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Life has its ups and downs. No one can always be happy, and it is inevitable that there will be times of depression. After all, it is not easy to live.

It is said that the rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor are not asked in the downtown area. A person is down and out, friends around him are alienated, disgusted, laughed at, etc. This is human sentiment, and it's no big deal.

But we often like to live in other people's eyes and care about other people's opinions. Being rejected by others will inevitably make us angry, but it is not good for us.

Merimee said in Carmen that you shouldn't be angry because others don't respect yourself.

Because when you are down and out, it is undoubtedly bring disgrace to oneself who wants others to respect you. Respect is not charity from others, but dignity that you strive for by your own strength.

It's not terrible to be down and out. What's terrible is that you got discouraged first, then broke the jar and fell, and lost the courage to get back on your feet.

A wise man will be dormant when he is down and out, accumulating strength for a comeback and creating opportunities to achieve his goals.

So, in life, when you are down and disliked by others, start from the immediate things:

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Don't blindly compare with others when you are down and out, but do what you can

Everyone has different opportunities and talents.

Being down and out, you should understand that it is temporary. As long as you try hard to give up and readjust your direction, you can find the right way. Even if you are down and out, you have to keep up with others, and you will only lose yourself.

In the virgin forest of South America, there is a kind of treble bird. It is beautiful, but it is busy building its nest in a big tree every day. Its nest is very huge, which is several times or even more than ten times as big as its body, so it is very tired.

When a zoologist put a bird in a huge cage, it only built a nest the size of its body, and then stopped.

When another bird was put into the cage, the two birds began to build their nests crazily, and the bird that had stopped building began to expand its own nest, until one of them was exhausted and the other stopped building its nest.

The scholar put another one in, and the previous situation was repeated. Scholars understand that the reason why the treble birds keep nesting is to keep up with the competition.

Tribe bird's competitive psychology is too strong to allow its nest to be bigger than its own. Once it finds other birds nesting, it starts to compete and expand its nest until it finally kills itself.

In fact, life is the same as nesting. When you are down and out, you should do what you can, and don't make yourself a burden by punching your face and being fat.

when you are down and out, the most important thing is to go into battle lightly, so that you can find the right direction in the shortest time.

If you are down and disliked by others, don't compare with each other. Stay green and live a relaxed life, and do your best.

When you are down and out, you should learn to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Don't use your weaknesses to collide with others. Instead, you should give full play to your strengths, persevere when you choose a direction, do your own thing and let others talk.

the more depressed you are, the more you need to adjust your mentality. First, you should defeat yourself.

Being depressed by others will make anyone feel bad. Instead of complaining, it is better to adjust your mentality.

Being down and out, I'm afraid of being short-minded, timid in doing things, complaining all day, not doing big things well, and not wanting to do small things. I always live in the past and don't want to face reality.

There is a story that an old man selling porcelain bowls was walking on the road with a shoulder pole. Suddenly, a porcelain bowl fell to the ground and broke into pieces. The old man didn't even look back when he heard the noise, so he chose to move on.

passers-by asked him curiously, why didn't you take a look at your broken bowl?

the old man said, no matter how I look back, the bowls are all broken.

people have to learn to accept what they have lost, so that they can face the reality calmly, otherwise they will only hold back their progress.

Xunzi said that those who know themselves don't complain, while those who know know life don't complain.

If you are down and out, you should adjust your mentality to surpass yourself, not be sad about the past and not be afraid of the future.

if you know what you want, you will arouse your fighting spirit, pursue and struggle, and don't complain about others. Start with the little things around you first, so as to lay the foundation for future success.

as long as you have the confidence and courage to start again, you are not afraid of not having a chance to make a comeback.

people's mentality is very important, just like Murphy's law, what you think will come. If you keep hinting that you will succeed and work hard for it, you will reverse your life.

once you re-identify your direction, don't give up easily, give full play to your greatest potential, create your own future with the most peaceful mind, do things well, and be single-minded and precise, and you will succeed.

The more down and out, the more you should strive for self-improvement.

If you are down and out, you will be rejected by others. Don't talk to someone about your pain. No one can feel it, and it will inevitably become a joke for others after dinner.

People who dislike you when they are down and out should be glad to see his true colors and be glad that they can stop wasting their energy for him and spend more time doing their own things. Why not?

since ancient times, winners and losers have accepted the fact when they are down and out, and then they have carried all the hardships and are close to happiness.

The worldly wisdom when you are down and out is like a pot of boiling water. Some people start to pay for it, while others come to collect firewood. It is clear who to give up.

When you are down and out, you can see who deserves to be treated sincerely. Then you can say goodbye to people who don't have the same goals, and only focus on the people and things you like, and you can achieve great things.

the more people dislike you, the more you should strive for self-improvement, not to compete, but to fight for breath, break through the bottleneck and create your own world.

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Nothing is absolute. Whoever has never experienced hardships in his life, what he is afraid of when he is down and out, the big deal is to redouble his efforts.

In fact, life is more like a marathon. Whoever laughs last will win, so fight for endurance and growth speed, and finally get what you want.

when you are down and out, it doesn't matter if you walk slowly. As long as you don't lose your goal, you will walk faster than those who wander aimlessly.

As long as you dare to start over, start from the small things around you and make quiet efforts, you can achieve an excellent self and create your own world.