Disclaimer: The trial and error I am talking about does not mean that you sell your body, or do something that is unethical, unethical, or other extreme things such as killing people, supporting violence, etc.
As you grow older, you will find that the cost of trial and error will become larger and larger, so you must cherish the trial and error opportunities you have while you are young.
Young people, if you are still studying, you are really lucky, because you have too much time to try and make mistakes. At least in terms of learning, you have countless opportunities for trial and error, because future learning will cost time and money. In school, please don’t worry because you didn’t get excellent grades or feel that you are not good enough. There are two semesters in a year in school, and the opportunities for trial and error in exams throughout the year are enough for you to understand that you are wrong. where and be corrected. (This means that if you are wrong, you must take the time to review it and think over and over why you are wrong. It doesn’t matter if you continue to be wrong after thinking about it, but if you think about it again, compare it, and remember it, you will finally grasp the essence of the question. )
Of course, you also need to try and make mistakes at the right time during the reading stage. The correct time here means that you can relax your mind and try and make mistakes in class tests, weekly tests, monthly tests, and even mid-term and final exams. But for the graduation exam, you must pay attention and take it seriously. You should summarize your previous trial and error experiences and avoid them in the graduation exam. This way your previous trials and errors will be valuable.
? If you currently do not need to take financial responsibility for your family and yourself, or your family’s financial burden is relatively light, congratulations, your opportunities for trial and error in life have increased. . At this stage, please feel free to tell your parents about trying various interest classes, such as dance, art, music, taekwondo, boxing, swimming, etc. (If you feel too tired, then give up these trial and error opportunities that are difficult for many people to get. No one forces you, but you may regret it many years later.) At this stage, please try boldly and study hard. Then try to figure out what you really want to invest in and stick to it. It will be your valuable wealth and a very important direction indicator in the future. For example, if you have always felt that art is the one that you can endure the most in so many courses, then you can not only directly consider majoring in art in the future and become an artist or use it as a livelihood skill, but you can also use it to make a living. As an additional skill for your life.
? If you are a student who has just graduated from university or has been working for 2 years. Well, I still congratulate you very much and hope you can cherish this opportunity of trial and error in interviews/work/units. At this stage, you should seize the time to interview the industry or company that you are interested in and want to enter. Try to find the one that you are most satisfied with and then persevere. Many people will be confused at this stage or choose to make do and adapt because of the fixed rules of life, until they continue to find that they are getting more and more tired, and when they are 30 years old, they suddenly find that they are not suitable for this position at all and do not like this position. But at the age of 30, you are faced with being replaced and eliminated, so you can only continue, gritting your teeth and continuing to suffer in pain until you retire or choose to start a new industry under the pressure of paying for a car, housing, and raising a child. Therefore, for those who have just graduated or even worked for a year, please do not always compare yourself with those around you to see why you are worse. You are afraid that you will never have a direction. This is a stage of freedom. No matter good or bad, it is a valuable experience and opportunity for growth. Don't complain or feel depressed because you made the wrong choice once, and don't be anxious because you are confused. At this stage, you can boldly try and make mistakes and try more opportunities.
? I like painting, and I like to focus on my own time when painting, but I have never learned painting systematically and completely. In short, I have no basic art skills. I used to be worried that my family would not be able to afford it, and I was afraid of the burden on my family, so I never dared to mention that I wanted to study art. When I grew up, I asked my mother if my family would have no money to eat if I were an art student. My mother laughed, how could it be possible? At that time, they thought I didn't like it, so they didn't let me learn it. If I liked it, they would be willing and able to provide it. . Just like that, I missed a lot.
Since I have limited time after working, learning to draw can only be a hobby.
?I knew how to use PS software when I first graduated, so even though I didn’t have good art skills, I still tried to work in design. I took a few works and applied for an e-commerce design position. . I study hard, refer to a lot of materials, and constantly come up with ideas. But I found that I was always slower than others in making pictures, and I was not satisfied with the results many times. Whether it's a poster, a main picture or a product picture, I put a lot of thought into learning and researching it. Even if I worked up all night to come up with many versions, I still couldn't make it satisfactory. Later I decisively gave up. I like to draw, but it is all based on imitation. I am not good at many basics such as composition, color sense, and it sounds a bit ugly. In fact, my talent for design is average. The ability that I am not good at will make me unable to complete a complete and qualified work and hand it over to customers or leaders. In short, I cannot be well qualified for this position, so I gave up the art design industry, but I will still only know how to paint. As my hobby rather than my skill to make money to survive.
