? Once 30 years old was just a watershed for me, no different from other ages, but I didn't realize I was naive until I was 30 years old. When we are not 30 years old, we say that we are single, and others will say "Never mind, we are still young, take your time to find it". At the age of 30, when you say that you are single, the words become "still single, don't be too picky, just about it"; When we are not 30 years old, we say that the salary is not high, and others will say "I am still young and can support myself" in a friendly way. At the age of 30, we will say that the salary is not high, and others will ask, "Who are you talking about?" If you don't talk about it, the next sentence waiting for you is "the object has never been talked about, and the salary is not high." You can't do this "; Before the age of 30, we said that we would marry the person we like, and others would say in a friendly way, "If we get married, we must find someone who loves you and likes you." At the age of 30, when you say that you want to marry someone you like, the words become "getting married is one thing, rice, oil, salt and vinegar, whatever you like, just live, don't be too picky" ... I don't know which links are wrong? I wonder what is the reason for changing words according to age? It never occurred to me that when women reach the age of 30, they have already begun to be classified by others. I wrote this article with sadness and anger, and I want to speak for all the women who have crossed the 30-point divide like me. I can't accept some people's malicious discrimination against elderly women, and I can't accept all kinds of malicious labels that some people put on elderly women. I think that no matter what age a woman is, she should be good at herself, and don't make changes that are unfavorable to her because of the changes in her surrounding voices, adding a gloom to her life track.
Many discriminations are inseparable from this article, among which the most common ones are "fertility difficulties" and "elderly women". I'm not a doctor, so I don't know if this is true. I'm thinking, will a woman's physical condition really drop so much after she turns 30? Can't you have a normal life after 30 years old? First of all, I think everyone's physique is different. As long as you keep fit and improve your physical fitness, you can be healthy over 30. Besides, no matter how advanced technology is, it won't affect the normal birth of life when you get old, will it? Especially when I saw some video interviews, the topic revolved around "Who will you find as a girlfriend when you are over 30 years old and under 30 years old?" In fact, many men verbally discriminated against and mentally insulted more than 30 women, and only a few men objectively stated the facts. I wonder if this kind of video is a script written in advance. If not, I feel it is really a sad comedy.
Over 30 years old, without love and stable financial resources, they are classified as losers. Personally, I think this view is really unfair. Men in their twenties have no career because they have no good background, men in their thirties have no career because they are not lucky enough, and men in their forties have no career because they don't work hard enough. Why are women over the age of 30 labeled as "failure" if they are single and have no good income? Society itself is unfair, so we are willing to accept this unfairness. At the age of 30, we have no love and career, but we can't give up ourselves because of what others call failure. When I am 30 years old, I will take it as a new starting point. Starting today, I will improve myself and recharge myself. I believe that gold always shines. I will start to prepare for the moment when it shines and be a better self.
It doesn't matter if you don't get married after 30. Don't give up your insistence on marriage because of others. Personally, I think marriage is a very serious matter. In marriage, only with feelings can marriage be full of warmth and form a warm home, rather than cold and boring. In marriage, the need for material things is not money worship, but moderation in the amount of material things. If the amount exceeds, it is money worship. Material is the basic guarantee of a marriage, because in marriage life, we are faced with daily necessities, soy sauce and vinegar tea, all of which need material to maintain. If there is no certain material, then marriage will be buried in the quarrel of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Marriage is a happy home and a shelter from the wind. If marriage becomes the source of our pain, then leave it alone. Don't get married just to get married.
Borrowing a sentence from Li Jianjian in "In the Name of Home", "Garbage should stay in the trash can". Similarly, even if you are over 30 years old, don't look for a husband in the garbage. Don't believe the so-called wisdom such as "willing to take care of your family", "obedient" and "rich". In the eyes of the introducer, Ma Baonan is a typical "obedient", but it is very bad to establish a marriage relationship with Ma Baonan, which will make you exhausted; Domestic violence men are determined not to. One of the criteria to distinguish a domestic violence man is to look at the boy's temperament and whether he is irritable. Phoenix man can't have it, because in his eyes, family is the most important thing, and you will always be an outsider; People who have money and don't love you can't get it. If the man has money but doesn't want to send you flowers, he certainly doesn't love you and only gives you money but doesn't give you feelings. This marriage is also very painful.
Female compatriots over 30 years old, even though we are over 30 years old, are still qualified to be independent, confident, dignified and dignified. Don't be defeated and surrendered by all kinds of unfriendly words around us. Being single over the age of 30 doesn't mean looking for anyone casually; Having no career and feelings over the age of 30 does not mean that we have failed; There is no shame in not getting married after 30. You don't need to lower your marriage standards. You can't get married just to get married.
There are more and more leftover men and women now. Is it really worse for the leftover men and women? Actually, it is not. According to personal observation, there is a social paradox. Most women want to find a better man than themselves. A good woman wants to find a better man than herself; Generally speaking, men pursue beautiful or excellent women, while excellent men pursue better women ... The result of blind date is often that they look down on themselves, and those who take care of themselves look down on themselves. Sigh: it is really difficult to find someone in today's society! ! !