Because it is not easy to achieve real self-discipline, the requirements for people are very high.
Some people think that self-discipline is forcing themselves to do things they don't want to do, or even competing with themselves, but in fact, self-discipline has a great relationship with people's cognition. If you master three self-cognitions, you may become a self-disciplined person unintentionally.
From 65438 to 0970, two American psychologists Edward Desi and Richard Ryan put forward the theory of self-determination.
From the perspective of people's psychological needs, this theory summarizes that if people want to be motivated to do something continuously, they must meet three psychological demands at the same time: sense of autonomy, sense of competence and sense of need.
In other words, if you want to be self-disciplined, you must know who you really are, what resources you can use, what you love, choose to do what you want, and have the ability to do it. With a sense of autonomy and competence, you can stimulate your unlimited potential.
On the contrary, blindly being arranged by others, or doing things that you can't do, will only resist this thing more and more after repeatedly hitting the wall.
Einstein famously said, "Professional interest is the best teacher."
Just like a person likes dancing very much, if he is allowed to sit and draw, he will feel particularly bored, but if the music starts, he will be enthusiastic and sway on the dance floor, instead of complaining and tired for a long time, but devote himself wholeheartedly.
Self-discipline should be based on self-connection. People have the motivation to do things, there will be a steady stream of motivation to succeed!
Therefore, knowing yourself first and learning to contact yourself can not only make you happier, but also make yourself a self-disciplined person and fully release the internal driving force.
Psychologist Are Holen once pointed out that self-reconciliation is an important task in adulthood, which coexists with your future growth and efforts, and its proportion in life will increase with age.
Each of us yearns for perfection, but each of us is doomed not to have perfection. As the saying goes, without money, no one is perfect, not all efforts can be rewarded, and not all things can be completed as expected, because we are not gods, nor saints, but ordinary people with defects.
Therefore, there is a gap between the plump ideal and the skinny reality that people are unwilling to accept but have to accept. How to face the gap is the key to whether a person can become a self-disciplined person. Only by accepting the gap and adjusting the mentality can people know themselves better and plan their lives better.
It is of course a kind of self-discipline to set goals that suit you and gradually shorten the gap between reality and ideal. However, self-discipline is not a blind pursuit, but a clear plan. Don't abuse yourself for self-discipline, otherwise people will only get pain in the end.
Jumping out of the comfort zone is a very popular saying at present. Although it is undeniable that it is a way of self-motivation, we also have to admit that if we can really find a comfortable lifestyle, wouldn't it be a kind of luck?
Each of us has our own way to go. We don't know where this road leads, but if everyone gains happiness along the way, then we can say for sure that this is a road that suits us, and this is only one of the prerequisites for establishing self-discipline.
Only when people feel comfortable will self-discipline appear naturally, and when people deliberately compete with themselves and pursue self-discipline that does not belong to them, self-discipline will inevitably get farther and farther away from us. Because we can't understand ourselves, how can we control our lives and understand the true meaning of self-discipline?
Find your own way, learn to truly accept yourself, and realize self-connection in life. Only in this way can self-discipline truly belong to us, and can we give full play to our greatest value and help people move towards happiness and success.