?I have watched an anime before, and the two protagonists are both editors of the comics department. Because I liked it so much, I decided that I would like to be a comic editor or an editor in a publishing house in the future. And I really like reading books, I really like paper books and I also like words. So after I finished the art design, I shamelessly went to a third-party publishing company. But this place is different from what I imagined. I can come up with plans and write them quickly. But this is far from enough. In addition to having one's own thinking and organizational skills, editing also requires one's own literary talent/writing ability to be very high. Although my Chinese language scores have not been bad since I was a child, the reason why I cannot always be top-notch is that my composition drags down my score. I am very interested in templates other than composition, so I rarely spend time on the process of learning writing. The exam is also based on Time is allotted to sections other than composition. I often finish a composition with enough words in 20 minutes (which leads me to this situation now... I advise everyone to pay attention to writing, writing is really important). Because of this, during the work process , I realized that my current writing level is seriously not suitable for my job, although I like editing, which is a very noble position in my opinion. But in fact, many times the ideas that come into my head cannot be described, which leads to a lot of time wasting on repeated revisions. As a result, the work is delayed and cannot be submitted. This situation is the same as when I was doing graphic design. It cannot become a skill for me to earn money and survive.
? A year and a half after graduation, I still didn’t have a stable job, so my family and friends all advised me to find a stable job in a big company with good benefits and decent pay. I am in my twenties, and I have tried all my favorites, but they are not suitable, so I lost my direction for a while, so I followed everyone's advice and invested in HSBC, Unilever, Country Garden, and almost 5-6 Fortune 500 companies. enterprise. But they were all rejected, mostly because my English and Excel skills were not good enough, my work place was too far away, my academic qualifications were not enough, etc. Large companies in the Fortune 500 generally require written examinations. I remember that at that time, I prepared some manuscripts to recite, and I also found test questions that others had interviewed and did them several times. But in the end, I didn’t get a chance to get in, and the qualifications for the second round of interview/probation period were not available. .
? When it comes to frustration, yes, I was depressed about it for a long time, suspecting that I was the scum of society and the loser of the family. . But looking back now, there were a lot of graduate students competing for a small position at that time. In fact, there was no need to feel sad at all. On the contrary, I was a little glad that I had the opportunity to participate in these formal interviews to feel the motivation of those who were better than you and worked harder. , to experience the pressure of a formal interview, the nervousness of the interviewer and the anxiety of waiting for the results.
After these experiences, I carefully analyzed some of my strengths and what motivated me to fight for them.
In the end, I found that I really don’t have many skills. I can understand basic English, but I can’t freely communicate with foreigners and read economic articles and novels in English without any barriers. I can’t write a good article easily and work on a very popular new topic It's impossible for the media, and it's impossible for those who work as civil servants, because I am not very interested in politics. If I work as a teacher, I don't have the confidence to teach any subject. After various trials and errors, I found that what I was left with was that I loved analysis, had a thick skin, and wanted to make money. In the end, I chose cross-border e-commerce. The basic salary in this industry is enough to support myself and my family. If I want to earn more, I can use the skills I learned to get commissions. Then you can meet your other needs.
This position will inevitably have good and bad performance. When the performance is not good, you will sometimes doubt whether you are suitable for this industry. But when I think about e-commerce, I can use data to analyze market trends. From the data analysis, I can see how customers like the product and then improve the product in a targeted manner. I can optimize my products and words to impress my customers and increase sales. That sense of accomplishment. It makes me feel happy and willing to continue researching, even if it hurts but I still like it. I am very happy that I entered this industry. Although I spent a lot of time and went through many failed interviews, now I will not regret it or feel that my previous job was a waste of youthful experience, because I have learned through these trials and errors. What do you like? Now I will no longer doubt whether I am suitable for this industry. I will only think about problems and work hard to find solutions. ?
In the two years after graduation, I interviewed with many companies and stayed in 3-4 companies. The fastest was 2 months and the slowest was more than half a year. Every time I changed companies, people around me would change my mind. I feel that I am impetuous, unable to persevere, and not able to withstand pressure enough. In the past, I would often feel inferior because of these words and looks. In the fourth year after graduation, in retrospect, it is not necessary, because life is your own. For some people, their parents help them arrange a good route when they are born, or help them find their own life direction very early when they were young. . But I guess many people, like me, missed out on the various opportunities for trial and error as a child. When I grow up, I can only use limited time to hit the wall everywhere before finally finding my own direction.
? Different trials and errors will allow you to grow, cherish and extract what is truly suitable for you from each experience to become your lifelong wealth.
? I find it really difficult to update every day, especially for someone who writes articles as slowly as squeezing out toothpaste. . I am very happy that my previous article actually saw 16 people from 7 people. I guess they all clicked in by mistake after seeing the title.