Ladies are not gentle and virtuous because they are still young. What families and society need from them is continuous learning to make them attractive and arrogant. Vulgar women are not classical enough because the level of social civilization has not required everyone to write poems and articles; Mature women can no longer be ladies because society has entrusted them with too many responsibilities. Whether in love, marriage or social roles, women are gradually developing from passive to active. Since the 20th century, the unprecedented development of science and technology has not only enriched people's material life, but also enriched our language. Language in daily life changes with each passing day. Television, internet, newspapers and periodicals often pop up some fresh terms that sages can't understand. These nouns are like clicking the mouse of life, and they can always open something interesting. For example, there are many names for women. The young are called ladies, the vulgar are called vulgar women, and the elderly are called mature women. If you care, you will find that these three "three women" who sound very similar have too many differences and connections. In the Book of Songs, it is said that "my fair lady, a gentleman is a good gentleman". In this paper, "gentle and honest" refers to a quiet and kind woman, and "my fair lady" was the standard for the society to identify a good woman at that time. Time flies, great changes have taken place in the outlook on life and values, and people have more understanding of good women. They not only think that good women should be quiet, gentle and kind, but also hope that women are smart and open-minded. Only now, the understanding of a lady seems narrower than before. Young, beautiful and introverted unmarried girls around the age of 20 are often called ladies. Such a girl is a little quiet and shy, with long flowing hair and children's clothes with lace in the women's counter, which looks pure and flawless. Modern society is a society that advocates individuality, and it seems that fewer and fewer people like ladies. For example, most of the super girls are tomboys with neutral personality, and most of the girls on the street are savage girls with flamboyant personality. People are still used to giving the title of lady to a slightly quiet girl. Occasionally, if a girl who is used to the power suddenly becomes quiet, someone will shout to her: what a lady to pretend! So a lady must be a good girl. The so-called mature woman should be a mature woman, but in the era of beauty economy, there seem to be more beautiful women than ugly women, and most of them are not expensive. In the eyes of some men, women over the age of 30 are already mature mature women, so many times mature women are synonymous with old women. Old women are inherently unattractive. Even the 70-year-old famous Li Ao talked about five conditions for him to choose a woman when he returned to the mainland for a cultural trip. The fifth is that women should be "young", and youth is of course young. He claims that his current girlfriend was born in 1982, and it is said that he is also looking forward to meeting a beautiful woman like Yang Zhenning in 1982. This shows how important a woman's age is. She has more hope when she is one year younger and less opportunity when she is one year older. No wonder women don't want to reveal her age. Putting ladies, vulgar girls and mature girls together feels a bit like yesterday, today and tomorrow. In fact, female-type girls are most anxious to get married, but girls are not static. It's hard to say when she will grow into a mature girl. Many mature girls are girls of that year. A lady should not be too reserved, or there will be no shop after this village. A vulgar girl, it is not difficult to get married. People nowadays don't care much about the past. "Turn over a new leaf" is a good lady, and vulgar girls are generally very understanding. After years of tempering, mature women, although they have different affiliations, or marry rich and powerful people as idle wives, or are forced to live a poor woman's widowed life, or strive for self-improvement side by side with men, all know that they will never be comfortable in this life again, and they will be "familiar" in the future and will not care too much about other people's feelings. Many things are often optimistic after pessimism, and then the old woman gradually matures. The earth is round, and the development of many things seems to follow this law. When some mature old women no longer pay attention to being taken care of by others, their understanding, gentleness and resourcefulness fascinate young men who are full of youthful vitality and a little thought. They can't bear the ignorance of charming young ladies and vulgar girls, and bravely hold the hands of mature women and sing popular songs of sister-in-law love. No matter how long this relationship can last, no matter whether people are prejudiced against brother-sister love or not, women will still be secretly proud: what gay men can do, we lesbians can do! Many people lament that the world is really a bit messy. Old people love young people, and young people love old people. Mature old men often lead an innocent little woman. Men who have read many classics will fall in love with vulgar women who know nothing, while young men will fall in love with mature women who are grinning. Is it really a deviation in people's ethics? Don't these definitions of women reflect a realistic value? Beautiful love stories make people unable to find the voice of love in reality. Plato's view of love has long been stripped of the beautiful coat of love by Freud's theory. How to fully reflect the satisfaction of personal values and needs is undoubtedly manifested in the choice and choice of "ladies, vulgar women and mature women". Personal success determines one's own value and status, not gender differences. The era of "My Fair Lady, My Gentleman" is gone forever. It seems that loving only one person all my life has become a distant fairy tale. Ladies are not gentle and virtuous because they are still young. What families and society need from them is continuous learning to make them attractive and arrogant. Vulgar women are not classical enough because the level of social civilization has not required everyone to write poems; Mature women can no longer be ladies because society has entrusted them with too many responsibilities. Whether in love, marriage or social roles, women are gradually developing from passive to active.