It is difficult to ride a tiger, and the tiger also complains.

Talk about the tiger, the tiger is also surprised.

The background of this statement is that in class, Mu Xin spoke to a group of international students in the United States.

Difficult. It is not good to go back, and it is not good not to go back. It's hard to ride a tiger, and you can't even get off. The United States is a tiger. So many people have come to China, but they won't leave. Americans are also disgusted.

What is context?

Context is the environment of speaking, the time, place and person of conversation, and the context of conversation.

This is a beautiful dress.

As you can imagine, when we talk about this, we may point to this dress and nod slightly and make related sighs, even if it's just a hum. This kind of talk is closely related to other gestures, behaviors, the whole situation and a certain culture.

Out of context, hearsay is often far from the author's original intention.

Internal position under context consciousness means that researchers walk into history with all their subjective factors, feeling, touching and listening. Only by doing this research can a bunch of dead things in the past be revived and filled with fireworks.

Know the famous words, but also know the context.

Look at a case that is often used to teach us not to talk.

Q: Some people slander me, bully me, humiliate me, laugh at me, despise me, be mean to me, hate me and cheat me. What should I do?

Answer: Just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, put up with him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few more years and see him.

This is a dialogue between Hanshan and the Tang Dynasty monk Shi De.

Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Say that finish this sentence, picked up the monk and then read a long song:

An old chap like me wears a coat and is full; Make up for the cold, and everything will follow. Someone called me an old chap, and an old chap like me only said yes; Someone hit an old buddy like me, and an old buddy like me fell asleep; I spit on my face and let him do it himself; I also save energy, and he has no worries. So paramita is a wonderful treasure. ...

If we quarrel with pickup, with his eloquence, are we sure to win?

Do you know why people are so calm? Because of confidence.

The bottom spirit comes from strength.

Calm "don't talk" comes from the power of "if you say it, you can say it well".

Why is context important?

I ate a big loss and said to myself afterwards:

I'm so stupid. I deserve it.

It doesn't matter.

But you just used me and couldn't say to me:

You are so stupid. You deserve it.

In fact, the reason is simple: insulted and injured people can choose to regard reality as an established situation and lament the cruelty, sinister and helplessness of this world. This is his right, and he has the right to choose to look at the problem this way.

However, people who insult and hurt others can't use the same words to justify their actions, and put it on each other and become their own obligations.

How to improve your contextual awareness?

Confucius communicates in a high context. Different people ask the same question and his answers are different.

Zigong redeemed a Lu nationality and refused to pay compensation after returning home. According to Lu's laws, Lu people who have been redeemed as slaves abroad can claim the ransom.

Confucius said, "You didn't take a good approach. From now on, the people of Lu will no longer redeem their compatriots who have become slaves.

Luz saved a drowning man. The man thanked him and gave him a cow, which Luz accepted.

Confucius said, "Now the people of Lu will have the courage to save those who fell into the water."

All Confucius' answers were "one-sided". He is a Chinese doctor, not a western doctor. Western medicine is the definition and standard treatment for all diseases. On the other hand, Chinese medicine treats patients according to their symptoms. Everyone's prescription is different, and you have to change it every three days, because you are not what you were three days ago.

In order to get closer to each other quickly, you have to use the same language as them and quickly integrate into each other's context.

If we pay enough attention, we will find that the more capable people are, the more open-minded and gentle they are when they speak, because their ability has enabled them to look at a thing from more angles, so their emotions will not fluctuate greatly.