What is "the way to be a man"? I feel that there is no other way but kindness in my heart.
Kindness simply means being a real person and doing things in a down-to-earth manner.
Strive to be yourself, be kind to others, know how to be tolerant and grateful, and cultivate your own moral character, so that a loyal person can get real blessings.
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A kind-hearted person can see the world clearly.
Chekhov once said: "Education is not eating without spilling soup, but not visiting others when spilling soup."
A truly kind person seems to have done nothing, but in fact he has done everything.
They moisten things silently, don't touch each other's wounds, but choose to accompany them silently until they get out of trouble.
This is the case with the famous Franklin, who integrated kindness into every detail of life.
One day after work, when he and his colleagues were approaching the hall, a lady walking in front suddenly slipped to the ground.
Colleagues saw this and immediately came forward to help, but Franklin grabbed him and they hid behind a pillar together.
I saw the lady who fell quickly got up, looked around and adjusted her clothes and hair, and walked away slowly.
Only then did Franklin pull his colleague out from behind the pillar.
This scene puzzled my colleagues. Why do they hide when they see others fall, instead of helping them?
Franklin positive color way:
"Who wants others to see their embarrassment and appearance? We hid behind the pillar and convinced the lady that no one saw her embarrassing side. Otherwise, she will be ashamed to see us later. "
There are too many embarrassing moments in life: office quarrels, husband and wife bickering, reckless drunkenness, saying the wrong thing in public. ...
Everyone will encounter difficulties. When others are embarrassed, a kind-hearted person will not ask inappropriate questions. This is a kind of kindness with a clear understanding of the world and worldly wisdom.
Think of a word, that is, noble people speak late. The "late" here lies in the evaluation of one person and one thing.
A gentleman talks but doesn't do it, especially when others are humiliated. The evaluation of "being late" retains the dignity of others to the greatest extent.
Kindness means putting yourself in others' shoes, caring for others, not telling others about personal interests, not exposing people's shortcomings, not embarrassing people, and giving others a chance to mend their ways.
Doing nothing is better than doing anything, and silence is better than talking. Many times, not disturbing or embarrassing is the greatest respect for a person.
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Kind people are kind to others.
Good people generally have these qualities: integrity and kindness.
Because put yourself in others' shoes, you will never give others what you don't want to bear.
Han Qi, a famous soldier in the Northern Song Dynasty and the Duke of Wei, was working at his desk at night, distracted by the guards who were illuminated by wax, and the candle burned to the hair on his temples.
Han Qi didn't care. He rubbed his sleeve and went on working. By the next day, he found that the bodyguards around him had changed.
He was afraid that the guard would punish him, so he called the guard and said, "Don't take his place, because he can already hold candles."
When the men heard this, they were all moved by Han Qi's understanding and were dead set on him.
Kindness has nothing to do with talent and knowledge, but a virtue related to human nature. People with this virtue often have the nature of "supreme goodness".
They despise interests, value feelings, care less and are more tolerant. They know how to think of others personally, and they feel very comfortable when they speak or do things, just like the current hidden deep in water. On the surface, they seem calm, but deep down, they have a powerful force.
God hides in the chest, but qi floats on the surface. Only when you see the spirit in things can you apply loyalty to people. In life, people are more willing to work with such people.
This is the way people interact. I will treat you as you treat me.
Kind people are kind to others, but at the same time they will receive different forms of goodwill gifts from others. What they do is also fulfilling themselves.
Therefore, without kindness, nothing will be lost. Whenever you are kind, moral and filial, you would rather suffer than do anything against your will. You may lose temporary benefits, but you will get a clear conscience and endless blessings.
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Kind people are smarter than fools.
It is said that kindness is easy to suffer.
If we still stay at this level of understanding, it will be too narrow.
An upright man is open and poised, not shallow, simple and pure, flashy.
Kindness is not to be a "good guy" blindly, but to be kind and gentle, be kind to the world and others on the basis of distinguishing right from wrong.
Jin Yong's heroes are all "clumsy" people. Among them, Guo Jing is the most important.
This silly boy looks ordinary and has average qualifications, but he fought back all the way. All heroes in Wulin are willing to obey him, become chivalrous men admired by everyone, and be a hero who can help the poor, relying on nothing more than dignified and heavy personality.
Being judged to be too poor in qualifications, I have been going through hardships for ten years, and I have always insisted on whether I want it or not. It is precisely because of this diligence and tenacity that he was favored by the masters, taught all his unique secrets, and finally learned all kinds of excellent martial arts and became a generation of masters;
He has been in Xiangyang for more than 30 years, stubbornly safeguarding the people behind him and avoiding untold suffering. Giving up one's life for righteousness, the innate integrity in one's bones has won the help of countless heroes. Even if he later died in Xiangyang City, he was also benevolent and deserved to die.
Great men are for the country and the people.
Stand firm in the face of right and wrong; In the face of money and greed, we are firm, do everything safely, and treat people with dignity and discretion.
Such a character is enough to make people have great trust in them and entrust them with a heavy responsibility.
Young people read Jin Yong, reading the chivalrous pride of benevolence and righteousness; When people read Jin Yong in middle age, they read a broad and generous lifestyle.
Just as the old saying goes, "Great wisdom is foolish, great wisdom is foolish", the cleverness revealed everywhere may not explain a person's character.
Everyone has a steelyard in his heart. It goes without saying whether you are selfish or sincere.
Some people are too smart, eager for quick success, thinking only of themselves, taking advantage of the moment, but hitting people when they are down;
Some people get a steady stream of good luck because of their kindness.
After all, a heavy personality is the foundation of the body. Being kind and steady, calm and calm, life will accumulate blessings.
A kind-hearted person may suffer for a while, but I believe that one day your frankness will win the sincerity of the other party.
Honesty is better than care, kindness is better than intelligence.
Being a kind-hearted person, being honest and honest, and doing things calmly and forcefully can gain the trust and support of others, and the road to life can be broad and steady.
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Good people will be blessed.
Life is like a long river flowing into the sea. It has never been the gain or loss of one place, but the abundance of hundreds of rivers.
A person's happiness is not predestined, but cultivated by himself bit by bit.
Throughout the ages, countless celebrities have confirmed:
Kindness has always been an indispensable quality on the road of life, and it is the best feng shui in the world.
Maybe kindness will suffer, maybe kindness will get hurt, but people are watching.
Your kindness will certainly win the recognition and respect of others; Your kindness will eventually be blessed by God, in exchange for a lifetime of blessings.
It's easy to reach such a state after the sages carry things.
May you be a kind person and be happy all your life.