People's personalities have been changing imperceptibly,

With the increase of experience and life experience,

His personality is constantly changing,

If you encounter unprecedented setbacks and pressures,

Could lead to mutation.

Isn't there a saying? Change what can be changed and accept what cannot be changed. Maybe we can't change other people's minds, so let him do his best. You have your own life and others have their own lives. None of this can be strong.

As the saying goes, a leopard cannot change his spots. Is personality innate and unchangeable for life? Actually, it is not.

It is necessary to understand personality first, and then understand personality. Personality, sometimes called personality in psychology, is a unique behavior pattern, thinking pattern and emotional response characteristics in the interaction between a person and the social environment, and it is also one of the characteristics that distinguish a person from others. Therefore, personality is manifested in thinking ability, cognitive ability, behavioral ability, emotional response, interpersonal relationship, attitude, belief, moral values and so on. Generally speaking, the formation of human beings is related to biological genetic factors, but personality is produced in a certain social and cultural background, so it is also the product of social culture.

Psychologically speaking, personality includes two parts: character and temperament. Personality is a psychological characteristic of a person's stable personality, which is manifested in his attitude towards reality and corresponding behavior. On the positive side, people's attitudes towards reality include loving life, pursuing honor, being loyal to friendship and love, caring and helping others politely, and hating evil. People's behavior towards reality is dignified, gentle, unrestrained and humorous. The combination of people's attitude towards reality and behavior patterns constitutes a unique personality that distinguishes one person from others. On the question of personality, Engels once said that a person's personality is not only reflected in what he does, but also in how he does it. What a person does shows what he pursues and refuses, which reflects his attitude towards reality. What a person does shows his pursuit and reflects his behavior towards reality. Personality essentially shows people's characteristics, and temperament seems to give personality a color and a mark. Temperament refers to the characteristics of people's psychological activities and behavior patterns, which endows people with brilliance. They are also people who love labor, but people with different temperament behave differently: some people are quick but rough, and may be courageous; Some people are meticulous and slow-heating, which may be sticky. Temperament and character thus constitute personality.

Character can be shaped.

Some people talk about personality and say it has something to do with genetic factors. It is said that you are born with a long temper and can't change it. In fact, it's not entirely true. There is a British psychologist named Eisenko, who advocates personality latitude in personality theory. One extreme of latitude is extroversion and the other extreme is introversion, so there are many grades between latitudes. He thinks that people who are extremely introverted and extroverted are a minority, and most of them are comprehensive, either introverted or extroverted. The emergence of Eisenko's theory of personality latitude has a great influence on the psychological field, so we think that personality can move in latitude.

In recent years, Japanese scholar Yozo Hasegawa believes that personality can be changed through behavior. This puts forward new tasks for our psychotherapy and children's education: to cultivate people's good behavior, especially children's, and help them change their personality weaknesses; We should cultivate character in our daily life. When children are young, it is the golden age to cultivate good character.

Personality is slowly shaped in childhood, and psychologists have done "emotional deprivation experiment": divide the little monkeys born together into two groups, one group is fed milk in an iron cage, and there is nothing; The other group made a fake mother out of plush, and they could play on the fake mother after eating the milk. The experimental results show that when the monkeys grow up slowly, the group without fake mother is less courageous, irritable, unsociable and difficult to get close to others. The group with fake mothers is just the opposite, not timid, gregarious and easy to get close to people. This shows that deprivation of maternal love in infancy, especially in childhood, will distort their personality and cause bad behavior and personality performance. The experiment of emotional deprivation shows that it is very important to cultivate children in a good psychological environment in infancy to form a good personality.

Secondly, parents and other family members have a great influence on the formation of children's personality. For example, a mother is obsessive-compulsive disorder. She has twins. When she comes back from kindergarten, she always washes her face and feet immediately and puts them on the bed to prevent them from touching the children in the neighbor's house. She is a neat freak and afraid of getting dirty. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is produced on the basis of perfect personality, which is called obsessive-compulsive personality in medical psychology. The defects of this character are reflected in loving thinking, being suspicious, being very disciplined in doing things, often worrying too much, always lacking security and pursuing perfection. Therefore, if this personality is stimulated by some psychology, it is easy to induce obsessive-compulsive disorder. If children are raised like this from an early age, it is likely that children will become obsessive-compulsive disorder patients in the future.

After personality is fixed, it is not static.

