This sentence, "Don't marry a wife who helps your younger brother, and don't marry a Phoenix man" can be said to be a wise saying about contemporary marriage.

It’s not that people are biased against these two types of people, but people who have experienced them have proven that there are huge troubles hidden behind them.

Phoenix men refer to men who were born into poverty but work hard. They possess perseverance and relatively outstanding abilities. It seems that just from this point of view, they are enough to be loved by women.

However, everything has two sides. The influence of the native environment makes these Phoenix men more or less have some shortcomings, such as inferiority complex, lack of face, machismo, etc. These shortcomings may be big or small, but they can affect the relationship between a couple.

Furthermore, the reason why women resist Phoenix men is because they can’t handle it clearly. Between family affection and love, between his original family and marriage, he always blindly sides with his relatives and chooses to wrong his lover.

Do women dare to marry such a man?

Before discussing marriage, Chen Xiao always thought that her choice was the right one. My boyfriend has good external conditions, strong working ability, and he is very fond of himself. Apart from being a bit stingy, he can be called a perfect man. The two have been in love for three years and are heading towards marriage. No matter how you look at it, there will be a perfect solution.

But when it came to the wedding day, her boyfriend still let her down. Chen Xiao knew that her boyfriend's family was not well off, so she never thought of asking him for a bride price, nor did she ask him to buy a wedding house. She felt that all this would happen in the future, so there was no rush to get it now.

But what Chen Xiao didn’t expect was that her boyfriend actually asked her to buy a wedding house in full and give her a dowry of 500,000 yuan. He said: "Your family is rich, and your uncle and aunt only have a daughter. They should give you more when you get married."

Chen Xiao's family has excellent conditions, and both parents have achieved success in their respective fields. Although it is not considered to be rich and powerful, at least it means that you don't have to worry about life. But this does not mean that Chen Xiao's parents are obliged to buy this large dowry for Chen Xiao.

Chen Xiao herself was unwilling: "My parents' money is their business and has nothing to do with us. Besides, if they get married and give a dowry, it's all they want. There's nothing wrong with it."

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But the boyfriend obviously couldn't understand this idea. He kept trying to persuade Chen Xiao: "Isn't your parents' money all yours in the future? If you give more now, what's wrong?"< /p>

The way her boyfriend was begging for help made Chen Xiao feel strange. She felt very irritated, but thinking that the other person was her beloved man, she still had the patience to explain to him. She said that her parents had already bought the house and had already written her name on it. But a deposit of 500,000 yuan as a dowry is obviously too much.

In fact, at this time, the two people had already had conflicts. When her boyfriend said that the 500,000 yuan was pension money for his mother, Chen Xiao became completely angry.

She didn’t understand the connection. She was just getting married, so why should she give 500,000 to her future mother-in-law? Elderly care, is this really what it is?

Chen Xiao's boyfriend has his own reasons. Facing Chen Xiao's anger, he said aggrievedly: "It's not easy for my mother to raise me to be a talented person. Is it too much to give him 500,000? You You are about to marry me, why can’t you think about it for me?”

Chen Xiao really wanted to say, if you just use your own money to support your mother in her old age, that’s not too much, it’s still very good. Filial piety. But if you decide on someone else, that would be shameless.

But after thinking about it, Chen Xiao did not say these words. In order to take care of her relationship for so many years, she chose to leave a trace of face for him and simply broke up with her boyfriend.

Talk about marriage is a threshold that almost every couple will encounter.

Some couples understand each other and finally get together successfully. And some men and women are full of calculations before they get married, trying to gain benefits from each other. Such two people, even if they finally become husband and wife, cannot last long.

Whether it is a high betrothal gift or a dowry, it is actually not advisable. This is just a little thought from my parents, a blessing and support for two people and a small family. If you blindly ask the other party to give high-priced gifts or dowry, then the marriage will change.

It is indeed hard for Phoenix Man to get ahead by virtue of his own abilities, and he also needs to thank his parents for their training and care. But if you want to be filial to your parents, you still need to rely on your own abilities.

You are almost successful, why can't you wait patiently and use your own efforts to repay your parents? Putting your thoughts on your wife's head and using the abilities of your father-in-law and mother-in-law to give back to your parents is not filial, it is shameless.

Marriage is not a business. It does require talking about reality, but it cannot be too concerned about gains and losses. Although husband and wife are their own people, they cannot take each other for granted.

The best marriage requires not only mutual respect between husband and wife, but also self-respect and self-reliance.