Question 1: Please tell me the root cause of poor self-control. You don’t even have your arguments. How can people answer it? First, let’s talk about the benefits of playing games, entertainment, better use of computers, development of intelligence, and handover. More virtual friends, bad points, delaying learning, affecting physical fitness, spinal diseases, etc. It is not good to play all the time, but people are different. I say that those who win are self-reliant. Many people who play video games are like that. I can't find self-confidence or other interesting things in my life.

Question 2: Why is my self-control so poor? I can't stick to many things. 5 points about self-control. I hope the following methods will be helpful to you

First of all, I introduce a few basic concepts about enhancing self-control, which are:

This concept may sound contradictory, but it is actually a way to enhance self-control. The key to self-control. The reason why self-control has become a concern for many people is that the problem lies in the three words "self-control". What does the word "self-control" mean? It means "control oneself", specifically: oneself One part of you must control another part of yourself; more specifically: the part that wants to do something must control the part that is procrastinating and doesn't want to do it. When we say "control", we are looking more at our opposite or enemy. In this way, you artificially create divisions and internal fighting in your body, and begin to devour your own energy. The most important thing is that whenever you want to "control the enemy," he will resist, and the more powerful you control him, the more powerful he will resist. , so that your heart will never have peace, your energy will be infinitely consumed, and your self-control will completely collapse. This is exactly what we see in many people. Therefore, to enhance self-control, we must first give up control and turn to acceptance.

Simple actions activate inertia

This method applies the principle of inertia in physics, and is also based on the concept that doing anything is better than sitting around and only worrying about things that don’t exist. Be strong in what you do. This is a very fast and effective method, and it is also a must-have method to enhance self-control.

Make a clear decision to regain control

This method is based on the principle that the key to enhancing self-control is to regain a sense of self-control, even a small sense of self-control, whether to do or not do something. The thing is not important, what is important is that it is always better to make a clear decision than to let it go.

Get rid of the "life escape idea"

Many people have been repeatedly frustrated in their journey to enhance self-control. They can't help but sigh: "Why is it so difficult to enhance self-control?" In Influence Among the many factors of self-control, the most fundamental reason is that self-control goes against human nature. Famous British psychotherapists Wendy Dryden and Jack Gordon said that there is life in everyone's subconscious. Escape thoughts - "I think life shouldn't be too difficult. If it's too difficult, it's better to escape. I can't endure temporary suffering for long-term happiness." It is precisely because such thoughts are deeply rooted that we are strengthening our The road to self-control is extremely hard.

Stop criticizing yourself

People often blame themselves for their lack of self-control. Do you do the same? When people criticize themselves, they do not realize that they have created a fatal obstacle to enhancing self-control and growth in life - the loss of self-confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence and self-esteem are the core of self-control, and even more important in life. The core of the core, if people lose their self-confidence and self-esteem, everything will be ruined.

The famous psychologist Freud once said: People do everything either to pursue happiness or to avoid pain. This is the ultimate driving force behind all human behavior. By using the power of pain and joy, you can immediately and permanently change your behavior and pursue the life of your dreams. However, if you don't know how to use this power, the future is destined to be out of your control. If you ate something that caused severe diarrhea, you wouldn't stop eating it, right? Because you have tasted great pain.

If you burned your finger on a red-hot stove, you wouldn't touch the stove again, would you? Because you have tasted great pain. If we want to change our behavior, we must associate our old behavior with pain and our desired new behavior with happiness. Otherwise no change will last. As long as we connect the power of pain and pleasure to anything, we can immediately change our thoughts, behaviors and habits

Question 3: What are the causes of poor self-control? What are some good ways to improve your self-control? Self-control - the ability to control yourself; yes, it is easy to form a habit, but it is difficult to change a habit. To improve self-control, you need to restrain yourself from all aspects (details), and you must verify it through continuous learning and practice. Improve your comprehensive abilities (knowledge, cultivation, connotation...) With more knowledge, you will have the right to choose (suit your own needs) and have self-control. Otherwise, you will just follow others (you cannot be your true self) Be tempted) - your own ideas, practices, and values ??are very important.

Question 4: What should I do if I have poor self-control? Your situation is very common. It is not a problem of self-control, but that your learning goals and motivation are unclear. Please try it and do it right.

Three conditions must be met to improve learning efficiency. The first is: having a very clear goal; the second is: having a strong desire to learn; the third is: firmly believing that one can achieve the goal. If these three conditions are not met, everything else is empty talk.

Step one: Set a clear goal.

There are three principles for setting goals: first, the goal must be clear and specific; second, the goal must be attractive to oneself; third, the goal must be possible. These three conditions must be met at the same time, and one of them is indispensable.

Setting goals is easy, just ask yourself three questions.

The first question: Are you satisfied with your current results?

