Modesty, besides being modest and not arrogant, also means pleasing and even becoming an invisible killer to suppress the healthy development of personality. But in modern life, especially in this complex interpersonal communication and various interests disputes, it is an effective way of self-protection.

In any communication, people always like a modest way of communication. Liu Bei, an enlightened and humble monarch in the Three Kingdoms period, can be seen from his sincere request for Zhuge Liang to come out of the mountain. He has no condescending attitude at all.

Think about it, is it more comfortable for a person to boss you around or even tell you what to do, or is it more comfortable to talk to you with trembling eyebrows down? Obviously the latter, humility is not humility.

The second realm: humility

Compared with humility, humility means respecting and praising others, but it is actually closer to praise. It is a high expression of a person's inner moral quality and accomplishment. He is not arrogant because of his erudition, nor privileged because of his prominent position. On the contrary, the deeper you learn, the more modest and prudent you are, and the higher your position, the more courteous you are. It is the lubricant of interpersonal relationship. When others praise themselves, they have no vanity, but continue to do things better. Don't belittle others when they do something wrong.

The third realm: humility

Humility has a lower-key pursuit spirit than the first two, which is often reflected in knowledge. Modest people don't say grandiose and self-righteous words just because they are knowledgeable. No one in the world can understand everything, and knowledge is all-encompassing. We should learn from the strengths of others with an open mind. "In a threesome, there must be a teacher." This is a good example.

In addition, modesty is to dare to face and admit your own limitations and shortcomings, learn from the strengths of others, and not show off. Only in this way can we acquire real knowledge and enlighten our hearts.

Four realms: modesty.

Modesty is the highest of the four realms. It is about kindness, harmony and kindness except modesty. Modesty is the noblest person. As the saying goes, "Tao is born in quietness and leisure, and virtue is born in modesty and harmony." People in this realm are always friendly, they will treat others sincerely, help others, and even be willing to sacrifice their own interests in order to fulfill others.