What is the pattern?

The book explains that pattern refers to the internal layout of a person's psychological elements such as vision, mind and courage.

It is often reflected in a person's feeling, attitude towards things and every word he says.

People who really have a pattern are measured in their words and deeds, measured in their actions and planned.

Liu Yu wrote in a letter to her daughter:

"Good luck, if not, I hope you learn to be strong in compassion; I hope many people love you. If not, I hope you can learn tolerance in loneliness. "

In a word, it shows the importance of tolerance in the journey of life.

I read a story about a wise man traveling with his friends. Walking on a steep cliff, the wise man slipped and almost fell off the cliff.

My friend was quick-sighted and caught him, avoiding bad luck.

After the wise man was saved, he recorded it on a stone. Subsequently, the two continued to accompany each other.

One day, two people quarreled fiercely because of disagreement. My friend lost control for a moment and even gave the wise man a slap in the face.

When both sides calmed down, the wise man wrote a friend's slap on the side of the land.

My friend doesn't understand: why don't you carve what I hit you on a stone?

The wise man replied:

I carve something I don't want to forget on a stone, and it will be firmly remembered by me.

As for those things I don't want to remember, I will write them on the land and disappear as soon as possible.

The wise man's words made many people think deeply.

When many people are hurt, they always cling to it and wait for an opportunity to get back at each other.

As everyone knows, bigotry deepened the pain, waited for opportunities and spread hatred.

Instead of indulging in the past, it is better to laugh and forget the enemy and shake hands when we meet.

The best way to avoid pain is tolerance.

Shen Congwen said: "See yourself with great joy and great sorrow, and see your friends with great ups and downs. Without a tolerant heart, you can't see a beautiful spring world. "

Tolerant people make others happy, and they are also happy; The villain makes others suffer, and he also suffers.

Your endurance in a difficult situation determines your height in life.

Franklin said, "What a man sows, he will reap." . If we treat others sincerely, others will treat us sincerely. "

There was once an entrepreneur with excellent ability, but at the stage of career development, due to the influence of the economic environment at that time, the company went bankrupt.

In desperation, he sold his mansion, moved to a small room, worked hard and looked around for new opportunities.

Running into the wall is a bit of a drain on his patience. Just as he was about to give up, he received a gift box.

A check and a piece of paper are attached to the gift box.

There is a sentence written on the paper: I was taken care of before, but now I have returned it several times.

It turns out that when the giver started his business, he also encountered financial difficulties.

When cornered, someone embezzled his property, and someone drew a line with him.

Many people are waiting to see his jokes when he is down and out.

For a time, relatives and friends have drawn a clear line with him, lest they avoid it.

Only the entrepreneur, who really treated him, extended a helping hand and helped him through the crisis.

Accept a drop of water when necessary, and I will repay your kindness with spring water.

Young entrepreneurs have made great achievements now and are grateful for their kindness. He traded his heart for truth.

Also tell entrepreneurs:

"I'm here today to repay your kindness. Opportunities in shopping centers change rapidly. You must cheer up and make a comeback. "

With this capital injection, entrepreneurs reorganized their companies and successfully weathered the crisis.

People often say:

In life, sincerity is a person's best feng shui. Every good tree you plant will eventually blossom and bear fruit.

Keep good thoughts in life and be sincere in doing things.

Be kind to others and treat others sincerely, and you will get the foundation of happiness.

A young man vowed to marry a girl.

The girl's family background is very good, and her father said to the outside world: When her daughter is 20 years old, she will definitely be married to the most famous warrior in Beijing.

The young man is in a hurry. In two years, the girl will be 20 years old, but her martial arts are still mediocre.

So, he went to worship the most powerful samurai in Beijing as a teacher, determined to study hard in these two years.

Unexpectedly, a few months before practicing martial arts, the young man was defeated every time he entered the competition.

He asked the master inexplicably, "I am determined to be the most famous warrior, but why can't I grow up in martial arts?"

The master replied, "You are a beginner and refuse to practice hard. Instead, you compete for fame. If this continues, you will only lose to others and be laughed at. "

If you want to be the most famous samurai, the first thing you should do is to practice martial arts quietly.

The young man listened and then stayed at home to practice martial arts. Two years later, many brave men came to challenge, but they all failed.

In this way, the boy's reputation is growing day by day, and the girl's father happily betrothed his daughter to him.

Read a sentence:

Life is a long road. If you stop for the sake of temporary interests, you will miss the more beautiful scenery ahead.

It is better to be quiet and pure, to pursue less results and to pay more attention to the process.

Maybe in the future, it will give you different surprises.

"No matter how urgent it is, we should take it slowly," said: "The infinite future depends on our present accumulation."

Take your time, take every step of the present, and do the present well, so that the future will not be a castle in the air.

A real estate agent shared an experience of looking at people.

He said that most rich people are quiet, have an aura and are generous to others.

Women are generally kind and generous. Men are usually taciturn, but efficient.

Moreover, most of their families have a characteristic: family harmony, no hurry, good at communication and problem solving.

Therefore, treating people with things, treating people with things, is often infiltrated into the bones.

What kind of cultivation a person has, what kind of pattern there is.

A person's pattern often determines his height in life.

I hope we can all become people with a big pattern, cultivate the tolerance of doing things and improve our manners, which is what live high wants.

Author | Zhou Meihao, the mountains and rivers are patchwork, and the fireworks on earth are as usual.

Image | vision china