1. Take the initiative and think about possible obstacles in the relationship between the sexes

As the saying goes, marriage without love is immoral, and marriage without sex is also immoral. So, instead of waiting for your husband to be lucky, we should take the initiative to find out the most real obstacles that affect the couple's life.

Many women are shy to talk about sex, but in fact, talking about sex life can enhance the satisfaction of both parties. For example, by talking about each other's views and preferences on sex, two people can better understand each other's sexual preferences, unacceptable areas, etc. On the other hand, perhaps a sexual conversation may reveal misunderstandings or differences in feelings about each other, thereby deepening intimacy.

Secondly, sexual communication will make partners trust each other more. Because when talking about sex, men often feel vulnerable and become sensitive to their lover's reaction or evaluation. But it is this sense of vulnerability caused by mutual exposure that will make both parties more willing to get closer to each other. And only by deepening the intimate relationship between two people can the other party surrender to each other without reservation, thereby achieving a state of physical and mental unity.

2. Have a long conversation and plan your sex life reasonably and effectively

Sociologists believe that marriage has four major functions, one is to satisfy sexual needs, the other is to meet economic desires, and the third is to The first is to satisfy the desire for reproduction, and the fourth is the need for education. This shows that sex plays a very important role in married life.

For normal people, sex is a person's normal physiological needs. People who are interested in life and happiness will hope that the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious and intimate. Therefore, just like planning when to go to work, when to get promoted, when to go to the hospital for examination, when to eat and go shopping, we should also make reasonable plans for sex time.

Some people may think this is not romantic enough, nor is it as enjoyable as when sparks burst out. But if you want to squeeze out time in your busy and stressful life, planning ahead is actually necessary. When two people discuss and plan their sex life, they can also plan the details and content in as much detail as possible. Not only can you plan when and where to have sex, but you can also plan what new positions or new ways to play during sex.

Women can also purchase sexy underwear, rose incense, styling candles, etc. in advance to create a comfortable and desirable atmosphere for the two of them. During the planned time, try to deal with all the tedious things in advance, turn off the phone, and both of them are immersed in the joy of being alone, retrieving the lost beauty that belongs only to each other.

3. Seek change and use time between two people to create freshness

Master, a contemporary sexology therapy master, once said a famous saying: "Sex is a matter for two people. If it’s not good, the other person won’t be happy either. “Sex life is not only a physical thing, but also an art, a game between two people. If you don’t manage it carefully, you won’t achieve the desired results.

Men’s sexual behavior is generally very physical and direct sensory stimulation. They like different feelings, different times and places, and different changes and patterns. This is very different from women.

Therefore, a woman needs to have a deeper understanding of her partner and make some adjustments to their married life. For example, taking an occasional vacation, staying in an emotional hotel room, or changing the style of the bedroom can bring great excitement and freshness to men.

In daily life, engage in more intimate behaviors with him. For example, kiss him secretly when he is not paying attention, or give him a deep hug before going out, or gently stroke his hair when you get off work. You can also take the initiative to hold his hand when walking together on the street, and prepare some meaningful small gifts on Valentine's Day, Christmas, and even Children's Day, etc. These will add points to your relationship.

When you use a positive attitude and actions to change the relationship between you, he will definitely feel it.

We are now in a modern society, and we have long since separated from feudal society. I hope women will never be so naive as to think that not having sex can be tolerated. A truly good relationship between a couple lies in the communication between soul and body. As long as there are no physical problems, a harmonious sex life is the true meaning of happiness. As modern women, it is normal for us to openly admit the existence of our bodies and desires.

Any loving couple in the world cannot do without love and sex. If there is no love, sex becomes a physical bond. If there is no sex, then love becomes a mirage, without any basis or basis. according to. ?Sex is originally the best way of expression and communication between lovers. When you love deeply, you can't help but hope to have an intimate contact with the other person.

So, sexless marriage is definitely a pathological existence, and we should all have face-to-face communication with our partners based on frankness and trust, find out the crux of the problem, and work together to solve it It, instead of procrastinating and enduring. Only the collision of mind and body can produce the spark of love, be inseparable like glue, and have a harmonious and happy marriage!