There is no doubt that every parent loves their children the most, but some love is blind and non-positive love. For example, these are familiar conversations, "Look at whose child is always ranked first in the group throughout the year. Are you looking at when you can be as successful as others?" Whether shopping or eating, in these public places, you will always encounter scenes where adults loudly reprimand children. Although children are young, they are sensible. They are often scolded by adults like this, and they feel extremely sad. They don’t know who to talk to. Over time, it will lead to a depressed personality.

Parents do not give their children equal communication and respect. The often-heard saying "hitting is affection, scolding is love" has been used in the education of children. Some Parents with "fake respect" appear. In front of others, parents will admit that they respect their children, but when they are in person, things change. They will say, "Children are so young, they don't know how to respect or not." Some parents will even say "I raised my child, I have the obligation to raise him, and he has the obligation to listen to me." The word respect is just a slogan in the minds of parents. The fact is that they do not know the meaning and value of respect.

In fact, no matter how old a child is, there is a need for respect, because everyone desires to be loved, respected and admired. This is true for adults, and children are no exception. So please, please learn to respect your children first. 1. The importance of giving children equality and respect

Respect is the prerequisite for all interpersonal relationships, and the parent-child relationship is also a kind of interpersonal relationship in a sense. How to handle the relationship between children and parents is very important. Respect is of inevitable importance for a child:

1. Cultivate children’s independence

Everyone is a Distinctive individuals, no one is anyone’s accessory product. Although children are children, they will grow up one day. If you cannot provide children with sufficient equal opportunities and let them become puppets, then they will be at a loss about the future, unable to become more independent from this society, let alone take charge of themselves. Therefore, equality and respect are important prerequisites. Only with this prerequisite can children gradually become independent.

2. Practice eloquence

A child who is good at expressing his thoughts bravely often has good eloquence. Such children are also special in school, and this specialness is closely related to the relationship within the family. If a family is good at respecting children's opinions and providing children with an equal opportunity to speak, then the children's eloquence will definitely be exercised.

3. Keep children’s thinking active

Students in schools often have these two phenomena: some are active in class and think outside the box; while some children are silent and inactive. Basically, I can’t keep up with the teacher’s rhythm. Do you think this is an IQ issue? Not really. This is just a manifestation of family roles. Children with active thinking generally have equal status in the family, and their parents are good at communicating with them and respecting them. The silent child is just the opposite. His role within the family is just that of a child, with no right to speak or choice.

Look, how important respect and equality are to a child, which also plays a certain role in the child's future development. But what if a child is constantly disrespected? So what? 2. What are the consequences if parents do not know how to respect their children?

Some parents enjoy the feeling of being parents and the pleasure of commanding. They always mistakenly believe that I am your parent. Since I gave birth to you, I have the right to control you. You have to obey, otherwise you will not respect your parents. This kind of gesticulating thinking will also have a certain impact on children's future:

1. Silent personality

Children who are often criticized by adults have one thing in common: That is the silence of character. Because in the family environment, they do not have much say, and their rights are equal to zero. Slowly, they will restrain themselves and nod in agreement with the adults' orders.

2. Inferior self-esteem and timidity

Children should be synonymous with sunshine, they are also representatives of liveliness and love, but some children are as timid as mice, and their timid appearance makes people sad Pitiful. The formation of this character is closely related to the environment around him. I didn't dare to contradict my parents, I didn't dare to express my opinions, and I didn't dare to reveal my feelings. In the end, I became more and more inferior and timid.

3. Inaction

We cannot deny a child’s life, even if he has various minor problems. But children who have been denied respect and equality for a long time are more terrible than having minor problems, because minor problems can be overcome, but the environment is provided by others. Often staying in a home where there is no equality and respect, the child's thoughts are suppressed and forced to do everything. How can such a child have a bright future?

Equality and respect are so important, shouldn’t you learn to respect your children? 3. How should parents learn to respect their children?

Learning to respect is not an easy process, nor is educating children.

The degree of the two combined can be imagined, but this requires us to overcome difficulties and learn to respect and educate:

1. First of all, parents must respect themselves

The family of origin will have some influence on the growth of the children when they grow up. Some parents were not respected by their parents when they were young, which led to them not respecting themselves in their consciousness. We have encountered difficulties and overcome them with difficulty. It is precisely because we have been hurt that we have to work harder to protect our children's hearts. When a child becomes your child, he also has an important identity, which is himself. He is unique. A complete individual, not a part of the parents, has an independent personality, outlook on life and values, so one must know how to respect the child's wishes and self-requirements.

2. Understanding is the basis of respect

From the time they are born to the time they grow up, children have never been adults and do not know how to be adults. Parents are already experienced adults. Whenever faced with some troublesome problems in their children, parents should Put yourself in your child's shoes more and understand your child's inner expectations.

3． Respecting children is not only reflected in conversations, but also in actions

Children’s abilities are growing. Parents’ care for their children becomes a habit every day, including helping their children make decisions. Parents will appear to care for their children. It’s so heartbreaking that the child doesn’t appreciate it, so what should be done by the child should be done by him. The basis for understanding the child is to grow up with the child.

It is urgent to learn to respect. In the process of respect, what issues should parents pay attention to? 4. What issues should parents pay attention to when respecting their children?

Respect is a science, and we must continue to study hard in this knowledge.

1． Self-awareness does not equal rebellion

Self-awareness is a normal development process for children. We must look at this problem correctly, not blindly suppress them, and be good at finding the root cause and solving this problem. From another perspective, the emergence of children's self-awareness is also a sign of growing up. We must be good at respecting them and giving them the right to live an equal life.

2. Rebellion is not the child's fault

When parents reprimand their children, it will seriously hurt the child's self-esteem. In the child's heart, he will feel that he is worthless in the eyes of his parents. Once he has a sense of worthlessness, Confrontation with parents will arise. Since adults already feel bad about themselves, why should they still obey? Their trust in their parents begins to weaken, and they think their parents' words are insignificant. They may even confront and argue with their parents, changing one's habits. It is difficult. Parents need to consciously control themselves. When their children behave rebelliously, they must believe in themselves and treat it with a normal heart.

3． Treat children equally and do not control them

There is a chapter in the book "Children: Challenge" that reads: "In a society where everyone has a sense of equality, we cannot command and control others. Equality means Everyone has the right to make decisions for themselves, which causes the husband to lose the right to rule over his wife, and the parents to lose the right to rule over their children." Only by giving up control over children can they gain more control, and only then can children learn to Start listening to parents. Parents should be their children's friends. They should put down their airs to make friends with their children and understand their children's hearts. When children can regard their parents as their confidants, the relationship between children and parents will become more harmonious.

It is not the child's fault that children are rebellious. It is often because parents have not found good educational methods and are unwilling to change the results they have caused.

Parents may feel that the adults in their family have been educated in this way since they were young. There is an old mindset of education. They should try to learn more about parenting, understand their children, and grow themselves while also interacting with them. Treat children equally, do not control their behavior, respect each other, and live in harmony.