As a result, the two brothers went to Canada, one engaged in real estate development and the other went to an investment bank. They overcame unimaginable difficulties, made companies and banks colorful and became outstanding figures in Canadian business circles. Li Ka-shing's "ruthlessness" pushed children to the road of self-reliance and cultivated their brave and unyielding character and character.
American President Roosevelt attached great importance to cultivating children's independent personality. He has a famous saying: "In front of my son, I am not the president, but the father." He objected that children depend on their parents to live a parasitic life. He let the children take care of themselves. James, the eldest son, traveled to Europe at the age of 20. Before he left, he bought a good horse and telegraphed his father for help.
Father called back and said, "You came back from swimming with your horse!" " "My son had to sell his horse to go home as a fare, and Roosevelt's four sons went to the front. When their father died, they all stuck to their respective warships and saw him off in this special way.
Ways to cultivate children's independence
1, cultivate children's habit of independent thinking
Parents can deliberately give their children an incomplete answer, let them think with their brains, get a satisfactory answer, or ask some questions to show that they can't solve it, and let them help. This will allow children to develop the ability of "independent thinking" naturally without knowing it.
2. Let children express their ideas in words.
Even if you know what your child wants to say, don't say it first, let alone express it for your child. Don't say such things. "Do you want to ...? ""will you go ...? ","You go ... "and so on, to avoid letting children just say" yes ","yes "and" good ".
3. Gradually change the child's dependence.
Give your child a job or role, give him responsibility, and encourage him when he finishes. Even a very young child will have the desire to solve problems without relying on others because of his sense of responsibility.
4, deliberately let children have a sense of self-reliance.
When you take your child to social activities, you must introduce the child to the guests, so that the child feels that he is an independent individual.
5. Be prepared to give the child to others for a period of time.
Children who leave their parents and familiar environment must work hard to adapt to the living habits of others. Sometimes in order to meet their own requirements, they have to take pains to explain or persuade, which is very useful for cultivating children's independence.