessing.

25. We should value our ideals and seek for the world.

26. Mo Daojun leaves early, and there are even more early travelers.

27. Be kind to others and be knowledgeable in world affairs.

28. If the motherland is in trouble, you should be the vanguard.

29. Reading must be done with intention, a word is worth a thousand pieces of gold.

30. It is easy to go from frugality to luxury, but it is difficult to go from luxury to frugality.

31. Hiding grudges and using hidden arrows will bring disaster to future generations.

32. If you are frugal in running your home, there is nothing else to do.

33. The utensils are pure and clean, and the earthenware pot with a small mouth is better than gold and jade.

34. One careless thought can ruin your wealth.

35. A hundred years are easy to pass, but youth will never come again.

36. If you work sincerely, there will be no unachievable achievements.

37. You should know that learning is difficult and only depends on your hard work.

38. The ambition is lost with fatness, and the heart is bright with indifference.

39. People should not be happy when they are in trouble.

40. An inseparable neighbor.

41. Money is like dung, but benevolence and righteousness are worth gold.

42. Don’t make your elders suspicious or your parents angry.

43. A person who travels thousands of miles cannot bully an isolated person, and a single tree cannot make a forest.

44. It is better for others to betray me than for me to betray others.

45. Respect teachers and respect the Tao, love others and be kind.

46. A virtuous wife will bring few troubles, and a son will be filial to his father and have a generous heart.

47. There should be room for success in everything, and it is not advisable to continue to be proud.

48. Reading more and understanding the past and present can help you avoid worries.

49. Those who are lonely and lonely must try their best to show sympathy.

50. He who cares about property but neglects his parents is not a good son.

51. When you are in a wealthy place, you should show pity to the poor and humble.

52. Coveting unexpected wealth in a hurry and drinking too much alcohol in a hurry.

53. It is better to prepare for the rain than to dig a well when you are thirsty.

54. Don’t be arrogant when you are in control, and you must cultivate yourself when you encounter slander.

55. Responsible for others with a heart that blames oneself, and loves others with a heart that loves oneself.

56. It is difficult to put out a nearby fire in a distant mountain, but a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor.

57. Sit quietly and think about your own mistakes, and don’t talk about others’ faults in small talk.

58. Don’t complain when someone regrets, don’t complain when someone is ashamed.

59. People should not follow Xun, and people should not be happy if they are worried.

60. The evil is not big, but a bad mind will lead to disaster.

61. Don’t rely on yourself to show your talent, don’t try lightly and be lucky to succeed.

62. When you are young and strong, you must remember the bitterness of aging.

63. You must be frugal in your self-respect, and don’t linger at banquets.

64. To forgive others is not to be an idiot, but an idiot will not forgive others.

65. Indulgence in greed is a sea of ??suffering, and burning desire is a pit of fire.

66. In front of an official, you can only show respect to generals, but do not chase them away.

67. If you don’t frown in your life, there should be no gnashing of teeth in the world.

68. The waves in the river push back the waves in front, and the new people in the world drive out the old ones.

69. Don’t talk empty talk and don’t be short-sighted and have no long-term vision.

70. Always think about the day when there will be no day. Don’t wait until there is no time and think about the time when there is no time.

71. The plan for a year begins in spring, and the plan for a day begins in the morning.

72. Having a good reputation without virtue is not a good sign. In troubled times, having too much wealth is a recipe for disaster.

73. A head of white hair is urging you to go away, and you can’t buy it back with ten thousand taels of gold.

74. Whether you are beautiful or not depends on the water in your hometown; whether you are close or not, it depends on the people of your hometown.

75. Serve delicious food early, when the sunset is not long.

76. When the township parties are harmonious, the disputes will be settled, and when the couple is harmonious, the family will be prosperous.

77. Don’t think about trends at any time, and stay away from the vulgar world.

78. When father and son are in harmony, the family will not be defeated; when brothers are in harmony, the family will not be divided.

79. Orioles are afraid of old age, how can they teach people to spend their spring.

80. A dead tree grows again when spring comes, and no one can grow young again twice.

81. Wealth is a ruthless thing. The more you value it, the more it will harm you.

82. The liver and intestines are as warm as the spring breeze. Although I don’t have a penny in my pocket, I still feel sorry for myself.

83. The Qi and bones are as clear as autumn water, leaving the family with only four walls, and always being proud of the prince.

84. Don’t use small favors to hurt the general public, and don’t use public opinion to gain personal feelings.

85. Don’t let others’ doubts hinder your independent opinions, and don’t let others’ opinions be ignored by your own will.

86. Don’t take advantage of one’s own strengths to avoid others’ shortcomings, and don’t rely on one’s own weakness to avoid others’ abilities.

87. Don’t rely on your power to bully the orphans and widows, and don’t be greedy for good food and kill animals.

88. Being good if you want others to know it is not really good, and being evil if you are afraid of being known is a great evil.

89. If you read too little, you will be idle, and if you are idle, you will be evil. If you are evil, you will do bad things, and you will be troubled.

90. Don’t take advantage of others when doing business with them; when you see poor relatives and neighbors, you must show warmth and compassion.

91. I will bully others when I am in power, and I will be bullied by those who are defeated; I will chase a dog in a poor alley, but a poor dog in the alley will bite me.

92. It is most shameful to be flattering and flattering when you see wealth, but nothing is more shameful than to be arrogant when you are poor.

