On the Zhihu, I saw someone asking, "What kind of experience is it to meet people who are not suitable often?"

A netizen replied:

"Who hasn't met a few scum in my life? But you often meet people who are not good, so you should reflect on yourself.

to a great extent, we create our own experiences. Who you are, who you will meet. "

one word awakens the dreamer.

in life, passers-by are in a hurry.

sometimes it's not that we can't meet a better person, but that we can't be that better self.

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When you are weak, you meet the most "bad guys".

When I came home from work two days ago, I saw my wife talking on the phone for more than an hour.

From the intermittent sobs on the mobile phone, I can guess that it's my wife's distant cousin Peach complaining to her again.

and there is only one reason: failure in love.

Because the marriageable age has long passed, the marriage event has been put on the agenda.

However, regardless of free love or blind date, peaches are choosy and never have a happy ending.

this time, I finally met a suitable person, complaining that the boys are not considerate enough, and being angry with the boys for fooling around.

There is a joke on the Internet:

"Do you want to know what you really look like in this world? Look at the blind date introduced to you by others. "

There are so many excellent people in this world, sometimes it's not that we can't meet them, but that we are not qualified to walk side by side with them.

Because of academic laziness, Peach failed to enter the university. Her family found several jobs for her, and none of them could persist. The life circle was only fixed in the small town of her hometown.

She has always fantasized about the love between the prince and Cinderella.

It's a pity that she doesn't understand that Cinderella's father is a duke, and she is not only beautiful and kind, but also good at singing and dancing.

The premise for Prince Charming to fall in love with Cinderella is that you have to be good enough.

When Ode to Joy was popular, Qiu Yingying's boyfriend, Ying Qin, was once scolded as a hot search.

Not only is he cynical about Qiu Yingying's "non-virgin", but more importantly, he still has to entangle with Qiu Yingying when he clearly has a fiancee.

Before that, Qiu Yingying had just come out of the shadow of her last lying bastard boyfriend.

Unlike Qiu Yingying, who has always attracted "love rat", she is also a woman:

Andy, who is smart and intelligent, is surrounded by countless young talents;

Qu Xiaoyu, who is well-off, alert and courageous, is enjoying love happily;

Fan Shengmei, a self-reliant and strong Fung Wong-Nui, has never been rejected by Wang Baichuan.

Even Guan Juer, who looks ordinary, no man will underestimate this sensible girl ...

In fact, there is only one source of all Qiu Yingying's bad luck, and that is her "weakness": she doesn't work hard or change, and she just cries.

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. If you work hard, everything will be wonderful.

You can't meet a good partner, find a good job or have good friends. Maybe it's just because you are not good enough.

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mismatch is the worst encounter.

There is a passage in Jane Eyre:

"The relationship between people is a game, and we must always be equal and evenly matched with each other, so that we can depend on each other for a long time."

no matter friendship or love, the most important keyword is: matching.

Bi Shumin mentioned such a story in his book Let Beauty Happen Now.

A middle-aged woman went through three failed marriages when she sought psychological counseling.

When Bi Shumin asked her about the specific situation, she said:

The first husband was a big man, a school grass, and later became the boss's bodyguard, a decent man.

Besides her looks, she is ok. "First, she has no education; second, she has no head; third, she has no good job".

In the end, my husband cheated on me and broke up with her in front of his mistress.

Second Husband She found a second-married man with a successful career and children, but it didn't last long. Because of the children's problems, the conflict broke out and ended in divorce.

in the third marriage, she learned the lessons from the previous two times and found a man who was inferior to her in any condition, but the final result was to invite a statue of Lafayette to her family. The man was lazy and tired, and consumed all her savings.

three mismatched marriages, no matter who can't match who, are a disaster.

economist Ariely has a famous saying:

"The relationship between people is an accurate matching game, and the most important thing is to match each other."

the surest way to get something is to make yourself worthy of it first.

"Jiangyin Wu Wenzao, Changle Xie Wanying, all want to be together forever."

The epitaph of Bing Xin and Wu Wenzao has always touched us.

But few people know that Wu Wenzao, a poor student with a poor family and an ordinary appearance, was not a good match for Bing Xin at first sight.

When Wu Wenzao and Bing Xin met on a ship studying abroad, Bing Xin had published a collection of poems named Stars, and she was a famous female writer.

it is difficult for two people with very different status to get together.

At first, the communication between Bing Xin and Wu Wenzao was only superficial, not even friends.

At that time, Wu Wenzao didn't flatter deliberately, and he never thought that Bing Xin would be his lifelong companion. The only thing he did was to study hard.

Bing Xin wrote in My Wife Wu Wenzao that she had never even heard of some books recommended to her by Wu Wenzao.

gradually, they changed from two strangers on the journey to confidants on the campus, and finally got better and better, and entered the marriage hall.

whether it is love or friendship, the best state is evenly matched and attracted to each other.

only when you are excellent, people will naturally like and appreciate you.

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Only by being your best can you meet the best people.

Douban's 9.3-point Korean drama "Unborn" once exploded the circle of friends.

Zhang Kelai, the leading actor, studied Weiqi since childhood. Before the college entrance examination, his family suddenly changed. He had to give up applying for the University Chess Institute and enter a trading company through connections, starting as an intern.

he tried his best to get on well with everyone, but it backfired.

once, the company sent all interns to clean up the dirty freight scene.

midway, the superior suddenly called to cancel the work and invited everyone to dinner.

However, those colleagues whom Zhang Kelai really met deliberately did not inform him.

It was not until everyone left by car that the factory director who came to lock the door found that Zhang Kelai was still cleaning.

After learning the news, Zhang Kelai hurried to the dinner party without changing his clothes.

It's just that in the eyes of so-called colleagues and friends, Zhang Kelai, who smells sour, is just a joke:

"Why didn't you wash it? Do you want to pickle the fish?"

In fact, these people who laugh at Zhang Kelai are not so outstanding in the company. They just find a sense of gap in Zhang Kelai.

at this time, you may complain about meeting people.

But Zhang Kelai gritted his teeth and tried to improve his working ability without a word of complaint.

capable people can shine everywhere.

Although he didn't get a chance to become a full-fledged member in the end, he was smart and willing to work, but he met an important person in his life.

At the end of the series, he set up a new company with Wu Kechang, who left his post, and began to make great achievements in his career.

San Mao said:

"Learning to dominate your own life, even if you are alone, is not a too bad situation. You don't feel sorry for yourself, feel inferior, and complain. You come day by day and walk step by step. The joy and inevitable arrival of that bright future lies in our practice."

If you don't make progress, Zhang Kelai will only be surrounded by bad friends who make fun of him, and will never get the friendship of Wu Kechang, who made him realize a leap in life.

There is a popular saying in Weibo: "It took me eighteen years to sit with you and have coffee."

only when you are the best yourself can you meet the best others.

someone asked: why should we work hard?

I like such an answer:

"Everything I like is very expensive, the places I want to go are far away, and the people I love are perfect."

your good luck lies in your strength and your unknown efforts.

when you are strong, the whole world will treat you kindly.