After the 1960s, there appeared a theory-"pre-limit theory", which holds that people's personality can be changed after the stimulus exceeds the pre-limit value. The child's innate character and quality only lay the foundation, and the child's future development path is long, which is also related to his future life experience. For example, children are timid and unwilling to associate with others. Later, his working environment was in the army. This is a group that needs him to associate with others and participate in many group activities, even cruel struggles. Such an environment will make him strong, cheerful and open-minded. Another example is a very cheerful person who loves to laugh. He is not allowed to get along with others in a tightly closed environment. In the end, he may become a man of few words. Therefore, the environment affects people's psychological activities and the formation of personality. Life, environment and time are the best sculptors to change their personalities.

Everyone should have a good attitude, constantly reflect on themselves, constantly improve, and strive to pursue good personality goals. A good personality has several characteristics: first, it should have good moral quality and correct outlook on life; Second, in daily life, love life, love the collective, love labor, can always maintain a happy mood and broad mind, not self-centered; Third, compassionate, always considerate of others, not impulsive and emotional; Fourth, things can be analyzed objectively and calmly, handled and judged correctly and rationally, and they are not stubborn and subjective; Fifth, have strong will and perseverance, have no dependence, have the courage to overcome difficulties and be good at solving contradictions. Of course, these are perfect personality characteristics, and we should pursue and improve them with this as our goal in life, so as to make our personality healthy, make ourselves full of charm and help turn disadvantages into advantages. A healthy personality is a stepping stone to success in life. It can be said that if you have a healthy personality, you will get the wealth of success in your life.

People with the above perfect personality may be more extroverted. However, introverts don't have to be discouraged, because character can be exercised. Let's start by saying hello, nodding and saying hello when we meet. After a long time, people will think that XXX has changed and she has talked to people. After being encouraged, she may also enhance her confidence and ability in interpersonal communication. You don't have to take your introversion or extroversion as a burden, because everyone's personality and temperament have strengths and weaknesses. As long as we strive to exert our strengths and overcome our weaknesses in real life, we may have a successful life.

Different personalities can emit different light.

Personality and temperament cannot determine a person's wisdom and career achievements. People with different personalities can become outstanding representatives in a certain field. For example, Russian Pushkin, according to the analysis of psychologists, is a person with bile characteristics, krylov has mucus characteristics, and Nikolai Gogol has depression characteristics. They all became great Russian writers and made outstanding contributions in the field of literature.

With regard to temperament, Hibuglari had a classic division long ago, that is, it was divided into sanguine temperament, choleric temperament, mucinous temperament and depressive temperament, and this division has been in use ever since.

Hibuglari's theory is similar to Pavlov's later advanced neurology, such as choleric equivalent to Pavlov's excited type, sanguine equivalent to active type, mucinous equivalent to quiet type, and depression equivalent to cowardly type. Gallbladder is characterized by energy, frankness, excitability and sometimes irritability. Because of the high excitability of nerve activity, these people show behavioral imbalance. Its work is characterized by periodicity. It can devote itself to work with great enthusiasm and overcome difficulties, but once it loses confidence, it will sometimes be discouraged. Pavlov said that if this type of people don't have this balance, as long as they are obsessed with one thing, they will squander their energy and wealth, so that they will finally do their best and consume too much until they really feel unbearable. Bloody people are flexible, sociable, easy to adapt to the new environment, easy to do things in collective life and full of vigor. Pavlov said that most of the representatives of sanguine people are activists with remarkable work efficiency, but they are only interested in things for a long time. If they are not interested in this career, when it doesn't meet their interests, they will feel bored and it will be difficult to finish what they want to do. People with blood are often smart, sensitive to new things, able to engage in diversified and changeable work, and have made remarkable achievements. People with mucilage are most suitable for organized and persistent work, but the disadvantage is that they are inflexible and inert. Due to lack of flexibility, it takes time to concentrate or divert attention to other things. Laziness makes them less creative and more conservative. Pavlov said that such people are peaceful, balanced, firm and tenacious practical workers. Because of the stability and certain inertia of their neural processes, they have strong self-control ability, work hard and are not distracted by irrelevant things. The advantages are carefulness, prudence and strong sensibility. I can get along well with others in a friendly and United group. So everyone's personality and temperament are different, but this does not affect them to become outstanding activists in a certain field.

People with different personalities have always been described by writers. Writers have grasped the most vivid, essential and representative features, and created vivid characters one after another, such as the sentimental Lin Daiyu and the provocative Wang Xifeng in A Dream of Red Mansions. In the Water Margin, there is a courageous and resourceful Luda; The indecisive gentleman in Ba Jin's Home ... These characters with different personalities shine their own light and charm in literary works because of their particularity.

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