93. One porridge and one meal should be remembered as hard-earned; half a thread and half a thread, it is difficult to keep thinking about things.

94. Filial piety should be done as hard as possible, not just to maintain health. The crow has the filial piety of feeding back, and the sheep know the kindness of kneeling down to breastfeed.

95. Knowing oneself but not knowing others, hearing the faults of others but not one's own faults, this is the root of the problem. Therefore, selfish thoughts should be eradicated when they appear, and slanderers should be suppressed when they arrive.

96. Career articles are destroyed with you, but your spirit is eternal; fame, wealth and honor are transferred from generation to generation, but your integrity remains the same for thousands of years.

97. Listen carefully to what is said, be aware of the inhuman accusations, be patient and think twice, and fight over matters. How can I know that it is not my fault? I need to think about it calmly.

The essence of Bao Zheng's family tradition and family motto_famous quotes

The essence of Bao Zheng's family tradition and family motto_famous quotes_

Song Bao Zheng's "Family Instructions".

Don’t follow my will. Not my descendants.

If the descendants of the descendants who serve as imperial officials are guilty of corruption and abuse of power for personal gain, they will not be allowed to return to the family during their lifetime, and their bones will not be allowed to be buried in the ancestral graves after their death.

Those who do not follow my aspirations are not my descendants.

I sincerely hope that this sentence will be carved on stone by craftsmen and erected on the east wall of the hall, as a warning to future generations.

Bao Zheng is a typical representative of upright officials in ancient my country.

He regarded the legal system as the supreme ruler that transcended the royal family, the powerful, and the family ties, and created the highest peak of the spirit of rule of law in ancient China with his lifelong integrity and selfless political service.

It can be seen from his ban on corrupt officials among his descendants not to return to their families or to be buried after they die: He not only adhered to the spirit of law enforcement and selflessness until the last moment of his life, but also hoped that through future generations, he would continue to Carry forward and benefit the world behind you.

This is an ancient official who fought corruption with his life to the end. His image has aroused the enduring respect and love of Chinese descendants and constitutes a monument to the law enforcement spirit of ancient Chinese officials.

This monument still maintains an insurmountable height.

Hu Shi’s family tradition and family motto and introduction_famous quotes

Hu Shi’s family tradition and family motto and introduction_famous quotes_

The essence of Hu Shi’s family tradition and family motto:< /p>

Be the best person in life

Be the best person in life. This is a child with ambition. But ambition should be put in the heart, put it in the effort, never put it on the mouth, never put it on the lids. No matter how high your ambition is, never be proud of others. Hu Shi's letter to his son Hu Sizu.

Introduction

Hu Shi (1891-1962), also known as Shizhi, had the pen names Tianfeng, Zanghui, etc. A native of Jixi, Anhui. Famous modern scholars, poets, historians, writers and philosophers.

He once served as a professor at Peking University, and served as the Ambassador of the Republic of China to the United States, the President of National Peking University, and the President of the Academia Sinica in Taiwan.

Hu Shi was one of the leaders of the New Culture Movement that advocated literary reform. He was the first scholar to advocate vernacular writing and new poetry, and had a profound impact on modern Chinese history.

Throughout his life, Hu Shi advocated liberalism, skepticism, democracy and science as the only way to save China, and advocated a scholarly approach of making bold assumptions, carefully seeking verification, and speaking with evidence.

Hu Shi was deeply influenced by the British philosopher Huxley and the American philosopher John Dewey. He claimed that Huxley taught him how to doubt and Dewey taught him how to think. These influences also penetrated deeply into his family education thoughts.

After becoming a father, Hu Shi, who has a strong Chinese and Western cultural background, consciously assumed the historical mission of cultural maintenance, and also tried to implement the Chinese family motto with modern Western education concepts.

Traditional family mottos attach great importance to teaching children how to be a good person, and Hu Shi also attaches great importance to the education of children and even puts it first. After the birth of his eldest son Sizu, Hu Shi wrote a famous poem "My Son": Now that you are here, I have to raise you and teach you. That is my obligation to humanity, not a favor to you.

When you grow up in the future, this is what I expect from you: I want you to be an upright person, not my filial son.

In Hu Shi's view, being an upright person is more important than being a filial son.

In the traditional old China where filial piety is the first priority in all aspects, this is nothing more than the sound of the empty valley. When Sizu left his parents to study in Suzhou, how to let his children learn to live in harmony with others and how to handle interpersonal relationships were important issues that Hu Shi considered.

He greatly appreciated Dewey's concept and habit of cultivating gregarious activities, so he proposed a sense of gregariousness and warned Sizu to learn to be gregarious and to use his brain to think about how to get along with others.

You have to do your own thing, but don’t hinder others; you have to try your best to help others, but you can’t help others do bad things. There is a basic rule in being gregarious, which is to always think about others, and always think about what I should do if I did him. What I can't bear, can he bear it? If I don’t want to, will he? If you think like this, you are a good boy.

No matter how good your grades are, you should always be humble and kind to others. The more people respect and love you, the more proud you are, the more they will hate you and look down on you. The message he gave to his son shows his ambition, which reflects how to be an upright person, and his humility, which reflects how to be gregarious.

No matter how gregarious they are, their core values ??and purposes are to guide children to become independent adults and become independent people with the ability to think independently, observe independently, and judge independently.

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