INTJ (architect)
In the face of love, what are the unique shortcomings of INTJ (architect) who is calm, quiet and good at thinking?
Low emotional acuity and a sense of distance.
INTJ is not good at socializing. He is usually very quiet. Slow personality makes people feel alienated and even indifferent. INTJ is too rational and puts the real needs of the other party on the wrong focus. Maybe all a partner wants is a loving attitude. However, INTJ remained silent for a long time, deeply immersed in the matter itself. I'm thinking of a bunch of reasons to explain and analyze the problem at hand. This will make your other half feel that this person doesn't love himself at all, and his eyes are full of finding problems and solving problems.
2. I don't know how to express my emotional needs.
In many cases, INTJ's expression of feelings is a bit "different". When two people have an argument, the partner also wants to know INTJ's emotional attitude. In fact, INTJ is obviously very excited at the moment, and his mood fluctuates greatly! But INTJ likes to "deliberately hide" the feelings of another part of himself. Therefore, the appearance on the surface is often different from the actual state of the heart.
It's hard to figure out what INTJ is thinking. When INTJ wanted to explain this problem, he said a lot of "analysis" ... His partner looked puzzled and didn't understand what INTJ wanted to express ... INTJ always failed to grasp the key points of emotional expression, which made his partner feel that he was talking nonsense!
3. Always self-righteous and think you are right.
This is the original sin of INTJ's confidence. Overconfidence will make you proud. Emotionally, it is easy to be self-centered, and I feel that what my partner says is all P words, which has no reference value. Treat your partner as a fool and despise him ... when the object points out the problem of INTJ, INTJ can't accept criticism from the object! It is easy to get angry from embarrassment, react more strongly, and feel absolutely fine. Finally, blind overconfidence leads to emotional tension.
4. Too detailed control makes people feel picky.
INTJ's demand for details is unusual. They believe that "seeing the big from the small, seeing the small." How can people do great things if they can't do well in small places? ! But falling in love is not a career, and love emphasizes mutual feelings. INTJ is easy to demand perfection because of a little thing in life, which leads to a lot of resentment when getting along with his partner. In fact, it's just small things, but INTJ will magnify things, and such a mode of getting along can easily lead to the loss of love bit by bit. I finally stopped loving. ...
What looks like "Love Times" is actually an armchair strategist.
This is the feeling of many people who love INTJ. At first, I thought INTJ should know a lot about love. It is full of love quotations, which are usually for friends to see how to fall in love. But when INTJ fell in love. You will find that INTJ often speaks in some incomprehensible love patterns. People can easily feel the great contrast. Because maybe INTJ loves himself more than himself!