If your answer is not satisfied, please continue reading. If you are satisfied, you don’t need to read further.

The second question: Where do you want to be in the class or what score do you want to get in the next exam?

Choose questions based on your situation. If your answer is in the top few, it means your goal is not clear, please continue reading.

The third question: Which number is most attractive and possible to you?

This question is to help you determine a specific ranking or score. Do you have to think repeatedly about whether No. 5 is very attractive? What are the possibilities? No. 6? 7th place? Identify the most attractive and possible goal.

Your goal should be very clear at this point. If you have an urge to achieve this goal in your heart, congratulations. Your goal is clear enough, which means that your goal has begun. It worked.

Step 2: Stimulate your strong desire to learn.

The desire to learn, that is, the motivation to learn, comes from two aspects: the pain of not studying hard and the joy of studying hard.

If a student can deeply feel the pain of not studying hard and the joy of studying hard, then he will have a steady stream of motivation to learn. When a student wants to learn from his heart, he can enjoy the joy of learning.

The way to stimulate the desire to learn is to ask yourself a few questions and give full play to your imagination.

The first question: What price have I paid because I didn’t study hard in the past?

Give yourself a time limit of five minutes, take out a pen and paper, and write down all the pain you can think of caused by not studying hard, and put a score behind each pain. Ten is a perfect score. The definition of perfect is very, very painful.

For example: Because of your poor grades, did your classmates laugh at you, did your teacher criticize you, did the person who cared about you the most feel sad for you, what were you doing at that time? What does it feel like?

The second question: What will happen if I continue not to study hard for one year?

The time limit is also five minutes, write as much as you think of. The purpose is to find out what pain will happen in the future if you don't study hard. Also rate each pain listed. A perfect score of ten.

For example: How would you feel if your grades were still the same one year later? If one of your classmates was admitted to the ideal high school but you were not, how would you feel when you saw his excitement? Wait, ask more questions like this to find out the biggest pain of not studying hard.

The third question: If I don’t study hard, what is the biggest pain I can feel?

This question is to find out the biggest pain among the problems listed in the above two questions. It may only get 7 or 8 points. Next, modify the greatest pain to make it more painful. At this time, you should give full play to your imagination and paint the greatest pain into a picture as clear as possible. The picture must have the following elements: imagine the expressions, lines, and actions of the relevant characters, and exaggerate appropriately to expand the pain to more than 9 points. This picture should be constantly improved and done frequently.

The fourth question: What will happen if you don’t study hard?

This question is to test whether you have linked not studying hard with great pain. Ask yourself this question often, and immediately imagine just now...gt;gt;

Question 5: What is the reason for a person's poor self-control ability? 5 points. To put it simply, it is because you have no opinion and have no self-control. In fact, you will feel inferior in your heart.

Question 6: What should people with poor self-control do? What is self-control?

Literally explained, self-control is the ability to control oneself. Self-made, grammatically speaking, it is an inversion structure in ancient Chinese. To be precise

, it refers to the ability to completely consciously and consciously control one's emotions and control one's actions. It is an important

quality of will and an important element of emotional intelligence.

Self-control is manifested in two aspects: first, being good at forcing oneself to implement the decisions made; second, being good at suppressing desires and actions that are contrary to one's own goals

. That is, forcing yourself to do things you should do, even things you don’t like. For example, if you plan to get up early to go for a run today, are you able to leave your warm nest and get out of bed without hesitation? You have decided not to take a taxi. After saving money to buy a house, can you

insist on waiting for the bus in the cold night every day? A beautiful colleague of yours is interested in you who is married, and you do it for the sake of your family

Reject her happily , or *** give in without help? You plan to memorize a certain number of words every day. Will you put off the task until tomorrow because of playing ball or games? These are all tests of your self-control: whether you force yourself to make the right decisions and whether you can suppress unhelpful desires and behaviors. Abstinence, caution, patience, calmness, perseverance, etc. actually all belong to the category of self-control. Indulging yourself, doing what you are happy to do, seeking pleasure, pursuing complete freedom, and unrestrainedness are all manifestations of poor self-control.

Sometimes one's actions are supervised by external forces, such as parental discipline; or it may affect one's own survival and safety, such as not attending class.

The leader will deduct wages or even be expelled, and the performance will be poor. I will be beaten by my father. This kind of thing that people have to do under the supervision of external forces is not considered self-control, because it is not conscious.

What we are talking about is the ability to completely control your actions without obvious external influence. This is true self-control.

The composition of self-control is a contradiction. One side of the contradiction is emotion, and the other side is reason. If you allow your emotions to control your actions, you will become a slave to your emotions, which is a sign of lack of self-control. People should have the ability to let reason defeat emotions

and control their own destiny. In the battle between reason and emotion, self-control helps your reason win. The victory of reason

The victory of wisdom is the victory of human nature. This victory is beneficial to ourselves, others and society.

