Lotus Flower - Gentleman

1. A gentleman is an attitude that does not seek fame and fortune, keeps oneself in good health, and does not collude with the world. It also despises the pursuit of fame and fortune, and the tendency to follow the crowd. It eulogizes the virtue of a gentleman who "comes out of the mud without being stained, and washes through the clear waters without being a monster" and expresses the noble sentiment of a gentleman who does not follow the secular trend.

2. Regarding the meaning and requirements of a gentleman, Confucius once said: "A gentleman has nine thoughts: seeing wisely, listening wisely, looking warmly, looking respectful, speaking loyally, doing things respectfully, and doubting. "Asking, thinking about difficulties, seeing and thinking about meaning" ("The Analects of Confucius·Ji Shi") talks about it more broadly, but only talks about the general principles in all aspects of speech and behavior. Zeng Shen then entered into more specific requirements. He said: "A gentleman has three expenses, and food and drink are not among them. A gentleman has three pleasures, and the bells, chimes, harps, and harps are not among them... There are relatives to fear, a king to serve, and children to leave behind. This is the same happiness; there are relatives to fear, and there is a king. You can go, there are children to be angry with, these are the two joys; there are kings to describe, friends to help, these three joys... Learn it when you are young, and forget it when you are long, this is a waste; you have merit in serving the king, but you take the responsibility lightly. So, there are two fees; if you make friends for a long time, you will lose them, there are three fees." ("Anthology of Han Shi Wai Zhuan") In addition, there are a lot of strict requirements for gentlemen in "Zengzi Establishing Affairs", such as: "A gentleman does not deny others' pleasure or courtesy. He does not hesitate when he comes and is careless when he goes. He does not slander those who leave and does not bribe them when they return. This can be said to be loyal. A gentleman is courteous but not difficult and comfortable but not comfortable. "Being humble but not flattering, being generous but not being indulgent, being kind but not being frugal, and being straight but not going forward can also be said to be knowing." He also said: "When a gentleman enters a country, he does not call it taboo, does not violate its prohibitions, and does not accept the beauty." Subdued, don't be afraid of arrogant words, so it is said: "Instead of being extravagant, it is better to be thrifty; instead of being arrogant, it is better to be fluent." "Zengzi Establishes Affairs" also said: "A gentleman will never be small and will not waste his time. He will not be humble when he is small. If others know it, he will do it. If others don't know, I will know it myself. A gentleman will keep it all his life." ""A gentleman sees benefit and thinks of disgrace, sees evil and thinks of criticism, is addicted to lust and thinks of shame, and is angry and thinks of trouble. A gentleman will fight this battle for the rest of his life. "This kind of careful attitude in life.

3. Modern people's original concept: What is a gentleman and borrow a metaphor from the ancients: When Confucius cursed people, he just called them "little people", and "gentlemen" There is a famous saying that a villain is a metaphor for profit. The oldest meaning of a gentleman mainly refers to a person who is educated and has good moral character. However, ordinary people do not have the opportunity to receive education, so they are also called those without virtue. "Villain"... What is a gentleman? (4) "A gentleman is magnanimous, while a villain is always worried" ("The Analects of Confucius·Shuer") The reason why villains like to collude with each other is because he has a secret in his heart and wants to pass this. This is exactly what is meant by collusion to seek personal gain and protect vested interests. A gentleman is open-minded because he is open-minded and selfless, so he can be peaceful and get along with everyone in good faith. (5) "A gentleman is easy to do." Things are hard to say. If you don't talk about it in a way, you don't say it; if you use it to make others, you should use it. It is difficult for a villain to do things but it is easy to say them. Although it is not explained in the way, it is said; and it is also used to make others prepare. "("The Analects of Confucius·Zilu") said, the same as "joy", happy. It is easy for you to get along with a gentleman, but it is difficult for you to please him. If you want to please him by unfair means, he will be unhappy instead. He will never say that if you give him a small favor, he will give you the green light and open the back door. When he actually uses you, he will arrange a suitable position for you based on your talents. This is called "qi zhi". .

"Ai Lian Shuo" was written by Zhou Dunyi, a scholar of the Northern Song Dynasty. It is an argumentative essay in the eighth year of Renzong Jiayou in the Northern Song Dynasty (1063). Zhou Dunyi, Shen Xiyan and Qian Tuo visited Yudu (now Jiangxi). Later, Shen Xiyan built the Lianxi Pavilion in Shanshan, Yudu County, and asked Zhou Dunyi to write an inscription. Zhou Dunyi wrote "Shuo on Love of the Lotus" as a gift, which showed that he loved the lotus "without leaving the mud." "Dyeing, washing green ripples without being demonic, straight in the middle and straight on the outside, not creeping or branching; the fragrance is clear from a distance, and the pavilions are clean and planted; they can be viewed from a distance but not played with"... "Shuo" is one of the ancient literary styles. .

"Ai Lian Shuo" was written by Zhou Dunyi, a scholar of the Northern Song Dynasty. It is an argumentative essay in the eighth year of Renzong Jiayou in the Northern Song Dynasty (1063). Zhou Dunyi, Shen Xiyan and Qian Tuo visited Yudu (now Jiangxi). Later, Shen Xiyan built the Lianxi Pavilion in Shanshan, Yudu County, and asked Zhou Dunyi to write an inscription. Zhou Dunyi wrote "Shuo on Love of the Lotus" as a gift, which showed that he loved the lotus "without leaving the mud." "Dyeing, washing green ripples without being demonic, straight in the middle and straight on the outside, not creeping or branching; the fragrance is clear from a distance, and the pavilions are clean and planted; they can be viewed from a distance but not played with"... "Shuo" is one of the ancient literary styles. .