What impact does self-control have on success?

The level of emotional intelligence plays a vital role in a person's success. As an important factor in emotional intelligence, self-control has a unique effect

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Ordinary meaning. Let's look at two examples first:

Napoleon Hill (a famous scholar of success) once conducted a survey of 160,000 adult prisoners in various prisons in the United States

, found that 90% of the reason why these unfortunate male and female prisoners ended up in prison was because they lacked the necessary self-control. Lack of self-control not only brings harm to others and society, but oneself is also punished and subject to legal sanctions.

Xiao Zhang is a 2000-level Chinese language student at a normal college in Tianhe. After buying a computer, he became obsessed with computer games. Due to the lack of communication with classmates for a long time, I felt that I could not integrate into the group, so I became more and more addicted to the Internet, so that I did not go to class all day long, and the teacher did not know that there were people in the class. This student. After one semester, he had to take make-up exams for 5 of his 7 subjects. According to the school rule that students are not allowed to take make-up exams for three courses at the same time in a semester, otherwise they will repeat the grade. He repeated the grade, but he regretted it. Xiao Zhang's poor self-control led to his academic failure.

Question 7: What to do if self-control is too poor 40 points 1 Strengthen ideological cultivation. People's self-control depends to a certain extent on their ideological quality. Generally speaking, people with lofty ideals and ambitions will never behave badly due to emotional impulse over trivial matters. Therefore, the most fundamental way to improve self-control is to establish a correct outlook on life and world, and maintain an optimistic and healthy mood.

2. Improve cultural literacy. Generally speaking, a person's cultural literacy is directly proportional to his ability to endure and self-control. People with relatively high cultural quality are often able to understand things more comprehensively and correctly, understand the relationship between themselves and others, and consciously exercise self-control and self-improvement.

3. Stabilize emotions. Use methods such as reasonable venting, attention transfer, and environment relocation to vent and release the emotions that will trigger impulses, maintain emotional stability, and avoid impulses.

4. Strengthen self-awareness. When encountering problems, you should be calm and calm, use your own brain, eliminate external interference or hints, and learn to make independent decisions. We must completely get rid of the mentality of relying on others, overcome inferiority complex, and cultivate self-confidence and independence.

5. Strengthen practical training. On the one hand, we must strengthen learning, accumulate knowledge, broaden our horizons, arm and enrich ourselves with knowledge, improve our ability to analyze and solve problems, and expand our ability to make decisions by learning from other people's experiences; on the other hand, we must actively devote ourselves to Go to the practice of military life, train hard, continuously enrich your experience, and improve your adaptability.

6. Strengthen your willpower. To cultivate the good quality of independence of will in your own character. You must have a high degree of awareness of your goals. As long as you identify something through your own practice, you should go on without hesitation and find ways to achieve the desired goal. You don’t have to pursue perfection in everything, you don’t have to be demanding that you don’t fail at all, and you don’t have to pay too much attention to what others say about you.

7. Adjust the required structure. When needs cannot be met at the same time, suppress some impossible needs.

As the ancients said: I want fish, and I want bear's paws. I cannot have both, so I would give up fish and take bear's paws.

8. Strengthen positive thinking. As the saying goes: Everything will be successful if it is predicted, and it will be ruined if it is not predicted. Pay attention to thinking about problems frequently and enhance your foresight, so that you can make timely, decisive and accurate choices at critical moments.

Question 8: What should I do if my self-control is particularly poor? Now that I have noticed that I have poor self-control, it is easy to deal with it. The goal and motivation of learning is a sense of responsibility and urgency. In order to achieve the goal, you should put pressure on yourself, make up your mind to strictly demand and restrain yourself based on your own shortcomings.

Question 9: What should I do if I am 30 years old, have accomplished nothing, have no ambition, and have poor willpower and self-control? You are not a special case. There are many people who live like you. There are many reasons. The most important and fundamental reason is that your growth experience and education determine your thinking and lifestyle. You can know your own shortcomings by yourself. You still have your own ideas, but you may not be able to do so for various reasons, so the backlog of stress leads to a negative life. People will make mistakes throughout their lives, but finding the root of their mistakes and correcting them in time will naturally enrich themselves. Most of us think in the same way. There are some things that we still need to understand on our own. We must have our own principles as a person and act firmly according to our own principles. Then we won’t have so many worries.

Question 10: What should college students do if they have poor self-control? It depends on where the self-control is poor. If the self-control is poor in study, you can find a good friend to study with. If in life, for example: addiction You can't help yourself with the Internet. You can completely ask your family to reduce the living expenses for you to the lowest level. Your own treasury is under control and the payment should be relieved. Don't be too negative. Put some pressure on yourself. Look at how others study and work. When you are not in class, you can go out and hand out flyers to earn some living expenses and at the same time practice your courage